How To Prevent Sexual Assault Katie Eichele, Interim Director The Aurora Center for Advocacy & Education & Meredith Martyr, Graduate Assistant Fraternity & Sorority Life

“Talk It Out” The Aurora Center Sexual Assault * Relationship Violence * Stalking

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Definitions Sexual Assault: Any sexual contact (including, but not limited to sexual intercourse) when such contact is achieved without consent; or with the use of force, coercion, deception, or threat. Rape is sexual intercourse that is achieved without consent or with the use of force. University of Minnesota Sexual Assault/Relationship Violence Policy (Academic/Administrative Policy 2.3.6)

Definitions Consent: Informed, freely and actively given, and mutually understood. If physical force, coercion, intimidation, and /or threats are used, there is no consent. There is no consent if victim/survivor is mentally or physically incapacitated or impaired Includes conditions due to alcohol or drug consumption, being asleep or unconscious University of Minnesota Sexual Assault/Relationship Violence Policy (Academic/Administrative Policy 2.3.6)

Has a Sexual Assault Occurred? 1. Sally is out with a group of friends who are consuming alcohol. Sally is flirting with Hayden. Later that night, the group head’s back to Sally’s house. Sally passes out on the couch. She wakes up later to find Hayden having sex with her. 2. Jordan’s boyfriend keeps asking for sex one night. Jordan says no several times, but finally after 7 requests from the boyfriend, Jordan gives in.

National Statistics RAPE: 1 in 5 women 1 in 71 men INTIMATE PARTNER VIOLENCE – physical: 1 in 4 women 1 in 7 men STALKING: 1 in 6 women 1 in 19 men CDC’s National intimate Partner & Sexual Violence Survey, 2010.

College Statistics 1 in 4-5 college women experience rape or attempted rape while in college. 90% of college rapes committed by an Acquaintance Only 5% of rape victims report to the Police National Institute of Justice The Sexual Victimization of College Women, by Fisher, Cullen,. Turner. UofM students who experience sexual assault in their life: 23.5% Women 4.9% Men 2010 UofM College Student Health Survey

Power & Control Wheel

Sexual Assault: College Considerations Shared Living Quarters Shared Student Activities Shared Classroom/Academic Issues Shared Social Groups Concern for their “friend” Don’t want parents to find out

Recognition that an assault occurred Shame or blame Not believed/Confidentiality Retaliation Don’t “tell on” friend, family member, caregiver Isolation Financial, physical, or emotional dependency Heard about someone who told, received no justice Barriers to Disclosing

Understanding Trauma Awareness Test

Myths about Sexual Assault Alcohol consumption equals permission “Asks for it” when dressed like a “slut” The primary motive for rape is sexual Women lie about rape Most sexual assaults are committed by strangers Men can’t stop their sexual urges “No” means “yes” or “try harder” Acquaintance rapes are spontaneous or due to lack of communication

Gauging Consent Stop Stop : Too intoxicated/Passed out Silence On a mission to “score” Caution Caution : Mixed signals Haven’t talked about how “far” to go. Assume you’ll do the same as last time Hesitation Go Go : Keep communicating You both feel comfortable and safe stopping anytime. Everyone’s turned on.

Sexual Consent Form

Model of Prevention

Campus Sexual Assault Response Protocol University Police Aurora Center Housing & Residential Life University Health Services University Student Conduct Fraternity & Sorority Life University Counseling Athletics Equal Opportunity & Affirmative Action GLBT Programs Office Women’s Center

Promising Practices on Campuses 1. Prevention Programs – Orientation skits, Green Dot, Step Up, Bystander program 2. Sexual Assault Policy – reader friendly, accessible 3. Reporting Policy – v/s participate in decision steps 4. Investigation Protocol – Access to Medical Exam - SANE 5. Adjudication Guidelines – v/s and accused rights 6. Victim Support Services – advocacy services

Recap 1. Definitions & Stats 2. Prevention Models 3. Impact on Students 4. Myths 5. Consent 6. Sexual Assault Response Protocol

Questions? Katie Eichele Meredith Martyr