2What is Bullying?Bullying takes at least 2 people:the bully and the victim.In most cases there is a third person; the witnessDefinition of Bullying“Bullying is when a stronger, more powerful person hurts or frightens a smaller or weaker person on purpose and repeatedly (more than once)”
3-Taking or damaging someone’s property Physical BullyingSome things you can do…Don't walk aloneDon't bring expensive things or money to schoolFind an adultAvoid unsupervised areas and places where bullying happens.-Physically hurting someone or threatening to hurt them.-Taking or damaging someone’s property
4Using words to hurt or embarrass someone Verbal BullyingSome things you can do…Don't walk aloneTurn a comment into a jokeIgnore the bully – Pretend you didn’t hear themBrainstorm bully comebacks and practice them ahead of timeWalk awayUsing words to hurt or embarrass someonename callingcursingput downsWriting a mean letter about someone
5Relational Bullying-Trying to convince others to exclude or reject someone.-Cutting a student off from having friends.-Using your friendship to control someone.-Telling others not to talk or play with another student-Spreading rumors about someone-Clubs-Using your friendship to control someoneSome things you can do…Don't continue a rumorWork on making new friendsTalk to someone ahead of time to ask them to sit with you at lunch or play with you at recessAsk for help from an adult
6IM (Instant Messenger) Cyber Bullying-Bullying that happens through technology— the computer or text messages. -The programs that are used to cyber bully:IM (Instant Messenger)Websites or My SpaceBlogsChat RoomsSome things you can do…Don’t respond to s or messages that are mean to you or your friends.Don't open s or messages from someone you know is a bully or save or print all messages from the bully.Show the messages to an adult you trust - like a parent or a teacher - and ask for help.
7Ways to prevent Cyber Bullying… Never give anyone your password, even your best friend. Only your parents.Don't share personal information: secrets, photos, or anything online that might be embarrassing if someone found out.Set up and IM accounts with your parents. Make sure not to put your name, age, address, or phone number in your profile.Don't send messages when you're angry. Wait until you cool off so you don't say something you'll regret.Be a good cyber friend-don't send s or instant messages written by a friend to anyone else.
8Survey Results What does this tell us about bullying at our school? Mr. Shaeffer’s Class 2009Survey Results What does this tell us about bullying at our school?
9The Witness…What to do if you see someone being bullied
10Witness Strategies It is Important to know! There is power in numbers! The more people you have stand up to a bully…the more likely you are to be successful in changing the bully or bullyingThe WITNESS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON WHO CAN CHANGE BULLYING!
11Witness Strategies Be A Friend If you see someone being picked on, be a friend and walk away from the bully together.ORIf you know someone that gets picked on, ask them to play with you.Role-Play/ discussionYou have seen a student in your class being bullied during recess. The kids that play kickball never let him/her play and tell him/her that he/she is terrible at kickball.What can you Do?What can you say?
12Witness Strategies Be A Friend If you see someone being picked on, be a friend and walk away from the bully together.ORIf you know someone that gets picked on, ask them to play with you before the bullying starts.
13Witness Strategies Stand Up to the Bully Tell the bully to stop.Examples: "Cut it out!", "That's not funny!","How'd you like it if someone did that to you?“ “Cool It”Role-Play/ discussionThere is a kid on the bus who is always picking on other students. He/she using name calling and yelling to bully. He/she also makes kids get out of the seat he wants.What can you Do?What can you say?
14Witness Strategies Stand Up to the Bully Tell the bully to stop. Be calm, say what you need to say, and walk away."Cut it out.““Leave him alone”“Cool It”
15Witness Strategies Coach the victim Give them some ideas on how to stop the bullyingHelp the victim to get help from an adult.Role-Play/ discussionYour friend tells you that someone has been bullying them on the bus. You don’t ride the same bus with them.What can you Do?What can you say?
16Witness Strategies Coach the victim Give them some ideas on how to stop the bullyingHelp the victim to get help from an adult.Role-Play/ discussionYour friend tells you that someone has been bullying them on the bus. You don’t ride the same bus with them.What can you Do?What can you say?
17Witness Strategies Relational Bullying… If someone is trying to exclude someone or hurt their reputation, YOU can…Include that person in your groupStop a rumor from spreadingDON’T let yourself get in the middle…don’t be the messenger!
18Witness Strategies If your friend is the bully? (1) Talk to your friend : “Hey…leave him alone”.(2) Distract him…”Oh look…let’s play kickball with those kids”(3) Evaluate your friendship… Is this the reputation you want? Is this the kind of person you want to spend time with? You can still be happy without being in the “popular” group.