371% of school shooters had been victims of bullying.
4is the deliberate, repeated harm or threat of harm by the same student Bullyingis the deliberate, repeatedharm or threat of harmby the same studentor group of studentsagainst a relatively defenseless student or staff member.
5Two types of Acquaintance Violence Violence stemming from Normal Conflict, which involves:disagreements, misunderstandingsBully/ Victim violence, which involves:two or more students who are equally matchedlack of conflict resolution skillslack of anger management skillsseries of negative actions repeated over timestudents who are unequally matchedbullies - lack of connectedness and sensitivityvictims - lack of assertiveness skills
6BULLYINGHAPPENS...BULLYING HAPPENS…when someone with greater power unfairly hurts someone with less power over and over again.PhysicalPowersizehittingpushingstealingdefacing/destroyingpropertythreatening with aweaponVerbal Powerthreatsinsultsname-callingteasingmaking fun ofanotherintimidatingphone callsSocial Powerhumiliatingexcludinghurting feelingsplaying meantricksput-downsgossip/rumors
8The Bullying Circle V 20% Bully 80% Bystander Defender of the Victim Starts the bullying and takes an active partDefender of the VictimDislikes the bullying and helps or tries to help the victimFollower/HenchmanTakes an active part, but does not start the bullying20%BullyVPossible DefenderDislikes the bullying and thinks he ought to help but doesn’tSupporterSupports the bullying but does not take an active part80% BystanderPassive Supporter(Possible Bully)Likes the bullying but does not display open supportDisengaged Onlooker
10Characteristic of Bully High self-esteemMay be popularMore likely to engage in other problem behaviors later in life, such as criminal activity or alcohol or other drug abuse
11Victims Passive Provocative Quiet, anxious & insecure Tend to “normalize” and no longer are victims upon entering adulthood, though they may have continued lower self-esteem and be more prone to depressionProvocativeReactive, clumsy, impulsive, irritatingAttempt to fight or answer back when attacked,but not effectivelyOften hyperactive, have difficulty concentratingand act in ways that irritate others
13Enabling Entitlement Tolerance is unwittingly protecting a person from the consequences of their actions out of a sense of love, compassion, fear, or survival instinctEntitlementis the belief that it is our right to use violence or threats of violence to express feelings, meet needs, or satisfy wants.occurs when violence is accepted as the norm by adults or young people who ignore, rationalize, or minimize incidents of violence.Tolerance
14Is it bullying? Is it teasing? Differentiation How is the action received by the recipient? Is the recipient too fragile to ask the aggressor to stop?
15Differentiation Tattling/Snitching: Reporting: Are you trying to get someone in trouble?Reporting:Are you trying to keepsomeone fromgetting hurt?
16Bullying Horseplay Fighting Differentiation Power differential, repeated, not friendsHorseplayRough play, usually friends, equal powerFightingUsually a singular event, equal power, not friends
17Individual Acts of Prejudice GenocideBias-MotivatedViolenceTHE PYRAMID OF HATEDiscriminationBullyingRidiculeName CallingIndividual Acts of PrejudiceSlurs/EpithetsSocial AvoidanceDe-humanizationStereotypingBIASNon-inclusive languageInsensitive RemarksBelittling Jokes
19DCSS Bullying PolicyState law prohibits bullying, which it defines as an act which occurs on school property, on school vehicles, at designated bus stops, or at school-related functions or activities, or by use of data or software that is accessed through a computer, computer system, computer network, or other electronic technology of a local school system, that is:Any willful attempt or threat to inflict injury on another person, when accompanied by an apparent present ability to do so;(2) Any intentional display of force such as would give the victim reason to fear or expect immediate bodily harm; or(3) Any intentional written, verbal, or physical act, which a reasonable person would perceive as being intended to threaten, harass, or intimidate, that:Causes another person substantial physical harm or visible bodily harmHas the effect of substantially interfering with a student’s education;Is so severe, persistent, or pervasive that it creates an intimidating or threatening educational environment;Has the effect of substantially disrupting the orderly operation of the school.
20How SHOULD bullying behavior be addressed in DeKalb County Schools? PreventionCreating Positive School ClimateEducating Staff to Identify Bullying BehaviorEducating Students on Bullying BehaviorEducating Parents on Bullying BehaviorMobilize the Caring Majority
21How SHOULD bullying behavior be addressed in DeKalb County Schools? InterventionAll reports of bullying received by school personnel should be immediately reported to the school principal.Bullying reports are to be thoroughly investigated in a timely manner.Parents/Guardians of ALL parties are to be notified at the appropriate time.
22Confirmed acts of bullying should be handled in a timely and age-appropriate manner, which may include some disciplinary action and/or counseling. Students in grades six through twelve found to have committed the offense of bullying for the third time in a school year shall be assigned to an alternative school.Clearly communicate to all parties that retaliation following a report of bullying is strictly prohibited and may result in strong penalties.Take care of the needs of the accused and victim through a planned method of after-care and follow-up. Reiterate to all the previously stated prohibition on retaliation.
23What can parents do to help bully-proof their children? Encourage friendships.Teach your children to express themselves clearlyyet tactfully.Stress the importance of body language.Start teaching the art of conflict resolution early.Help your child be self-confident.Help your child practice what to say to the bullies so he or she will be prepared the next time. Teach your child to respond effectively. However, some bullies feed on responses, so your child should assert himself just once.
24Don't encourage your child to fight the bully. Tell your child it is not her fault and that s/he did the right thing by telling you.Ask your child what s/he thinks should be done.What has she tried? What worked and what didn't? Make it clear that she should never be ashamed to ask for help.Encourage your child to report the bullying to teachers, guidance counselors, or other responsible adults.Teach your child to avoid situations when necessary.
25What can we do to help our child if he bullies others? Make sure your child isn't witnessing violence between members of your family.Modeling aggressive behavior at home can lead to violence by the child against others at school and later on in life.Talk to your child, his teachers and school administrators.Children who bully try to deny or minimize their wrongdoings. Cooperate with the school to help change your child's aggressive behavior.Make it clear that bullying will not be tolerated. Tell your child you will not allow such actions, and state the consequences. If the problem occurs at school, tell him that you respect the school's right to punish him/her if it persists.
26Have your child walk in the victim's shoes Have your child walk in the victim's shoes. Discuss how it feels to be bullied. How would he feel if it happened to him?Increase your supervision of your child'sactivities and whereabouts.Find out who he's associating with. Spend time with him and set reasonable rules for and limits on activities.Praise (lots of it!) the efforts your child makes toward becoming non-violent and responsible.