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1 Dating Violence Adapted from the LINA curriculum and Barren River Area Safe Space

2 Twisted Love Poem

3 Myth or Fact? Domestic violence usually only happens in married adult couples. MYTH The fact is that a many as one-third of all high school and college-age young people experience violence in an intimate or dating relationship. Physical abuse is as common among high school and college-age couples as married couples.

4 Boyfriends and girlfriends sometimes push each other around when they get angry, but it rarely results in anyone getting seriously hurt. MYTH Domestic violence is the number one cause of injury to women between the ages of 15 - 44 in the U.S. -more than car accidents, muggings and rapes combined. Of the women murdered each year in the U.S., 30% are killed by their current or former husband or boyfriend.

5 While females can be abusive and abuse happens in same-sex couples too, it is much more common for males to abuse their female partners. FACT About 95% of know victims of relationship violence are females abused by their male partners.

6 If a mother is abused by her children's father; the children are also likely to be abused. FACT 50% of men who frequently abuse their wives also frequently abuse their children. A child who lives in a family where there is violence between parents is 15 times more likely to be abused.

7 Most people will end a relationship if their boyfriend or girlfriend hits them MYTH The fact is that nearly 80% of girls who have been physically abused in their intimate relationships continue to date their abuser after the onset of violence.

8 People abuse their partners because they can't control their anger. MYTH People who abuse are usually not out of control, they do it to gain power and control over the other person. They often use a series of tactics besides violence including threats, intimidation, psychological abuse and isolation to control their partners.

9 Most men who abuse their partners grew up in violent homes. FACT Men who have witnessed violence between parents are three times more likely to abuse their own wives and children than children of non-violent parents. The sons of the most violent parents are 1000 times more likely to become batterers.

10 If a person is really being abused, it's easy to just leave. MYTH There are many very complicated reasons why it's difficult for a person to leave an abusive partner. One very common reason is fear - women who leave abusers are at a 75% greater chance of being killed by the abuser than those who stay.

11 Most rapes are committed by strangers who attack women at night on the streets. MYTH About 80% of rapes and sexual assaults are committed by a partner, friend or acquaintance of the victim.

12 A pregnant woman is at an even greater risk of physical abuse. FACT Pregnant women are especially at risk for abuse. It is estimated that more than one-third of pregnant women are abused

13 Relationship abuse happens most often among Blacks and Hispanics. MYTH Women of all races are equally likely to be abused by a partner

14 People who are abused often blame themselves for their abuse. FACT Most people who are abused blame themselves for causing the violence However, the fact is that NO ONE is ever to blame for another person's violence - violence is always a choice, and the responsibility is 100% with the person who is violent.

15 What is dating violence?  In a violent dating relationship, a person intentionally threatens to act or acts in a way that physically, sexually, or verbally hurts their partner.  Done in order to gain and maintain control over them.  At least 70% of people know of someone who has been in a violent dating relationship.

16 Physical Abuse This is not just a one time occurrence. It happens again and again and gets worse over time.  Punching  Kicking  Hitting  Slapping  Biting  Throwing things  Shoving

17 Sexual Abuse  Any unwanted physical touching or sexual activity including  Forced sex (oral, anal, vaginal/penile)  Degrading sexual activity  Not allowing your partner to use contraception

18 Emotional abuse  Threatening (you or your family)  Yelling  Name calling  Blaming  Shaming  Social isolation  Intimidation  Controlling your actions

19 Sound Familiar? “We spent all our time together. It was wonderful at first, but then he became obsessive. I was either with him most of the time or talking to him on the phone. He became more and more jealous. At one point, I even had to be on the phone with him when I went to sleep so that he knew I was at home at night. I was allowed to talk to only two people at school. Both were girls and he had his friends watch me to make sure I was being obedient.” – Salina, 13 “I had been with Carlos since I was thirteen. He used to choke me and do awful things to me. He used to make me feel that no one else would want me. I felt that I’d better stay with him because he scared me. Sometimes we would be driving somewhere, and all of a sudden he would take me to a parking place. Then he’d hit me because of something wrong I said. I was afraid of everything I said, afraid to say the wrong thing.” – Consuela, 19

20 Why do people stay in abusive relationships?

21 Who is involved?  Abuser – person who inflicts the abuse  Target – person who is being abused  Bystander – witness to the abuse

22 Cycle of Violence 1. Tension Building 2. Explosion 3. Honeymoon

23 Breathing Underwater  What part is the tension building?  What is the explosion?  How does Nick try to justify his actions?  What does Nick do in the “honeymoon” period?

24 If you are in an abusive relationship, you have three choices  Accept the relationship and live with it  Stay in the relationship and try to make changes  Leave the relationship and get on with life

25 If you are in an abusive relationship…  Get out / leave  Tell your parents or someone you trust  Make a safety plan  Call the police  Talk to someone about it  Tell that abuser that the violence must stop  Call a hotline

26 I Got Flowers Today

27  Using the information gained today, write your own 15 line “Twisted Love Poem.”  Talk about:  dating violence  how to spot it  the cycle of violence  where to get help.

28 OR….  Write a role playing scenario about dating violence (like a play).  It must be at least one page long  Talk about:  dating violence  how to spot it  the cycle of violence  where to get help.


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