Chapter 7 Preventing Violence

Violence: the threat of or actual use of physical force against oneself or another person. Victim: the person who is attacked Assailant: a person who attacks another person Costs of Violence To the Victim: injury , death, emotional scars To the Assailant: guilt, fear of revenge, criminal charges To Society: financial costs, emotional costs, fear of violence **Risk Factors for violence include poverty, family violence, exposure to media violence, weapon availability, drug abuse and gang membership.

Other: What are other types of violence that could occur in schools? Violence in Schools Harassment: unwanted remarks or actions that cause a person emotional or physical harm. Bullying: the use of threats or physical force to intimidate and control another person. Cyberbullying: bullying that takes place by e-mail, instant messaging, text messaging, or on websites. Hazing: requiring a person to do degrading, risky, or illegal acts in order to join a group. Sexual Harassment: any uninvited and unwelcome sexual remark or sexual advance. Other: What are other types of violence that could occur in schools? Violence in Schools

Don’t reward a bully with positive attention. Speak up 5 Ways to Stop Bullying Don’t make jokes at others’ expense or single out a person for exclusion. Don’t reward a bully with positive attention. Speak up Don’t believe or spread rumors. Reach out to students who seem isolated. 5 Ways to Stop Bullying Don’t make jokes at others’ expense or single out a person for exclusion. Don’t reward a bully with positive attention. Speak up Don’t believe or spread rumors. Reach out to students who seem isolated. 4 Ways to Stop Sexual Harassment Speak up assertively when you feel disrespected. Use refusal skils to reject unwanted sexual advances. Avoid being alone with someone you don’t trust. Report sexual harassment to an adult.

4 Ways to Stop Sexual Harassment Speak up assertively when you feel disrespected. Use refusal skills to reject unwanted sexual advances. Avoid being alone with someone you don’t trust. Report sexual harassment to an adult.

Prejudice: negative feelings about a group based on stereotypes. Hate Violence Hate violence: speech or behavior that is aimed at a person or group based on personal characteristics. Prejudice: negative feelings about a group based on stereotypes. Stereotype: an exaggerated belief or overgeneralization about an entire group of people. What are some stereotypes you can think of ? Intolerance: a lack of acceptance of another person’s opinions, beliefs, or actions. Discrimination: the unfair treatment of a person or group based on prejudice. Vandalism: intentionally damaging or destroying another person’s property. Hate Violence

In your groups I want you to discuss the question: Reducing Intolerance In your groups I want you to discuss the question: What do you think leads people to be prejudice, intolerant, discriminatory, etc? ***The most effective way to deal with violence based on hate is through education.*** Reducing Intolerance

Address intolerance at school. Working together develop a creative way to address intolerance at school. Use artwork, a poem, a poster, etc. to display your idea. Your work will be handed in for a Chapter 7 class work grade. Make sure all group members names and period are on the work. Address intolerance at school. Working together develop a creative way to address intolerance at school. Use artwork, a poem, a skit, etc. Your work will be handed in for a classwork grade.

Chapter 7-3 : How Fights Start There are 4 ways that fights can start: Arguments – Revenge – Peer Pressure - Control Two factors that lead to arguments: Anger Hurt pride and embarrassment Revenge – the desire for revenge leads to a dangerous cycle of fighting. Escalate – grow more intense Have you ever had a fight to settle an argument? Did the fight settle thing? Why or Why not? Chapter 7-3 : How Fights Start Two factors that lead to arguments: Anger Hurt pride and embarrassment Revenge – the desire for revenge leads to a dangerous cycle of fighting. Escalate – grow more intense Have you ever had a fight to settle an argument? Did the fight settle thing? Why or Why not?

Describe the roles of the following in fights: Have you even been an instigator in a fight? If so, why did you encourage the other person to fight? Peer Pressure -Instigator – person who encourages fighting between others while staying out of the fight themselves. Roles: Describe the roles of the following in fights: Friends – may urge you to fight Bystanders – may gather hoping to see a fight Control What is the main reason for domestic violence and dating violence? the desire to have control over another Reasons why a victim may not fight back: - fear that the violence will escalate - they believe they deserve to be hit Others??? Have you even been an instigator in a fight? If so, why did you encourage the other person to fight? Instigator – person who encourages fighting between others while staying out of the fight themselves. Roles: Describe the roles of the following in fights: Friends Bystanders What is the main reason for domestic violence and dating violence? the desire to have control over another

4 approaches to resolving conflicts Choosing Not to Fight Once you recognize that a conflict exists there are two general approaches you can take. Ignore the conflict or you can confront the person. Ignoring a Conflict Five Tips that can help you decide when to ignore a conflict. You will probably never see the person again. The person or issue isn’t very important to you. The conflict is based on rumors that can be overlooked. The conflict is about something trivial or silly. A person tries to get you in trouble by provoking a fight. When Ignoring a Conflict you need to: Be flexible – your safety should always be your first concern. Learn to control your anger – you might overreact to a situation When Ignoring a Conflict you need to: Be flexible – your safety should always be your first concern. Learn to control your anger – you might overreact to a situation

3. Confronting A Person Wisely – 3 general steps 1. Choose time and place wisely 2. Stay Calm 3. Negotiate a solution. Helping Others to Avoid Fights - You can help prevent fighting through mediation, through your role as a bystander, and by involving an adult. Mediation – a process for resolving conflicts that involves a neutral third party. Tips for Mediators: Listen to people who are hurt. Help to correct unfair situations. Praise can be helpful to those involved. Do not use put downs of any kind. Strategies bystanders can use to prevent fights: a. Ignore those people who make negative remarks about other people. b. Refuse to spread rumors. c. Do not relay a threat or insult from one person to another. d. Stay away from any area where you expect a fight could take place. Helping Others to Avoid Fights - You can help prevent fighting through mediation, through your role as a bystander, and by involving an adult. Mediation – a process for resolving conflicts that involves a neutral third party. Strategies bystanders can use to prevent fights: a. Ignore those people who make negative remarks about other people. b. Refuse to spread rumors. c. Do not relay a threat or insult from one person to another. d. Stay away from any area where you expect a fight could take place. Tips for Mediators: Listen to people who are hurt. Help to correct unfair situations. Praise can be helpful to those involved. Do not use put downs of any kind.