Presentation on theme: "Using WRAP to Develop a Strong System of Support"— Presentation transcript:
1Using WRAP to Develop a Strong System of Support Mary Ellen Copeland PhDThe Copeland Center forWellness and RecoverySponsored in partnership withEssential LearningDecember 16, 2009
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3This information in this webinar will be useful to people who: have developed and use their own WRAPlead WRAP groupswork with people who use WRAP as their guide to recoverywant to develop and keep a strong system of support
4It will be helpful if you need to answer questions from: people you are working with and supportingWRAP group participantspeople attending follow up support groups and recovery groups
5Earliest studies ( ) showed the importance of support in working toward Wellness and Recovery.
6Later studies provided more data on how to develop and keep a strong support system.
7They also addressed the importance of enjoying time alone. People who had strong support systems and enjoyed being alone had few issues with loneliness and seemed to have greater success as they worked on their recovery.
8As you work through the WRAP process for developing and keeping a strong support system, add in tools and strategies that help you enjoy and even crave time alone.
9Before we begin working on specifically on developing a WRAP for building and keeping support, I want to share with you some key points I have learned about support through my studies.
10Support from family, friends, and care providers promotes wellness and recovery. Being effectively supported helps people feel better and enriches their lives.People in recovery benefit from having at least five good friends or supporters.
11Someone to talk and share with Companionship/to have a good timeHelp in figuring things out and making decisionsSomeone to take over and keep you safe when you can’t take care of yourself
12These are people who: Care about you Empathize with you Affirm and validate you and your experienceAccept you as you areListen to you and share with you
13Advocate for youEnjoy sharing fun and interesting activities with youMake decisions for you when you can’t dothis for yourselfAre willing to follow your predetermined plans
14Empathize, empathize, empathize Good SupportersListen, listen, listenEmpathize, empathize, empathize
15They know that unasked for advice, criticism and judgments won’t help and will make the other person feel worse.
16You may have to educate your supporters about what you want and need. And ask them what they want and need from you in return.
17Relationship Enhancers Positive Self EsteemTaking good care of yourselfMutualityRespecting boundaries
18Keeping in touchTreating others with unconditional high regardAvoiding people who treat you badly
19Using "I" statementsListening well, sometimes to the same story over and overBeing clear about what you can listen to and what you can't
20Accepting the other person's view of reality Staying with someone when they are having a hard time
21Relationship Spoilers Feeling that others won't like youNot taking good care of yourselfTreating others badly
22Acting in ways that may be embarrassing to others Being needy and drainingInterruptingSharing "I can top that stories"Giving advice
23Criticism, judgment, sarcasm, Put Downs Dragging Up the PastLabelsNegative Comparisons, Badmouthing Others
25One Person Doing All the Talking “Know It All” BehaviorWanting You to be only Their FriendFlirting with Your Partner
26Controlling BehaviorNot Wanting to be Seen with You in Public PlacesClinging or Very Needy BehaviorInappropriate Sexual Talk
27Supportive Statements I am here for you.I care.What happened?I am sorry that happened to you.That sounds really hard.I'm here to listenHow can we work together so you can feel better.
28Begin by taking very small steps, gradually expanding your circle of supporters: Start by sharing more openly with one person you know very well.Invite that person to share an activity with you.When you feel ready, choose another person with whom you are willing to share
294. A next step might be going to a peer center or support group. 5. Gradually share more openly with people in the group.6. If you become uncomfortable with a person or a group, choose others to be supporters.
30WRAP Wellness Toolbox Daily Maintenance Plan Triggers and an action planEarly warning signs and an action planWhen things are breaking down and an action planCrisis PlanningPost Crisis Planning
31How you use it in your life Using WRAP You DecideWhen you develop itHow long you takeWhat you put in itWhen you revise itHow you use it in your life
32Wellness Toolbox Who can be your supporters Connecting with supporters Beginning and maintaining relationshipsBeing with supportersActivities with supportersThings to do alone
33Who can be your supporters Family membersFriendsColleaguesPeersHealth care providers
34In choosing supporters: Avoid limiting your options.Supporters can be any age, shape, size, sex, sexual orientation, and from any religious, cultural, ethnic, educational or economic background.
35Support groups and peer support centers are great places to meet potential supporters.
