NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality Arline Davis Pathways to the Future Congress August 2008

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality Conviviality is An approach to life’s relationships

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality I am a mobile link We are organisms that actively move in the landscape and connect habitats in space and time. We provide cross-pollination, seed dispersal, and pest control. Biologists say we are essential components in the dynamics of ecosystem development and ecosystem resilience. Bindegliedarten

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality Thought to Action Coaching Cycle© © NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação (Evaluation ) (New Cycle) Evaluation Foundations Formulation Implementation Transformation Consolidation

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality The Wheel of Life – Resourceful Relationships Enviroment & Personal Organization Finances Health & Well being Career Relationships Personal development Spirituality Leisure

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality Otherness What is Otherness? It is the capability of recognizing the other as a legitimate other, in his completeness, his dignity, his rights, and above all, his differences.

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality Otherness The existence of the “individual I” is only allowed by contact with the “other” Or, as Gregory Bateson put it, “It takes two to know one”.

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality Where and When? Rio de Janeiro, 2002

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality Who? Mostly engineers and therapists Ivan Illich Martin Buber Maturana e Varela

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality R.E.D.E. The Network for Education, Gifts and Expression 3rd sector

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality For Whom?

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality Cultural Creatives

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality The relationship of “I” with “Other” (people, society, nature, the market place, our planet) can take on different forms depending on the perspective of “I”. “Other” “I”

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality “I” the agent and the “other” as the object. There is a separation of the “I” that stands before the “other”. This can be healthy. Land based tribe – tree as a canoe or wood for the fire, White Elk as the warrior Sunset as beautiful sight – “Look at that beautiful sunset.”

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality And there is also a oneness: in seeing the other, we can see ourselves. If not, we stop being human beings and start becoming just strategy machines for the use and the consumption of others.

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality The relationship of “I”-“other” is a duality, separation and wholeness alternate all the time. Conviviality is exactly that – a healthy alternation.

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality In a convival relationship, the Other is seen as an equal, stablishing a sense of respect, openess and caring. Conviviality is becoming present to the other – in all meanings that this word allows.

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality However, there is a risk of forgetting little by little that we belong to the whole. Without balance from wholeness, separation degrades to utilitarism. In an utilitarian relationship, the I subordinates the Other to his interests and personal goals. The other is reduced to an object, an instrument; control prevails.

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality “Instrumentalization”

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality The other as a legitimate other

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality Conviviality is an attitude Not allowing the other to be reduced to an object or instrument to fulfill self interests Being present for the other Of recognizing oneself in the other So that through indentification comes respect, openess and care

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality Our Conviviality Stories

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality Recognize and affirm that: Limitations, contradictions and incoherence are inherent to the human condition and are part of the process of development. Cooperation is human nature Life is self-organizing Conviviality Principles

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality Conviviality Practices Sharing of information and knowledge results in the well-being of all We will freely and fully share the Conviviality principles and information pertaining to Mission and Principles.

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality Dimensions of Conviviality I Myself Other Marketplace Society Nature Spirit

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality How do you get there? By living it and practicing it.

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality Conviviality Practices We intend to: Practice Conviviality Practice a permanent ethical reflexion Practice and promote volunteerism Respect, value and preserve human individuality Invest in the potential of newness which resides in diversity

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality Conviviality Practices We intend to: Strive to preserve the interdependent diversity of individuals, communities, institutions and culture Endorse people’s autonomy and initiative Solve conflicts by creativity and cooperation, without resorting to any form of violence, whether that be psychological, economical, social ou physical

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality Dialogue – David Bohm Free flow of meaning within the group Wisdom comes when we can sit down together and discuss our differences without having to do anything about it. Gregory Bateson

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality Tonight is a good night to dance.

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality What the hummingbird taught the researcher. Augusto Ruschi

NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação Coaching and Conviviality Thank you!