THE POWER OF POSITIVE REGARD Karyn Harvey, Ph.D.

The Effects of Exclusion – Computer game study The Effects of Rejection- Photo of ex’s study Think of someone who Accepts you as you are !

Unconditional Positive Regard The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change. Carl Rogers

The Power of Positive Regard  Mice and Bob Rosenthal  Signs were put up for experimenters “Smart Rats” “Dumb Rats” – All rats were actually the same  Experimenters had rats run mazes –  Big difference between the performances – Smart rats ran mazes twice as fast!!

Carol Dwek, Ph.d. “How you see someone determines how they are able to see themselves!” Teachers who thought they had gifted children got a significantly better performance from classes they were told were “average”. Even though they were the same!

The POWER OF “NOT YET”!  Flip the script to the greatness of the PROCESS  What hasn’t been accomplished yet instead of what has been failed at  Effort IS Achievement!  Hope trumps everything  Do we shut people down By being too goal oriented?

“ASSUME INTELLIGENCE” William Stillman

Multiple types of Intelligence – Dr. Howard Gardner  Visual-Spatial - think in terms of physical space, as do architects and sailors. Very aware of their environments. They like to draw, do jigsaw puzzles, read maps, daydream.  Bodily-kinesthetic - use the body effectively, like a dancer or a surgeon. Keen sense of body awareness. They like movement, making things, touching. They communicate well through body language.  Musical - show sensitivity to rhythm and sound. They love music, but they are also sensitive to sounds in their environments.

 Interpersonal - understanding, interacting with others. They have many friends, empathy for others, awareness of others. Great with people and animals!  Intrapersonal - understanding one's own interests, goals. They tend to shy away from others. They're in tune with their inner feelings; they have wisdom, intuition and self motivation  Linguistic - using words effectively. These learners have highly developed auditory skills and often think in words. They like reading, playing word games, making up poetry or stories. They love to talk!  Logical -Mathematical - reasoning, calculating. Numbers make more sense than words! They like to order things and understand things in sequences.

Daniel Kish

Who is This?

Finding Your Purpose!

Resiliency Studies

The Ingredients for Positive Regard 1.Positive Regard:BELIEVE!  Language of Positive Regard  Provide Opportunities for Growth  Praise Character 2.LISTEN!  Sit down and listen to me for 10 minutes every day!  Let the person get it all out before you give advice! 3. COACH!  Use a coaching or mentoring model  Respect individuals while fostering skills  Encourage and praise efforts!

Focus on WHO a person is – Not WHAT a person is! No one wants to be a label!

Thank You So Much, All of you Wonderful People!! Materials at: Pid.thenadd.org Books at Amazon.com