1. Bullying… What you can do about it

2. Who is Involved? Who are the three people involved in bullying situations? Definition of Bullying – “Bullying is when a stronger, more powerful person hurts or frightens a smaller or weaker person on purpose and repeatedly (more than once)” bully victim witness

3. Physical Bullying -Physically hurting someone or threatening to hurt them. -Taking or damaging someone’s property Some things you can do … Don't walk alone Don't bring expensive things or money to school Find an adult Avoid unsupervised areas and places where bullying happens.

4. Verbal Bullying Using words to hurt or humiliate someone name calling cursing put downs Some things you can do … Don't walk alone Turn a comment into a joke Ignore the bully – Pretend you didn’t hear them Brainstorm bully comebacks and practice them ahead of time Walk away

5. Relational Bullying -Trying to convince others to exclude or reject another student. -Cutting a student off from having friends. -Using your friendship to control someone. -Telling others not to talk or play with another student -Spreading rumors about someone -Clubs -Using your friendship to control someone Some things you can do … Don't continue a rumor Work on making new friends Talk to someone ahead of time to ask them to sit with you at lunch or play with you at recess Ask for help from an adult

6. Cyber Bullying -Bullying that happens through technology— the computer or text messages. -The programs that are used to cyber bully: email IM (Instant Messenger) Websites or My Space Blogs Chat Rooms Some things you can do … Don’t respond to emails or messages that are mean to you or your friends. Don't open emails or messages from someone you know is a bully or save or print all messages from the bully. Show the messages to an adult you trust - like a parent or a teacher - and ask for help.

7. Ways to prevent Cyber Bullying …  Never give anyone your password, even your best friend. Only your parents.  Don't share personal information : secrets, photos, or anything online that might be embarrassing if someone found out.  Set up email and IM accounts with your parents. Make sure not to put your name, age, address, or phone number in your profile.  Don't send messages when you're angry. Wait until you cool off so you don't say something you'll regret.  Be a good cyber friend- don't send emails or instant messages written by a friend to anyone else.

8. The Witness… What to do if you see someone being bullied

9. Witness Strategies Be A Friend If you see someone being picked on, be a friend and walk away from the bully together. OR If you know someone that gets picked on, ask them to play with you.

10. Witness Strategies Stand Up to the Bully Tell the bully to stop. Examples: "Cut it out!", "That's not funny!", "How'd you like it if someone did that to you?“ “Cool It”

11. Witness Strategies Coach the victim Make sure the kid who's being bullied tells his parents, or a teacher. Offer to go with him if it will help. If he/she doesn't want to talk to anybody, offer to talk to someone for them.

12. Witness Strategies Relational Bullying… If someone is trying to exclude someone or hurt their reputation, you can… Include that person in your group Stop a rumor from spreading DON’T let yourself get in the middle…don’t be the messenger!

13. Witness Strategies What if your friend is the bully? (1) Talk to your friend : “Hey…leave him alone”. (2) Distract him…”Oh look…let’s play kickball with those kids” (3) Evaluate your friendship… Is this the reputation you want? Is this the kind of person you want to spend time with? You can still be happy without being in the “popular” group.

14. Relational Bullying

15. RelationalVerbal

16. Relational A girl in your class gets other students on the bus to laugh at a girl and talk about her behind her back. A boy in your class controls the sports outside and won ’ t let two boys in your class play. A girl in your class is constantly making fun of another girls clothes and who she hangs out with A boy in your class is constantly yelling at another kid in kickball and keeps him from sitting with the other guys at recess. Verbal