Emma Espel

United States Marriage for LOVE Marriage for LOVE Groom may ask brides parents out of courtesy Groom may ask brides parents out of courtesy Wedding planner Wedding planner Brides family pays Brides family pays

Ceremonies Bridal Shower Bridal Shower Rehearsal Dinner Rehearsal Dinner Ceremony Ceremony Reception Reception *Honeymoon *Honeymoon

The Wedding Usually in a religious setting Usually in a religious setting Mainly Christian in the US Mainly Christian in the US White wedding dress/veil White wedding dress/veil Religious leader Religious leader

The Wedding (Contd) The wedding party The wedding party Ushers, Brides maid, Best man, Flower girls, Ring bearer, Music Ushers, Brides maid, Best man, Flower girls, Ring bearer, Music Wedding vows Wedding vows Exchange of rings Exchange of rings Kiss Kiss Wheat or rice Wheat or rice

Reception Guestbook Guestbook Food Food Greet the couple Greet the couple Dancing Dancing

Guests Family and friends Family and friends Gifts from registries or money Gifts from registries or money Dress up Dress up Some only come to the reception Some only come to the reception

Indonesia Each clan is different! Each clan is different! Marriage symbolizes full adult status Marriage symbolizes full adult status Before the Wedding Before the Wedding Parents arrange OR Parents arrange OR Marriage for love Marriage for love Supports kinship Supports kinship Many gift exchanges occur Many gift exchanges occur

Java, Indonesia Arrangement of Marriage The greater the social status, the greater chance of arranged marriage. The grooms family usually stays out of all of the organization. Sometimes there is a make-up woman, who is like a wedding planner (Pemaes)

Ceremonies Traditional engagement Traditional engagement Bathing ceremony Bathing ceremony Relatives all meet the night before at the brides home. Relatives all meet the night before at the brides home. Wedding Ceremony Wedding Ceremony Reception Reception

The Wedding The bride and groom approach each other The bride and groom approach each other Throw bundles of betel leaves Throw bundles of betel leaves Groom crushes an egg, and the bride washes his feet Groom crushes an egg, and the bride washes his feet Wedding chair Wedding chair Couple sits on the lap of the grooms father. Couple sits on the lap of the grooms father. Then the couple sits in the chair. Then the couple sits in the chair.

Wedding (contd) Exchange of wedding rings Exchange of wedding rings The bride gets certain gifts from the groom. The bride gets certain gifts from the groom. They eat and drink together They eat and drink together The couple kneels and the parents bless them The couple kneels and the parents bless them

Guests Weddings are for everyone! Weddings are for everyone! Fancy invitations. Fancy invitations. Asks not to bring flowers or gifts Asks not to bring flowers or gifts It is an insult not to attend It is an insult not to attend Most people come only to the reception. Most people come only to the reception. Guests dress nicely Guests dress nicely

Reception Guests arrive at the reception after the wedding. Guests arrive at the reception after the wedding. Dancers precede the couple Dancers precede the couple Family speeches Family speeches The guests greet the couple and eat The guests greet the couple and eat Alcohol and dancing are considered rude Alcohol and dancing are considered rude

Java vs. United States Both have: Both have: Differences across the board Differences across the board Brides family does a lot of the planning Brides family does a lot of the planning A wedding planner A wedding planner Parents give away the couple Parents give away the couple Wedding Rings Wedding Rings

Java vs. United States United States Full adult status at 18 No chair Gifts from registry or money Friends and family Dancing, alcohol at reception Many shorter speeches Java full adult status Arranged marriage Only money gifts Everyone invited Entertainment is dancers Long speeches