Feelings, Attitudes, Self & Others Where does all this stuff come from and can I control where it will go?

Feelings, Attitudes, Self & Others Objectives: Grasp a workable concept of emotions. Understand source of emotions Determine where a person has real control

Feelings, Attitudes, Self & Others Primary emotions (feelings) Anger Depression Happiness Secondary emotions (feelings) Fear Guilt Etc.

Feelings, Attitudes, Self & Others Anger The problem-solving emotion Only happens when there is a problem Always accompanied by energy Time limited

Feelings, Attitudes, Self & Others Depression The problem-generating emotion Not time limited Circular, downward thinking Low external energy Often accompanied by passive-aggressive behavior

Feelings, Attitudes, Self & Others Happiness Long term or short term High or Low energy May be difficult to tolerate

Feelings, Attitudes, Self & Others Where do emotions come from? Emotions Expectations

Feelings, Attitudes, Self & Others Changing or adjusting expectations: Is expectation realistic? Was expectation communicated? Is there a conflict of expectations?

Feelings, Attitudes, Self & Others Where do expectations come from? Emotions Expectations Values

Feelings, Attitudes, Self & Others Values are learned (some may be intrinsic) Learned through absorption Learned through integration Learned through observation Values are always changing, but changes are usually very slow The main problem with values is we develop too many