Dr. Anthony J. Limoges Principal, South Region San Diego County Office of Education Juvenile Court and Community Schools Bullying Prevention Through Climate Control

Non Negotiable(s): -You love your children! -Nobody wants bullying!

‘Why use a systems approach?’

The Various Lenses of Bullying YouThem

Who Makes the Pie Taste So Good? What Can You control? Parents Responsibility: 33% Effort- 100% Students Responsibility: 33% Effort- 100% Educators Responsibility: 33% Effort- 100%

Bullying Maxims… -Bullying as ”a word” vs ”a concept” -Bully and Victim need help -Only victim decides if it is bullying -Youth are adapting not changing -Everyone has been a bully and the bullied

Television and Movies -By age % -“Notel” Study -18 of 1000

Video Games: Learn by doing Number of hits in a shootout Military firing rate Upsetting young brains

What is Bullying? Four Major Components: -Imbalance of power -Bully has intent to harm -Threat of further aggression exists -Continued agitation

Types of Bullies: Physical Bully -Action oriented -Hitting, pushing, theft, property damage -Everyone knows them

Types of Bullies: Verbal Bully -Words as the weapon -teasing, name calling, constant insults -No visible scars

Types of Bullies: Emotional/Relational Bully -Convince peers to exclude or reject -Gossip, rumors -Clique mentality

Types of Bullies: Sexual Bully -Behaviors are sexual in nature -Unwanted contact, sexual comments -Often defined as sexual harassment

Types of Bullies: Racist Bully -Racially motivated -Racial slurs, jokes, gestures, exclusion -Not politically correct, can be subversive

Types of Bullies: Reactive Victim Bully -Can be both bully and victim at same time -Intentional and unintentional -”Touch me, and I’ll get you in trouble!”

Types of Bullies: Cyber Bully - , Myspace, Texting Facebook, Blogs, Youtube -Little legislation

Why Cyber Bully? -Anonymous -Disinhibited -Viral -Limitless -Little Supervision Hinduja, S., Patchin, J. (2009). Bullying Beyond the Schoolyard. Thousand Oaks, CA: Corwin Press

Types of Social Media Craig Weiss. (August,2010). The Future of Education. In Social Media Types. Retrieved 10/23/2010, from.

Elementary School: Fail to understand the meaning of the hurtful words they use and don’t realize the impact they have. I.E.: cooties, germs Middle School: The “hot zone” for bullying. Kids become adept at finding specific areas of vulnerability in their victims. IE: teasing, ostracizing, sexual harassment High School: The most common form of bullying would be in the area of socialization. The opposite sex is also a very common reason for bullying.

Gender Differences: -Most studies find that boys bully more than girls -Boys report being bullied by boys -Girls report being bullied by boys and girls -Boys are more likely than girls to by physically bullied -Girls are more likely to be bullied through rumors, sexual comments, social exclusion

“Because I see others doing it! Because it’s what you do if you want to hang out with the right crowd! Because it makes me feel, stronger, smarter, or better than others! Because it is one of the best ways to keep others from bullying me! Why Kids Bully…

Reasons Students are Bullied: 1.Appearance 2.Abilities 3.Identity 4.Behavior 5.Family 6.Possessions 7.Opinions 8.Names 9.Feelings 10.Friends Freedman, J. (2002). Easing the Teasing. New York: Contemporary Books.

The Future… …The Bully -Fights, Steal, Vandalize -Drink, Smoke -Truant, Drop Out -Carry a weapon 60% of middle school bullies had at least one conviction by the age of 24 40% had three or more convictions Bullies were 4 times as likely as peers to have multiple convictions Olweus, D. (1991). Bully/Victim problems among school children: Basic facts and effects of a school based Intervention program. In I. Rubin & D. Pepler (Eds.), The development and treatment of childhood agression. Pp Hillsdale, NJ: Erlbaum.

…The Bullied -Low self-esteem -Depression -Truancy -Suicidal ideation -Sleeping problems -Problems in school The Future…

Triune Brain

What can be done… 1. Become a better listener!

What can be done… 2. Communicate

What can be done… 3. Teach resiliency.

Reasons Students are Bullied: 1.Appearance 2.Abilities 3.Identity 4.Behavior 5.Family 6.Possessions 7.Opinions 8.Names 9.Feelings 10.Friends Freedman, J. (2002). Easing the Teasing. New York: Contemporary Books.

What can be done… 4. Supervise

What can be done… 5. Model

Questions Or Confusion

After Action Review -What happened today? -What did I learn as a result of what happened? -What will I do differently as a result of what I learned?