2. Violence Prevention Aggressors - those who provoke others or start fights. –think that violence is the only alternative –- act impulsively & angrily

3. Victims People who are physically or verbally attacked. –Sometimes constantly picked on/bothered –- they can, without meaning to, invite bullying by seeming to accept the violence (not speak up against what happened)

4. Bystanders vs. Upstanders Bystander(s) – an individual or group who is nearby during a conflict. –These people can be passive watch w/out saying anything OR active encourage it by cheering / ”egging” it on Upstander(s) – an individual or a group who recognizes the victimization (mean treatment) of others, and chooses to act on their behalf. Can PREVENT a fight –By standing up for the victim Ex: saying - “Knock it off, stop etc.” - OR Tell a trusted adult!

5. Non-Violent Problem Solvers This is the ultimate goal - to learn how to be this person! They… –Help themselves & others solve problems effectively While maintaining respect & personal safety!

6. Upstander Video Clips Who is an Upstander?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xtoNUWOT8Cg https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xtoNUWOT8Cg Edward Town Middle School: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1q0QG0MbNro https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1q0QG0MbNro Upstander “Red Head”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nWJut7KQhI4 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nWJut7KQhI4 Values – “Peer Pressure”: http://www.values.com/inspirational- stories-tv-spots/115-Peer-Pressurehttp://www.values.com/inspirational- stories-tv-spots/115-Peer-Pressure Values – “Cafeteria”: http://www.values.com/inspirational- stories-tv-spots/66-Cafeteriahttp://www.values.com/inspirational- stories-tv-spots/66-Cafeteria Values – “Locker”: http://www.values.com/inspirational-stories- tv-spots/72-Lockerhttp://www.values.com/inspirational-stories- tv-spots/72-Locker

7. Communication Styles Aggressive - harsh expression of thoughts/feelings, can be hurtful/threatening to others EX: “Get me something to drink, now!” Passive - not expressing true thoughts/feelings, going along with what others say EX: Sit quietly & never ask for a drink. Assertive - honest expression of thoughts and feelings without threatening others or feeling nervous/anxious. EX: “I’m very thirsty. Would you mind if I had a glass of water?”

8. Video Clip News Anchor Takes on Bully: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QW 6CNTXqBCM https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QW 6CNTXqBCM

9. Cyberbullying "Cyberbullying" is when a child, preteen or teen is tormented, threatened, harassed, humiliated, embarrassed or otherwise targeted by another child, preteen or teen using the Internet, interactive and digital technologies or mobile phones. Flame - a mean or hurtful e-mail. People often find it easier to say things by e-mail, rather than in person/on the phone Often b/c no contact with the person (don't see/hear reaction) Once a flame is sent – the receiver has “proof” of bullying activity!

10. How to handle Flame email/texts: Stop, Block and Tell! –STOP! - Don't do anything. Take five minutes to calm down. Do NOT delete the email/text – save it or print it out as evidence (especially if receiving multiple flame messages). –BLOCK! - Block the sender or limit all communications to those on your buddy list. –TELL! - Tell a trusted adult, you don't have to face this alone. Report Flame email or texts to the provider by using: abuse@_______.com abuse@_______.com This works for all email & cell phone providers. Information from: www.stopcyberbullying.orgwww.stopcyberbullying.org

11. Netiquette: the rules of etiquette (manners) that apply when communicating over computer networks, especially the Internet. Before you hit ‘Send’, THINK! Is it… –Truthful? –Helpful? –Intelligent? –Necessary? –Kind? If not…edit your message or don’t send it!

12. Cyber Bullying Video Clips Cyberbullying Virus: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vmQ8nM7b6XQ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vmQ8nM7b6XQ “Kitchen”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pmD8OKl8vVM https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pmD8OKl8vVM “Talent Show: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bdQBurXQOeQ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bdQBurXQOeQ Ricardo’s Story: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O1UfmBD5d7I https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O1UfmBD5d7I “There is a way out”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dkG00Czb4ho https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dkG00Czb4ho

13. Sticks & Stones Guide http://emilybazelon.com/wp- content/uploads/2013/02/SticksandSton es_Teachers-Guide.FINAL_.pdf http://emilybazelon.com/wp- content/uploads/2013/02/SticksandSton es_Teachers-Guide.FINAL_.pdf From Common Sense Media