2 Developing a Relationship Friendships (The first relationships we form outside of the family)Include the following :1. Companionship: Friends are usually happy and relaxed when they are around each other2. Respect: show respect by being honest3. Acceptance: They accept each other. They can be themselves without feeling criticized.4. Help: Friends know they can rely on each other in times of need.5. Trust: They feel safe confiding in each other6. Loyalty: Friends stand up for each other7. Mutuality: Friends share the ups and downs of each other’s lives.8. Reciprocity: Give- and – take
3 Choosing a Partner Lives in the same geographic area Is from similar ethnic and socioeconomic backgroundHas similar educational attainmentLives a similar lifestyleIs like them in terms of physical attractiveness
4 Communication The keys to good communication in relationships: Self-disclosureListeningFeedbackNon Verbal- 65% communication is non verbal-Ability to interpret non verbal messagesUnderstand differences in communication by gender: -Men try to establish dominance and listen less-Women seek advice and pay attention to body language
5 Challenges in a Relationship Unequal or Premature CommitmentUnrealistic ExpectationsCompetitivenessBalancing time together and apartJealousySupportiveness
6 Unhealthy Relationships Could be physically or mentally abusiveLacks love and respectToo much criticism, contempt, defensiveness and withdraw
7 CohabitationCohabitation: Living together in a sexual relationship without being married.Cohabiting couples have a 51% chance of marrying after 3 years togetherAdvantages:Lowers the cost of livingEmotional support and sexual relations without the commitment of marriageTests your compatibility before agreeing to marriage
8 Traditional Marriage: Between Man and Woman Heterosexual union, social or legal union between opposite sex couplesHeterosexual: Emotional and sexual attraction to people of the other sex
9 Characteristics of a happy Marriage: Realistic expectations about the relationshipGood communication skillsAgree on religious/ethical valuesResolve conflicts effectivelyMutual trustEqual rolesBalance of interests
10 The Benefits of Marriage AffectionPersonal affirmationCompanionshipSexual FulfillmentEmotional GrowthCan provide a setting to raise children
11 Same-Sex Relationships Sexual Orientation: A consistent pattern of emotional and sexual attraction based on biological sex.- It exists along a continuum that ranges from exclusive heterosexuality, bisexuality, to exclusive homosexuality.Same-Sex Relationships
12 Bisexuality & Homosexuality Bisexuality: emotional and sexual attraction of people of both sexes (male and female).Homosexuality: emotional and sexual attraction to people of one’s own sex (male-male; female-female).Similarities with heterosexual couples:Same-sex partnerships provide intimacy, passion, and security.Same-sex partnerships tend to be more equal and less organized around traditional gender roles:-Greater emphasis on partnership than role assignment. -Domestic tasks are split.
13 LGBTQIPeople with diverse sexual orientations and gender identities are often grouped together.Lesbian: Female-FemaleGay: Male-MaleBisexual: Female/MaleTransgendered: people who’s biological sex doesn’t match their gender identityQuestioning or QueerIntersex: people born with ambiguous genitals
14 Controversy of Same-Sex Relationships 1. Societal hostility or ambivalenceHomophobia: fear or hatred of homosexualsThere can be violence, discrimination, or can be subtle.2. Religious views also play a role in same-sex relationship controversy.Politics- presidential support3. Problems with family may arise when individual “comes out”Family trouble with acceptance of same-sex relationship or same sex marriage.
15 Legalization of Gay Marriage Marriage between the same sexProponents argue that same-sex couples should have access to the same marriage benefits and public acknowledgment enjoyed by heterosexual couples and that prohibiting gay marriage is unconstitutional discrimination.Opponents argue that altering the traditional definition of marriage as between a man and a woman will further weaken a threatened institution and that legalizing gay marriage is a slippery slope that may lead to polygamous and interspecies marriages.
16 States with Legalized Gay Marriage Massachusetts (May 17, 2004)Connecticut (Nov. 12, 2008)Iowa (Apr )Vermont (Sep. 1, 2009)New Hampshire (Jan. 1, 2010)New York (June 24, 2011)Washington (Dec. 9, 2012)Maine (Dec. 29, 2012)Maryland (Jan. 1, 2013)California (June 28, 2013)Delaware (July 1, 2013)Rhode Island (Aug. 1, 2013)Minnesota (Aug. 1, 2013)New Jersey (Oct. 21, 2013)Hawaii (Dec. 2, 2013)Illinois (law will take effect June 1, 2014)
17 Common LawA marriage existing by mutual agreement between a man and a woman, or by the fact of their cohabitation, without a civil or religious ceremony.
19 Divorce First Marriage: 45% to 50% marriages end in divorce Second Marriage: 60% to 67% marriages end in divorceThird Marriage: 70% to 73% marriages end in divorceCouples With Children: 40%Couples Without Children: 66%