36Connecting with Supporters Where did you meet people who are now your friends?Community activitiesSupport groupsVolunteeringWork
37Special interest groups Religious and spiritual activitiesEducational activitiesNeighbors
38Beginning and Maintaining Relationships Reaching outIntroducing yourselfChattingArranging to get together
40Being with Supporters Listening Sharing Empathizing Peer counseling/exchange listeningCheck-ins
41Problem solvingSupporting through hard timesUsing "I" StatementsRespecting boundaries
42Activities with Supporters CookingSportsExerciseMovies, plays, concertsTalkingEating
43Things to Do AloneCreative artsWritingMusicExerciseReading
44Decorating your living space GardeningFixing thingsMeditation
45Add new tools that have to do with support whenever you notice or discover them Loneliness BookWinning Against RelapseSelf help books
46The internet and social networking sites Friends and supportersCare providersClasses, workshops, seminars, groups
47What I am like When I am Well Think about times in your life when you felt connected with another person or other people and when you didn’t feel lonely.Make a list, write a story, draw a picture, make a collage that describes what that felt like. If you can’t think of such a time, write how you would like it to be.
48Refer to this page whenever you need to be reminded of what you are working toward, of what you want to feel like when you have a strong support system, are using it well or when you are enjoying spending time alone.
49Daily MaintenanceWhich Wellness Tools do you need to use every day to assure that your support system is strong?Check-in/reality checkCall at least one friend or family memberAvoid people who treat me badlyHave a meal with a family member
50Have a 5 minute exchange listening session with a supporter Spend at least 1/2 hour doing something fun alone
51Things I Might Need to Do Spend more time with supportersMake an appointment with a care providerSpend extra time alone
52Plan a special activity with a supporter Arrange a meeting for my supportersDiscuss my Advance Directive with supportersListen and empathize with a friend
53Triggers A disagreement with a friend Someone treating you badly No friends being availableA Friend cancelled time together
54Being judged or criticized Ending a relationshipA difficult phone callNot enough time alone
55Triggers Action Plan Use "I" statements Respect boundaries Do a reality checkTalk to a supporterExchange listening1 hour doing something alone I enjoyGo to a support group meeting
56Early Warning SignsYou have less than 5 people on your list of supportersYou don't want to answer the phone or doorYou are feeling needy and desperateYou are impatient with othersYou feel hurt someone can't pay attention to youYou feel like others don't like you
57Early Warning Signs Action Plan 2 peer counseling sessionsCall a friend and tell them how you are feeling--ask for their ideasAsk a friend to go for a walk with youGo to a movie by yourselfDo something you do wellDo something nice for someone else
58When Things are Breaking Down You haven't reached out to a supporter in 3 daysYou feel like no one likes youYou can't remember who your supporters areYou are rude to a family memberYou are very irritable and impatient
59When Things are Breaking Down Action Plan Have a 5 minute check-in with each of my supportersProblem solve with supportersHave a meal with familyUse "I" statementsTreat others with unconditional high regardSpend at least 2 hours doing something I enjoy alone
60Advance DirectiveSupporters are key to the success of the Advance Directive.Include them in the development of the directive.Discuss it with them and give them a copy when it is complete.Give them revised copies as needed.
61Do the best you possibly can Choose supporters who are willing to follow your directive.Do the best you possibly canto be cooperative.
62Describe signs that others need to help you clearly so they can be easily understood Washing my hands for two hours and won't stopSaying words for 2 hours that others can't understandNot recognizing family membersPurposefully breaking furnitureThreatening the safety of others
63List your supporters, how to be in touch with them and what you want them to do. List people you do not want to be involved.
64Describe clearly: What others can do that helps and what does not help Chores they need to take care ofSpecific plans for "staying-at-home"Indicators that others no longer need to follow the plan
65Post Crisis PlanYour support team is also key in your post crisis plan. You may want to review that with them as well.List clearly the people you want to assist and support you through the Post Crisis phase.Be clear about people you need to avoid.
66Your support team will be crucial as you gradually work toward "Resuming Responsibilities".
67Begin using this WRAP for Developing and Keeping a Strong Support Systems whenever you want to. At first you may want to review your plan everyday, following your Daily Maintenance Plan, and taking other action as needed.
68After a while you will notice that you remember your plan and only need to refer to it from time to time, unless you are having a difficult time.At some point, you may want to incorporate this WRAP into your basic WRAP.
69Revise your plan when you discover new Wellness Tools and find that some things work better for you than others and as the circumstances of your life change .
70Keep lists of your supporters in convenient places BedsideHanging on your refrigerator or bulletin boardNear your phone
71Update your list of supporters as it changes. Work on Developing and Keeping a Strong Support System is on-going over time.It is well worth the effort.
72Get more ideas on Developing and Keeping a Strong Support System Talk to others who have had similar experiencesJoin a support groupWebsites: mentalhealthrecovery.com, wraparoundtheworld.comSign up for the newsletterTake an Online Course
73Many, many mental health recovery and WRAP resources including: The Loneliness WorkbookWRAP StoriesWinning Against RelapseThe Depression WorkbookWRAP books
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