1. Warm Up 1) What do you think body language is? 2) Give an example of body language 3) What is this emotion? How do you know? 4)

2. Body language means expressing feelings through body movement and facial expressions. Examples: smiling, shrugging shoulders, and rolling the eyes. Problems may occur in communicating when a sender's actions in some way contradict what she or he says.

3. FLT I can identify common body language cues and how this can help diffuse conflicts through a worksheet, role play, a power point, and a movie

4. Body Language

5. ‘What often happens in any relationship is that language itself becomes a mask and a means of clouding and confusing the relationship. If the spoken language is stripped away and the only communication left is body language, the truth will find some way of poling through. Spoken language itself is a great obscurer” Body Language Body Language, Julius Fast, MJF books, 1970. Actions Speak Louder than Words?

6. Do you know what you are saying?

7. What emotions do you see? How can you tell?

13. Discuss with a partner What are some nonverbal body language messages that are particularly positive? Negative?

14. Activity 1—Worksheet and Team Role Play Work on gestures side of worksheet. When all in the group are finished, yell “CHECKPOINT” and I will bring you emotion cards for your team Take turns acting out emotions and recording the viewed behaviors

15. Space around you Intimate Touching 6-18” Personal Close -1½ to 2½ feet Far - 2½ to 4 ½ feet Social Close 4-7 feet Far - 7-12 feet Public Close - 12-25 feet Far - 25 feet or greater

16. When you invade my space Reactions to an invasion of your space Feel troubled Get defensive Become aggressive Retaliate

17. Sometimes one person is offended by another's body language. How can you work to keep that from happening? Misinterpretation of signals Can be BIG trouble Legal trouble Do you know how to act or are you confused?

18. Different Cultures... A crowded culture What is your private space?

19. Ms. Morris- O’Hearn, the teacher and her body language

20. Video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JZ0cLIE5YI4 1.5 hrs Fill in the answers to the questions

21. Warm Up 1) Give examples of aggressive behavior. 2) Give examples of passive behavior. 3) Give examples of assertive behavior. 4) Which behavior is the most likely to have friends? Aggressive, passive, or assertive?

22. FLT I can score an 80% or higher on the communication exit quiz and practice being an active listener and using “I messages” practice

23. COMMUNICATION Every message is sent and received through one of our five senses—it is seen, heard, touched, tasted, or smelled. When the receiver gets the message (through seeing, hearing, feeling, touching, or smelling), he or she will usually give feedback (return message) unconsciously or consciously. Thus, the communications process is on- going.

24. Activity 1

26. How you communicate is your CHOICE!!

27. Discuss with partner which communication is the most effective.

30. Activity 2

31. What is an “I message”? Use “I messages” to intervene when there is a relationship problem (examples: teasing, gossip, horsing around, arguing, being rude, lying). This is a solution-focused, respectful way of letting the person know of your concerns and what you want to see happen. Use eye contact Tell the person: “I have a problem…” Describe the problem or behavior in a non-threatening way. “When you do this... I feel" Tell the person how you feel about the problem. “I feel…” Then ask two questions: 1) “If you continue this behavior, will it make our relationship better or worse? and 2)“Do you want our relationship to get better or worse?” What can I say to a person if I have a concern? Practice the following examples of “I messages”: “I have a problem and need to talk to you.” (Wait for response.) “When you argue with me after I ask you to stop, it makes me feel frustrated.” (Wait for response.) If you continue to argue after I ask you to stop, will it make our relationship better or worse?” (Wait for response.) “Do you want our relationship to get better or worse?” (Wait for response.)

32. Activity 3 Practice I messages with a partner.

33. Exit Quiz