The habits of highly effective people

2 Habits have a tremendous gravity pull

3 Lift off takes a lot of effort, but once we break out of the gravity pull, our freedom takes on a whole new dimension

4 Ready for take off ?

5 “You are respons-able: able to choose your respons!” Habit 1: Be proactive

6 Circle of Concern Circle of influence We have a wide range of concerns, but not all of them fall into our circle of influence

7 “Proactive people focus their efforts in their circle of influence, causing the circle of influence to increase Reactive people focus their effort in the circle of concern. The negative energy generated by that focus causes the circle of influence to shrink”

8 “Anytime we think the problem is out there, that thought is the problem”

9 You can choose your language Reactive: I must If only They made me If I had Proactive: I prefer I will I choose I can be

10 Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind

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12 The key to the ability to change is a changeless sense of who you are, what you are about and what you value

13 Is the script you are living in harmony with your values?

14 Habit 3: Put first things first

15 The key to time management is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule but to schedule your priorities

16 It’s almost impossible to say NO to the popularity of urgent, non important matters, if you don’t have a bigger YES burning inside

17 “Things which matter most should never be at the mercy of things which matter least” Goethe

18 Habit 4: Think Win/win

19 “You can only achieve win/win solutions with win/win processes”

20 It’s not your way or my way, it’s a better way

21 Habit 5: Seek first to understand, then to be understood

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23 “We have such a tendency to fix things up with good advice, but often we fail to take the time to diagnose, to really deeply understand another human being first”

24 Reading your own autobiography into other people’s lives is nót (even close to) listening

25 Habit 6: Synergize “The whole is greater than the sum of its parts”

26 “When we are left to our own experiences, we constantly suffer from a shortage of data”

27 “The person who is truly effective has the humility to recognize his own perceptual limitations and to appreciate the rich resources available through interaction with the hearts and minds of other human beings”

28 In order to have influence, you have to open yourself up to bé influenced

29 Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

30 Read, write, relax, exercise, play, love, get involved, meditate …

31 “Sometimes when I consider what tremendous consequences come from little things … I am tempted to think … there are no little things” Bruce Barton

32 The end

33  Are you able to change important areas of your life?  Are you just living day to day, or toward a hope?  Do you prioritize your time and energy well?  How often do you feel bullied by others?  Do you understand others... and vice versa?  What are your unique talents? Are they important?  Does your life often feel “out of balance”? Be a Champion of Change with the 7 Habits  What does “success” mean to you? (family, friends, community, hobby, career, faith)  What is required to obtain that success?

34 Are you willing to change course? Two battleships assigned to the training squadron had been at sea on maneuvers in heavy weather for several days. I was serving on the lead battleship and was on watch on the bridge as night fell. The visibility was poor with patchy fog, so the captain remained on the bridge keeping an eye on all activities. Shortly after dark, the lookout on the wing of the bridge reported, “Light, bearing on the starboard bow.” “Is it steady or moving astern?” the captain called out. Lookout replied, “Steady, captain,” which meant we were on a dangerous collision course with that ship. The captain then called to the signalman, “Signal that ship: We are on a collision course, advise you to change course 20 degrees.” Back came a signal, “Advisable for you to change course 20 degrees.” The captain said, “Send, I’m a captain, change course 20 degrees.” “I’m a navy officer second class,” came the reply. “You had better change course 20 degrees.” By that time the captain was furious. He spat out, “Send, I’m a battleship. Change course 20 degrees.” Back came the flashing light, “I’m a lighthouse.” We changed course. Will you crash against the principles... or change course?

35 The 7 Habits... an overview. 7 Sharpen saw Independence Interdependence PUBLIC VICTORY Think win-win 4 Understand 5 Synergize 6 habit = knowledge + skill + desire Dependence 1 Be Proactive PRIVATE VICTORY 2 End in mind 3 1 st things 1 st

36 Principles Embodied in the 7 Habits Behavior is governed by values. Consequences are governed by principles. Therefore, value principles. 1. Be Proactive: Responsibility/Initiative 2. Begin with the End in Mind: Vision/Values 3. Put First Things First: Integrity/Execution 4. Think Win-Win: Mutual Respect/Benefit 5. Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood:Mutual Understanding 6. Synergize: Creative Cooperation 7. Sharpen the Saw: Renewal

37 Public Victory Private Victory Dependence Independence Interdependence  Sharpen the Saw  Think Win-Win  Synergize  Seek First to Understand, Then be Understood  Begin with the End in Mind  Be Proactive  Put First Things First The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

38 Freedom to Choose Self-Awareness Imagination Conscience Independent Will Proactive Stimulus Response Reactive StimulusResponse (Heart) (Mind) (Spirit) (Body) Stimulus and Response

