Ministry of Peacemaking on the Canterbury trail Ministry of Peacemaking on the Canterbury trail Bishop-elect Trevor Walters

A Theological framework Eden: a place of harmonious relationships Eden: a place of harmonious relationships Community existed between God and Adam and EveCommunity existed between God and Adam and Eve Adam and Eve have community with their offspringAdam and Eve have community with their offspring Mirrors relationships in heaven amongst TrinityMirrors relationships in heaven amongst Trinity

Mediations beginning Eve ate the apple in disobedience and broke the harmonious relationships Eve ate the apple in disobedience and broke the harmonious relationships Vertical: Adam and Eve hid from God Vertical: Adam and Eve hid from God Horizontal: Serpent : “ I will put enmity between you and your offspring” Horizontal: Serpent : “ I will put enmity between you and your offspring”

Brokenness radiates out through Book of Genesis

God initiates Mediation God chooses Zadok and Aaron Priest and High Priest to minister as mediators through whom sacrifices were offered. God chooses Zadok and Aaron Priest and High Priest to minister as mediators through whom sacrifices were offered. The mediators were also signs that God was faithful to His Covenant promises with Israel The mediators were also signs that God was faithful to His Covenant promises with Israel

The New Covenant A new mediator who stands between God and his disobedient people. A new mediator who stands between God and his disobedient people. We are now all Priests called to offer the sacrifice of praise and We are now all Priests called to offer the sacrifice of praise and To serve as reconcilers and peace makers To serve as reconcilers and peace makers

BEATITUDES: Blessed are the Peacemakers for they shall be called the children of God

Levels of healthy relationships A. RespectA. Respect B. TrustB. Trust C. CooperationC. Cooperation D. ForgivenessD. Forgiveness E. CommunionE. Communion

Objectives re Enmity(conflict) A. Stop the fighting A. Stop the fighting B. Restore productivity B. Restore productivity C. Restore the Institutions vision C. Restore the Institutions vision D. Restore worship D. Restore worship E. Restore relationship E. Restore relationship

Process of Mediation 1. Invite warring parties to meet 1. Invite warring parties to meet 2. Name what the parties have in common. 2. Name what the parties have in common. 3. Get the parties to name the problem from their own perspective. 3. Get the parties to name the problem from their own perspective. 4. Clarify and Paraphrase the positions 4. Clarify and Paraphrase the positions

Process cont. 5. Caucus: 5. Caucus: Indentify the strengths and weaknesses of their positionsIndentify the strengths and weaknesses of their positions Invite them to propose an offer to settle.Invite them to propose an offer to settle. Clarify several times what you believe to be the offer. Seek permission as to what you can disclose.Clarify several times what you believe to be the offer. Seek permission as to what you can disclose.

6. Present the offer. 6. Present the offer. Seek a response Seek a response Do not soften the blow if it is not what is hoped for. 7. Explore options regarding a response.

Strategies to assist resolution 1. Bracketing: 1. Bracketing:  Party A. Best to worst settlement 20,000 – 150,000  Party B. Best to worst settlements ,000  Bracket 20,000-30,000 is where we work

Advantages of Bracketing Saves hours of shuttle diplomacy of offers inching up on one side and down on the other. Saves hours of shuttle diplomacy of offers inching up on one side and down on the other. Lets us know quickly whether a settlement might be in reach Lets us know quickly whether a settlement might be in reach

Parish based application Church musicians feuding over how many Sundays they get per month. Church musicians feuding over how many Sundays they get per month. Person A asked what would be the minimum nos. of Sundays you’d be prepared to play in a three month cycle. What about the most in three months Person A asked what would be the minimum nos. of Sundays you’d be prepared to play in a three month cycle. What about the most in three months Repeat with Person B. Repeat with Person B.

Bracketing cont. Results: Results: Person A: 5-10Person A: 5-10 Person B: 8-15Person B: 8-15 Bracket overlap 8-10 Variance now depends on your own vision and values for the music ministry. One is not confined to the bracket but you know the margins of tolerance

Quid pro Quo Something exchanged for something else that is different but equivalent in effort/ value/ inconvenience/ time etc. Something exchanged for something else that is different but equivalent in effort/ value/ inconvenience/ time etc. What is the one thing you would like your partner to change. What is the one thing you would like your partner to change. Does this exchange look fair just equitable acceptable. Does this exchange look fair just equitable acceptable.

Not acceptable What needs to be modified to get acceptance:- What needs to be modified to get acceptance:- Add in something else Add in something else Add number of occurrences on one side. Add number of occurrences on one side.  1x back rub is worth x2 cooked meals

Compromise Takes half of one solution and half of another/ one meets in the middle Takes half of one solution and half of another/ one meets in the middle Disadvantages:Disadvantages:  Half of a good solution married to half a bad soln.  Lacks creativity and problem solving strategy

Compromise cont. Advantage:Advantage: Breaks deadlock if all else fails Breaks deadlock if all else fails Appears to be fair!!! Appears to be fair!!!

Key learning 1. Do not take responsibility for the outcome. Outcome is in the hands of the two people versus you or another as judge. 1. Do not take responsibility for the outcome. Outcome is in the hands of the two people versus you or another as judge. Your job is to remain impartialYour job is to remain impartial Work hard at actively listeningWork hard at actively listening Maintain trust and confidentialityMaintain trust and confidentiality Provide creative optionsProvide creative options Evaluate strengths and weakness of positionsEvaluate strengths and weakness of positions

Key learning 2 Discern when a crisis is not a crisis Discern when a crisis is not a crisis Do not rescueDo not rescue Let the stress of the moment propel people into action.Let the stress of the moment propel people into action. Put into perspective this challenge versus alternative worst case scenariosPut into perspective this challenge versus alternative worst case scenarios