Presentation on theme: "Intimate partner abuse is a pattern of behavior using power and control within an intimate relationship that threatens a person's well– being. Abuse can."— Presentation transcript:
Intimate partner abuse is a pattern of behavior using power and control within an intimate relationship that threatens a person's well– being. Abuse can take many forms, such as physical, emotional, financial, sexual, or psychological abuse. Intimate partner abuse is committed by an intimate partner, including a spouse or former spouse, or a current or former dating partner. Intimate partner abuse is sometimes also called partner abuse, domestic abuse, domestic violence, family violence, or battering.
In the U.S., every 9 seconds a person is physically abused by a current or former intimate partner. 25% of women and 8% of men in the U.S. report being physically or sexually assaulted by a partner at some point in their lives. This means that in Marion County, more than 100,000 women and 30,000 men will be abused in their lifetime.
On average, more than 3 women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in the U.S. everyday.
Emotional Abuse Using Social Status Intimidation Minimize/Deny/Blame Threats Sexual Coercion Isolation/Exclusion
Escalation Increased tension, anger, blaming, name calling, etc. Explosion Incident of abuse, violence, sexual assault, etc. Honeymoon Apologies, increased romance, or possible denial. Calm Seems like an ordinary relationship. Cycles of abuse
Controlling behavior Unrealistic expectations Blaming others for problems or feelings Sexual violence Verbally abusive Jealousy Intimidating personality Dr. Jekyll / Mr. Hyde Sexually aggressive History of abusing other partners Rigid gender roles Hypersensitivity Cruelty to animals and children Possessive behavior Pushes for immediate commitment Lack of empathy
Abusive behavior is NOT caused by the use of alcohol or other drugs, stress, poverty, disagreements, jealousy or mental illness. The person behaving abusively is the only person who is responsible for the abuse. It is not caused by anything said or done by the person who is abused. Partner abuse is driven by a “need” to dominate those close to them. excuses, excuses…
Financial dependence on abuser Health problems or disability Nowhere to go Fear for life or safety based on threats Hope that violent or abuse will stop Religious beliefs Too exhausted by the abuse Belief that the abuser will change Belief that the abuser has changed A lack of supportive relationships Children’s love and attachment to the abuser One’s own love for the abuser Belief in an obligation to the relationship Family disapproval or lack of emotional support Not wanting to be alone Fear of losing custody of the children Abuser is not always abusive
Leaving the relationship might not end the abuse… Most abused partners report increased harassment or even violence after they break off the relationship. 75% of women who die due to domestic violence are killed after leaving the relationship. Only the survivor can determine when it is safe to leave.
Up to 10 million children are exposed to partner abuse in their homes each year. As many as 324,000 pregnant women are battered each year. The U.S Advisory Board on Child Abuse suggests that partner abuse may be the single major precursor to child abuse and neglect fatalities. cycles of abuse
Children who grow up in violent homes have a 74% higher likelihood of committing criminal assaults. (Survey of Massachusetts Department of Youth Services, Self Magazine, May 1992) 79% of violent children have witnessed violence between their parents. (Family Violence Prevention Fun, 1991 “The Invisible Victim: Children of the War At Home.” Source quoted as Lewis, et al. 1983) cycles of abuse
Non-Threatening Behavior Respect Trust and Support Honesty and Accountability Self-Confidence Shared Power Communication Negotiation and Fairness
helping a friend in need Validation Focus on safety Confidentiality Respect autonomy Connect to resources Patience Compassion Address immediate needs. Contact a local advocacy group for help. A survivor is taking a great risk talking to you about the abuse… taking action without his or her permission could only put them at further risk. It is important not to gossip or tell anyone else about the disclosed abuse without the survivors permission. A key supportive role is to help the survivor locate and navigate the systems that may help him/her. On average, it takes 7 to 10 times for an abused person to leave their abuser. Even if you don’t always know what to do, or what to say, don’t underestimate how powerful your concern is to survivors of abuse. As simple as it is, just saying “I believe you” goes a long, long way.
what if someone you know is acting abusively? Don’t turn the other cheek Address their behavior Accountability Discuss abuse Connect to resources Don’t allow justifications Stay in touch Speak out Don’t ignore abusive behavior. Your silence helps the abuser pretend there is nothing wrong with their behavior. Focus on their abusive actions, not their whole person. Be firm: Tell the abuser that he or she is the only person responsible for their behavior, and that they CAN control their actions. Help the abuser identify and understand what abuse is. Focus on the serious harm to the victim and the possible consequences for the abuser. Encourage the abuser to seek professional help. Help the abuser locate a certified batterers program. Do not participate in, or allow, justifications of abusive behavior. The only person responsible for the abuse is the abuser. This isn’t a one time conversation, and an abuser will not change over night. Keep supporting non violent behavior by staying in touch, offering encouragement, and keeping the topic alive. Set an example of compassion and non violence. Speak out against abuse.
breaking free from abuse Safety plan Tell someone you trust Research your options, make a plan Seek help – Help is available know matter what type of abuse you are experience. Trust yourself, trust your instincts
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