39 Freedom to Choose Stimulus Response Personal Level (Muscle Development) Stimulus Response Relationship Level (Skill Development) Stimulus Response Organizational Level (Team / System Development) Stimulus Response Human Need Level (Competitive Play) (Home Place/Work Place/Marketplace/Community/etc.) Stimulus and Response

40 Your Job Circle of Influence

41 Reactive Focus Wait Until Told (Co-dependent) Your Job Circle of Influence

42 Proactive Focus Your Job Circle of Influence

43 Your Job Ask “I intend to” Do it and report periodically Do it and report immediately Make a Recommendation Do it Wait Until Told

44  Trivia, busywork  Some phone calls  Time wasters  “Escape” activities  Irrelevant mail  Excessive TV  Crises  Pressing problems  Deadline-driven projects, meetings, preparations  Needless interruptions  Unnecessary reports  Unimportant meetings, phone calls, mail  Other people’s minor issues  Planning, Prevention  PC activities  Recognizing new opportunities  Relationship Building  Renewal, Recreation Quadrant II Time Management ™ UrgentNot Urgent Not Important Important Habits 1-7 I II III IV

45 The Level 5 Hierarchy LEVEL 1 Highly Capable Individual Makes productive contributions through talent, knowledge,skills, and good work habits. LEVEL 5 LEVEL 4 LEVEL 3 LEVEL 2 Contributing Team Member Contributes to the achievement of group objectives; works effectively with others in a group setting. Competent Manager Organizes people and resources toward effective and efficient pursuit of predetermined objectives. Level 5 Executive Builds enduring greatness through a paradoxical combination of personal humility plus professional will. Effective Leader Catalyzes commitment to and vigorous pursuit of a clear and compelling vision; stimulates the group to high performance standards. Jim Collins Good to Great

46 Mind Spirit HeartBody Four Areas of Choice Make and Keep Promises Educate and Obey your Conscience THE FIRE WITHIN Respect, Balance, Integrate, Develop Respect, Balance, Integrate, Develop

47 Mind/ To Learn Spirit To Leave a Legacy Heart/ To Love Body To Live THE FIRE WITHIN Four Needs of People

48 Mind/ To Learn Mental Use of Talents Spirit To Leave a Legacy Spiritual Integrity Heart To Love Emotional Respect Body To Live Economic Security Four Needs of Organizations THE FIRE WITHIN

49 Mind/ To Learn Spirit To Leave a Legacy Heart To Love Body To Live Four Needs of People Mind/ To Learn Spirit To Leave a Legacy Heart To Love Body To Live Four Needs of Organizations Co-missioning Blending Voices

50 N Emotional Intelligence (EQ) Physical Intelligence (PQ) Four Intelligences of People THE FIRE WITHIN Spiritual Intelligence (SQ) Mental Intelligence (IQ) Make and Keep Promises Educate and Obey your Conscience

51 N Heart Passion Body Discipline Leading a Balanced, Integrated, Powerful Life THE FIRE WITHIN Spirit Conscience Mind/ Vision Make and Keep Promises Educate and Obey your Conscience Vision, Discipline, and Passion governed by Conscience change the (your) world for good (lifts and lasts).

52 Heart Empowering Body Aligning Four Roles of Leadership Spirit Modeling THE FIRE WITHIN Mind/ Pathfinding Leadership is a Choice H: 1-7 H: 7 H: 2 H: 3 H: 4,5,6 Manage Things; Lead People

53 Heart/ Treat me kindly Body/ Pay me fairly Whole Person in a Whole Job Spirit/ In serving human needs in principled ways THE FIRE WITHIN Mind/ Use me creatively

54 The High Cost of Low Trust Four Chronic Problems Mind/ No Shared Vision/Values Heart/ Disempowerment Body/ Misalignment Spirit/ Low Trust DEAD ASHES

55 Habit 1: Be proactive. Not until you can say I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday.... can you say I choose otherwise.  Examples of your reactive statements... and your “proactive” counterparts.  What to do when frustrated? Discouraged? Imposter? What is your “fix routine”?  Why not be proactive? What is the risk? Are you willing to risk failure? stimulus response the gap = our choice Victor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning reactive (reverse acting, problem-bound, vague) I am not as smart as others at this school. People think I’m too passive. I wish it was Friday! circle of influence circle of concern no concern proactive (forward acting, opportunity-focused, clear) I will do my work before I watch TV I will exercise and pray each day. I will clean my room every week

56 Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind.  Specifically … write what you want to reap. What do you HOPE for? A prestigious job? A girlfriend or boyfriend? Money?  Write what you are willing to sow. Time? Personal energy? Money? Your friends?  Any books or movies or models that guide you? The law of the farm: You reap what you sow. translated “sacrifice” vision = what you want to see mission = immediate next step(s) Both tend to focus priorities.

