1. Building Strong Families
Chapter 3

2. Essential Questions
What qualities contribute to building a strong family?
What are family structures and how are they the same/different?
What trends affect families?
What are the three parenting styles and how do they differ?
How do you determine effective ways of guiding children’s behavior?

3. Vocabulary custodial parent self discipline foster child guidance
intergenerational
deprivation
consistent
conscience

4. How would you define family?
A group of people who:
care for one another
teach you life skills
provide shelter/basic needs
share close connections
teach you values

5. Does a family…. Have to agree on every thing? Be related by blood?
Have arguments?
Spend a lot of time together?
Love and care for each other?

6. Some things that strong families share
Everyone feels accepted and safe
Everyone learns and grows together
Emotional support, security
Bonds and traditions
Values and acceptable behaviors
Assessment Prompt: How do families do this when they do not live together?

7. Support system for each other Make time to be together
Stick up for each other
Family reunions
Support system for each other
Make time to be together
Honest with each other
Love each other
Shopping together
Family night
Boundaries
Talk about problems
Attend church
We are close---couldn’t imagine a day without them

8. Characteristics of Strong Families
Members work together
Listen with an open mind
Share responsibilities
Share goals and values
These are vital life lessons!
Work together to provide for needs of family and prepare children for future

9. What are the functions of families?
Meet basic needs
Prepare children to live in society
Provide support
Form traditions
Share values
Handle conflicts
For each of the above…what does it mean and how do we do it?

10. Family Structures
Nuclear

11. Family Structures Single Parent oasis-church-nj.com
Custodial parent where child resides
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Single Parent

12. Family Structures Blended Family
Blended Family

13. Family Structures
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Extended Family

14. Family Structures
Legal Guardian

15. Family Structures
Foster
Child

16. Family Structures
Talk to your partner about whether each type of family can be strong?
Do some have a better chance?
Do some have less of a chance?
Which family structure is the best?

17. What trends affect families?
Mobility

18. What trends affect families?
intergenerational
Aging Population

19. What trends affect families?
Economic Changes

20. What trends affect families?
Workplace Changes

21. What trends affect families?
Technology

22. What trends affect families?
Talk to your partner
Explain what trends are affecting your family and how. Then talk about how your family stays strong while facing these trends.

23. What do you think?
Many families are facing hard times. Image one of your parents lose their job and the only job they can find is 100 miles away and doesn’t pay well. As a teen, would it be easier to move to a new community or have to cut way back on spending? Explain

24. There is also a family life cycle we go through…
Stage
Advantages
Disadvantages
Beginning /Couples
Expanding
Developing
Launching
Middle / Empty Nest
Retirement

25. There is also a family life cycle we go through…
Talk to your partner about what whether this life cycle is the same for everyone?
List things that may cause it to change.

26. Another thing that makes families unique is the parenting style used.
Authoritarian
Parent Centered
Obedience
Discipline (physical)
No Rewards

27. Another thing that makes families unique is the parenting style used.
Permissive
Child Centered
No Authority
Child Decides
Actions Teach

28. Another thing that makes families unique is the parenting style used.
Democratic
Parent = Child
Develop self confidence
Limits from parents
Punishment = Crime

29. What type of families are you looking at here?
What type of families are you looking at here?

30. PARENTING SKILLS These do not come naturally Learned through practice
Different for everyone
Learn by mistakes
It’s all about the child’s needs

31. Categories of Children’s Needs
Physical needs

32. What is included in physical needs?
Nourishing meals
Clean, dry, comfortable clothes
Safe, clean place to call home
Regular doctor visits and immunizations
Car seat for safety
Environment for learning

33. Categories of Children’s Needs
Emotional and Social Needs

34. What is included in Emotional/Social needs?
Raise happy, independent adults
Function in the world
Get along with others
Learn how to care for others
Learn though relationships with parents
Show nurturing
Show restraint (over protective)

35. Categories of Children’s Needs
Intellectual Needs

36. What is included in intellectual needs?
Learning begins at birth
Infancy is a time of constant learning
Use the senses (many exposures/experiences)
Reading is the single most important activity
Everyday play objects (not expensive toys)
When needs are met, better prepared for school

37. What if a child’s needs are meet?
Deprivation
Not meeting needs of child
Nothing to do with money (rich and poor

38. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t hIDCL3NClQ
An example
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Talk about what caused this situation
Talk about what needed to be changed
Can you imagine ever having a life like this?

