1. Emotions in ADHD: Getting Stuck & Moving Forward Thomas E. Brown, Ph.D. Dept. of Psychiatry Yale University School of Medicine

2. Problems with Emotions in ADHD Children & adults with ADHD experience similar emotions to others of similar age Yet they and their families often have more difficulty in recognizing, responding to and managing their emotions TEBrown,Ph.D. Yale Medical School

3. How ADHD can affect emotions: Reactions to small frustrations can gobble up all the space in their mind—like a computer virus frustration/anger hurt feelings “got to have it now” “what if?” So they forget other feelings and bigger picture TEBrown,Ph.D. Yale Medical School

4. Flooding with one emotion While flooded with one emotion, persons with ADHD tend to forget about other relevant emotions -may forget their love & wish to protect the person—friend, parent, child, co-worker who frustrated or angered them and say or do things that are too hurtful TEBrown,Ph.D. Yale Medical School

5. Sue 14 year old middle school student “Until I got into middle school I always got really good grades and never got into trouble. Now everybody thinks I’m hopeless because I dress Goth and don’t do much homework. My parents and teachers all look down on me just because of the friends I hang out with. They don’t really know me or my friends.” TEBrown,Ph.D. Yale Medical School

6. Eric 20 year old college student “I’m in a great university where I want to do well, but I just can’t get myself motivated to do the work. I did really well in high school, now my grades have tanked. I’ve been spending too much time hanging out with my girlfriend and smoking weed. I’ve tried some ADHD medicines, but they make me too jittery. TEBrown,Ph.D. Yale Medical School

7. Emotions in the Family with ADHD Frequently parents of a child with ADHD are excessively stressed and may become polarized against each other. “Butt-kicker”vs. “Marshmallow” Need to work together to decide when to support with confrontation vs. flexibility. TEBrown,Ph.D. Yale Medical School

8. Rearranging Penalties & Rewards People with ADHD often have difficulty in waiting for delayed payoffs—may think too much about now and not enough about later You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar Keep corrections and penalties short/focused TEBrown,Ph.D. Yale Medical School

9. Missing the bigger picture, the larger context and other goals When flooded with one emotion, they may forget other goals they have or how actions of the moment may affect their bigger picture like one who is watching a basketball game through a telescope, they may miss other relevant aspects of the situation living too much in the moment, eg. want to sleep longer in am, may forget that boss warned about excessive lateness TEBrown,Ph.D. Yale Medical School

10. What may help? (nothing works all the time) Get help to explicitly recognize your conflicting emotions Support now and nurture realistic hope for future Adequately tailored medication for ADHD Defer confrontation until a cooler moment Anticipate and prepare for “danger zones” e.g. “handoff” Utilize “Getting to Yes” strategies to work toward “win-win ” TEBrown,Ph.D. Yale Medical School

11. For more info: A new book: Smart but Stuck: Emotions in Teens & Adults with ADHD read a segment of this book on my website for free: www.DrThomasEBrown.com TEBrown,Ph.D. Yale Medical School