1. Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others PATH to LOVE Dating Agency

2. Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others what is mentoring? It’s all about trust High degree of trust and mutual regard Mentee is helped to realise his or her potential The mentor learns and develops through the process “Mentoring is to support and encourage people to manage their own learning in order that they may maximise their potential, develop their skills, improve their performance and become the person they want to be” (Eric Parsloe)

3. Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others mentor v manager Managers are concerned with the objectives of both team and organisation Mentors help your mentee to learn within the context of a supportive relationship

4. Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others find your perfect partner What skills or characteristics would you look for in a mentor? When finding mentors for placement students – what do you advise your employers? Opportunities for developing staff Previous placement students and graduates Don’t just think manager!

5. Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others toxic mentor (Clutterbuck) You know better than the mentee what's in his or her interest Be determined to share your wisdom with them - Decide what you and the mentee will talk about and when; change dates and themes frequently to stop complacency Do most of the talking Highlight how trivial their concerns are compared to the weighty issues you have to deal with Remind the mentee how fortunate s/he is to have your undivided attention Never show nor admit any personal weaknesses Never ask them what they should expect of you Never, never admit that this could be a learning experience for you, too

6. Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others find your perfect partner What would you expect the mentee to contribute to the relationship?

7. Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others toxic mentee (Clutterbuck) Bring a long shopping list of things you want the mentor to do for you Expect the mentor to be available for you, whenever you want them Regard the mentor as your prime source of gossip to pass on Expect the mentor always to have the answer Expect the mentor to decide when to meet and what to talk about Boast about the relationship to your colleagues at every opportunity Never challenge what the mentor says - s/he is paid to know best Blame the mentor whenever advice doesn't work out Enjoy the opportunity to have a good moan or whinge

8. Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others why use a mentee / mentor matching service? Where might you find your perfect partner? Managed structure – bringing people together Face to face but maybe something else to help build rapport Build rapport - very important – need to be ready to share some of yourself

9. Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others preparing for your first date Have a clear idea of what they are looking for -evaluate own skills, aspirations, likes and dislikes Know what to say about themselves -Strengths and weaknesses SMART Goals

10. Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others Communicate – etiquette Positive attitude Active listening Questions, questions THE first date

11. Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others dating skills

12. Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others Active listening Questions, questions THE first date Communicate – etiquette Positive attitude

13. Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others Invest time in learning about the mentor’s organization and their professional roles Honour commitments made to the mentor and respect the basic privacy and confidentiality inherent in the communication that occurs within the relationship. Express your appreciation for you mentor’s time, information, counsel, and sharing of opportunities with you Keeping the ‘fire’ burning!

14. Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others Actively request information and counsel from the mentor on a periodic basis Accept that the relationship maybe temporary Invite your mentor to a campus event or activity Dress professionally and appropriately for all meetings with your mentor Keeping the ‘fire’ burning!

15. Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others why we looove mentoring Career advancement – sponsorship, exposure, visibility, coaching, protection and challenge, more promotions, higher salaries, more job satisfaction, reduced turnover Psychosocial support – friendship, confirmation, acceptance, confidence building and counseling (Allen et al., 2004; Clutterbuck, 2004; Klasen & Clutterbuck, 2002; Kram, 1985; Wang et al., 2008).… Mentee Gains

16. Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others Career revitalisation, Ability to reflect, Intellectual challenge, Increased interpersonal skills, Social recognition from peers and managers, and Personal satisfaction (Clutterbuck, 2004; Young & Perrewe, 2000) Mentor Gains why we looove mentoring

17. Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others Mentoring for your students Mentoring for your graduates/alumni Mentoring for yourself and your colleagues – colleges, universities, companies, Can you afford not to get involved in mentoring? why we looove mentoring

18. Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others PATH to LOVE Dating Agency