57 Christian Leadership’s vision and mission VISION MISSION Inspiring NDCL students to change their world... and apprenticing them to champion their hope through character. Inspiring trust by establishing and practicing values with courage. ownership. Championing hopes with responsibility and tenacity. risk. Innovating or revolutionizing despite possible failure or adversity. engineering method. Making technical decisions soundly. A “shining city on a hill” … human dignity and virtue. You have a purpose. You have value as a human. hope and freedom. You can change the world.

58 Habit 3: Put first things first. urgent not urgent important not important I: necessity crises deadlines “maintaining” ( ) II: opportunity PC activities planning & prevention commitment (65-15) III interruptions some meetings some reports (5-55) IV trivia busy work time wasters (5-5) We want Quadrant II > Quadrant I. Quadrant II comes from Quadrants III and IV.  Estimate how much time you spend in Quadrant II (and what IS Quad IV?)...  How do you plan your day? Datebook? Palm Pilot?  How much is your time worth to you, in dollars/hour?

59 The P/PC balance Aesop’s fable “The Goose and the Golden Egg” “A man and his wife had the good fortune to possess a goose that laid a golden egg every day. Lucky though they were, they soon began to think they were not getting rich fast enough, and, imagining the bird must be made of gold inside, they decided to kill it in order to secure the whole store of precious metal at once. But when they cut it open they found it was just like any other goose. Thus, they neither got rich all at once, as they had hoped, nor enjoyed any longer the daily addition to their wealth.” Production (things you are “paid” for) designing a school event Running a school/ parish activity doing a dance enjoying a healthy body having great friends Production Capability (no “pay”!) Going to a school event alone Missing out at a school/ parish activity Who has time for dance? Missing exercise routines Not calling friends back

60 Habit 3... a demonstration. What is the lesson? 1 Identify big rocks (q2). 2 Schedule these FIRST! 3 Surround with other.

61 The 7 Habits... moving to interdependence 7 Sharpen saw Independence Interdependence PUBLIC VICTORY Think win-win 4 Understand 5 Synergize 6 Dependence 1 Be Proactive PRIVATE VICTORY 2 End in mind 3 1 st things 1 st

62 Habit 4: Think win-win.  Are there times when paradigms others than “win-win” are appropriate?  How do you develop “courage”? “Consideration”? Emotional bank account?  What causes conflict? Tools for conflict resolution? Your “boundaries”? lose-win (you get hard feelings) win-win or no deal (abundance mentality; get P and PC) lose-lose (never pays) win-lose (other person gets hard feeling) courage consideration

63 Habit 5: First understand... then be understood. 4 tips for dealing with people  Do not criticize, condemn, or complain.  Express sincere appreciation.  Give them “emotional air” and learn their story.  Focus on their interests (know your best alternative coming in).  What are some “stranglers” for emotional air?  What are some ways we can express sincere appreciation?  How often do you ask someone to a professional lunch?  How do you meet a person? How do you greet a person? win-win area = L x h h = “understand” L = “be understood” Dale Carnegie How to Win Friends and Influence People Fisher & Ury, Getting to Yes

64 Habit 6: Synergize. “Animal school” Once upon a time, the animals decided they must do something heroic to meet the problems of a “New World”, so they organized a school. They adopted an activity curriculum consisting of running, climbing, swimming, and flying. To make it easier to administer, all animals took all the subjects. In the end, the duck’s web feet were so badly worn that he couldn’t swim, the rabbit had a nervous breakdown and couldn’t run, the eagle was disciplined severely for getting to the top of the tree without climbing, and an abnormal eel ended up doing best overall and winning valedictorian.  What are your unique gifts? What talents do you need from others?  What qualities often seem like a disadvantage, but are necessary?  How do you contact or talk with people, if you are shy?

65 The 7 Habits... one more step 7 Sharpen saw Independence Interdependence PUBLIC VICTORY Think win-win 4 Understand 5 Synergize 6 Dependence 1 Be Proactive PRIVATE VICTORY 2 End in mind 3 1 st things 1 st

66 Habit 7: Sharpen the saw.  When will YOU sharpen your saw?  What measures will you use in each category? Physical endurance, strength, flexibility, sleep, eating Mental reading, journaling, discussing, seminars, meetings Spiritual battle of good versus evil (Buddhism, Christianity, Hinduism, Islam, Judaism) Social family, friends, service (notes, phone calls, s, visits)