What would the world learn about God and His gospel if our romantic relationships were the only indicator they saw?
Next Week = Part 2! Isnt sex just a physical act? What about porn & masturbation? How far is too far for the Christian? How men/women respond to attractions differently Personal testimony & video Im attracted to someone; what should I do? Practical ways to demonstrate the Gospel in our dating relationships
Communion Triads What is God speaking to you? Where do you need the gospel?
Your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit 1 Cor. 6:12-20
Sexual immorality: anything that stirs up sexual desires that cannot be righteously fulfilled
How far is too far? 1.How can I demonstrate what Jesus is like? 2.How can I love the other person more than myself?
To move towards union of spirit, soul, and body outside a covenant commitment is destructive
Differences in the sexes Women: Heart physical Men: Physical heart
Proverbs 4:23 Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.
Gear 1: Build Friendship Get attractions in light w/spiritual mentor DO NOT verbalize your attractions to the other person or get physical Hang out in groups and observe them It is unloving to create confusion Level of intimacy // level of commitment Litmus test: How would your spouse feel?
Ten Warning Signs if you observe… 1.People who love you advise you not to date them 2.Bad relationship with parents 3.Doesnt maintain long-term friendships 4.Others are confused by their intentions 5.Drifting/running away from God 6.Overly jealous 7.Financially unwise 8.Tears you down 9.Arrogant/prideful 10.Youre not physically attracted to them
Gear 2: Prepare to communicate your intentions & initiate relationship Get advice from spiritual mentor & parents on timing (ready for marriage in 12 months?) Tell the person what youve observed & ask them to pray about a relationship that may lead to marriage (this is not a proposal!) Give them time to pray! If they say yes, agree on healthy parameters for the amount of time your spend together & physical boundaries
Boundaries are good Physical touch exposes the heart and clouds the mind Exclusive time together speeds up intimacy & the desire to unite spirit, soul, and body You want your friends to stay in your life & rejoice with you on your wedding day!
Gear 3: Dating/Courtship Continue to build relationship in groups & alone Leave romance for engagement/marriage Spend lots of time talking/asking questions Find out what you enjoy to do together Ask about life dreams/goals Avoid talking about marriage prematurely Dont lead them on if you feel red flag (most people know in 3-6 months if relationship is leading towards marriage or not)
Gear 4: Engagement! Focus = planning your marriage, not wedding Pre-marital counseling Talk about finances, where youll live, children, more verbal/spiritual intimacy Physical temptation is difficult (short engagements are best) Do you want foundation of trust or lust?