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2. 3. SEX : Why we don’t talk about it: 1.Conflict 2.Doesn’t feel natural 3.Grew up in a home that it was taboo to talk about it. 4.Assume it’s dirty or shameful.

3. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Romans 12:2

4. SEX- God is for it! So God created human beings in his image. In the image of God he created them. He created them male and female. God blessed them and said, "Have many children and grow in number. Fill the earth…” Genesis 1:27-28

5. SEX- IT’S A MIND THING!

6. BE ON GUARD! Internet- Face book My Space Texting Above all else…Guard your heart! Proverbs 4:23

7. CREATING ATMOSPHERE! A BIBLICAL LOOK: SONG OF SOLOMON AFFECTIONATE TOUCHING 2:6 PRIVACY 2:5 COMPLIMENTING 1:15-16 FRAGRANCES 1:12 UNHURRIED TIME 5:1 ATTRACTIVE ATTIRE 4: 9, 11 SPECIAL PLACES 7:12 INTIMATE TALK 4:16 TOTAL COMMITMENT 8:6-7

8. Women’s Needs: 1.Affirmation: public and private! Shows she is still great in his eyes! Women compare themselves to other women! (hair-size-home-parenting-dress) 65% of women list affirmation as #1 need Men: HOW DO I AFFIRM? Great cook! Great Mom! Great lover! Talk in love making! Tell her how beautiful she is! BRAG!!

9. Men’s Needs: 1.Mutual Satisfaction: Happy wife…happy life! Men want to be good at everything we do! (job-fixing things-computer-yard-even sex!) 67% of men list as #1 need Women: WHAT DO I DO? Affirm him outside of the bedroom Encourage his strong decisions! BRAG! Tell him what you like…in the bedroom! 90% of a men’s self image-sexuality Where else will he learn?

10. Help! I’m Exhausted… Recent Redbook Magazine Survey: 24 million women said, we are too exhausted and tired for sex.

11. Exhaustion: It’s the one thing we can control!

12. Simple Suggestions: 1.Reprioritize. 2.Work less. 3.Say no to some things tempting you to say yes. 4.Decide where you must succeed.

13. Simple Suggestions: 1.Learn the boundaries between home and work. 2.Schedule sex until it becomes a pattern. 3.Get some rest! (Sabbath) 4.Get out of town! Hotel! 5. Turn off the t.v.!

14. THINGS TO WORK ON: 1.Ask yourself…why you do what you do. 2.Learn to hold back. Kids get your best- job gets your best- church gets your best… What about spouse?

15. the simple church CPS- Sex Where are you now? Where would you like to be? How do I get there?

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18. COUNSELING HELP www.MarriageMatters Now.com Steve and Debbie Wilson 318-469-2438 marriagematters@aol.com COUNSELING HELP www.MarriageMatters Now.com Steve and Debbie Wilson 318-469-2438 marriagematters@aol.com

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