39. Think about…. A time when you did not behave properly?
Briefly explain what happened
Tell us how people around reacted
Tell us how an adult reacted (parent)
Was that effective in stopping the behavior

40. Some Examples
eature=related (car seat)
HBI&NR=1 (change dress)
(grocery store)
playnext=1&list=PLC51D728EE (guitar hero)

41. Guidance process of controlling actions of child
Define?
process of controlling actions of child
giving advice
help understand behavior & consequences
Goal?
have child act in a developmentally appropriate manner/socially acceptable
self discipline
How?
use firmness and understanding to teach behavior control

42. Remembering that guidance is the big picture…
Why do children need guidance
throughout their life?
Help learn to get along with others
Learn to handle feelings in an acceptable way
Develop positive feelings about themselves
Learn moral development (conscience)

43. Discipline Define? small part of guidance control behavior Goal?
obedience?
acceptable behavior
How?
age appropriate
punishment/praise

44. Punishment Define? penalty/consequence for misbehavior
small part of discipline
Goal?
control behavior
How?
individual decision
self esteem of the child is essential

45. What is the most important word for a parent to remember?
Consistency
What does it mean?
Everyone doing the same thing, the same way, every time!

46. Why is consistency so important?
Children learn to trust the adults in their life.
Without consistency:
lose trust --- lose confidence --- become confused --- become insecure --- child will not listen (behave)

47. Parents Need to Encourage Appropriate Behavior
Tell child exactly what is expected.
Examples:
Toys away
Dishes away

48. Parents Need to Encourage Appropriate Behavior
Set a good example.
Children imitate adults.
Child learn by being shown.
Examples:
Language
Actions

49. Parents Need to Encourage Appropriate Behavior
Praise appropriate behavior
Positive reinforcement
Works for most children
Behavior and not child

50. Praising Behaviors Be specific/clear Notice behavior when happens
Recognize small steps
Help them be proud of themselves
Encourage in problem areas

51. Offering Choices Children do not have good problem solving skills.
Encourage them to make their
own decisions.
Be sure to offer no more than 2
good choices.

52. Setting Limits for Children
What should limits achieve?
Keep children from hurting themselves
Keep children from hurting others
Keep children from hurting property

53. Inappropriate Behavior
Let’s face it, event the best child misbehaves sometimes.
As a parent or caregiver, you must
learn to deal with misbehavior
appropriately and effectively.

54. Inappropriate Behavior
Intentional Misbehavior
First time, give a warning, not punishment
Second time, negative reinforcement
(discourage them from repeating it)
Be sure child knows you disapprove of behavior and not them!

55. Inappropriate Behavior
When you give punishment, be sure it is in proportion to the misbehavior.
Punishment =Crime

56. Dealing with Inappropriate Behaviors
Natural Consequences
The end result of the misbehavior is
it’s own punishment. Nothing else needed.
Examples

57. Dealing with Inappropriate Behaviors
Loss of Privileges
Not effective until about age 5
Loss should be related to misbehavior
Example:

58. Dealing with Inappropriate Behaviors
Loss of Privileges
Not effective until about age 5
Loss should be related to misbehavior
Example:

59. Dealing with Inappropriate Behaviors
Time Out
Time away from activity or people
Chance to calm down and regain control
Steps in time out:

60. Poor Disciplinary Measures
Bribing
Child always expects something
Child doesn’t learn self control
Promise to Behave
Feel like they let you down
Afraid you will be mad at them

61. Poor Disciplinary Measures
Shouting and Yelling
Child can be scared
Loud voices affect children emotionally
Shaming/Belittling
Destroys child’s self esteem
Makes them feel worthless