1. “…Life is like a river, and most people jump on the river of life without ever really deciding where they want to end up. So, in a short period of time, they get caught up in the current: current events, current fears, current challenges. When they come to forks in the river, they don't consciously decide where they want to go, or which direction is right for them. They merely "go with the flow." They become a part of the mass of people who are directed by the environment instead of by their own values. As a result, they feel out of control. They remain in this unconscious state until one day the sound of the raging water awakens them and they discover that they are 5 feet from Niagara Falls in a boat with no oars. At this point, all they can say is, "oh, shoot!" But by then it's too late. They are going to take a fall. Sometimes it's an emotional fall. Sometimes it's a physical fall. Sometimes it's a financial fall. It is likely that whatever challenges you have in your life currently could have been avoided by some better decisions upstream.” (Robbins, 41-42).

2. VALUES Which ones are helping you to live your dreams? www.values.com
Live Your Dreams Link
VALUES
Which ones are helping you to live your dreams?

3. Unfinished sentences On Saturday’s I like to….
Blank “Activity paper” is needed for today
On Saturday’s I like to….
If I had 24 hours to live, I’d….
If I had my own car and all the gas I needed, I’d…
If I had a million dollars…..
I would risk my life for….
If I could choose to be an animal, I would be…Why?
Each choose one to share what was said. Identify what is most important to that person based on their answer.

4. 1. Values are anything in life that is important to us
1. Values are anything in life that is important to us. - Ideas and qualities that we feel strongly about.
The greatest Link

5. Morals/standards
Security
Family
Friends
Religion
Marriage
Children
Solitude
Relaxation
Love
Peace
Happiness
Comfort
Respect
Punctuality
Trust
Order
Dependability
Success
Career
Intelligence
Understanding
Loyalty
Talking
Hearing
Examples
Work
Health
School
Helpfulness
Kindness
Money
Music
Recognition
Sports
Nature
Power
Winning
Sharing
Beauty
Cleanliness
Recreation
Life
Determination
Laughter
Smiles
Challenges
Learning
Sight
Cars
Convenience
Freedom
The flag
Animals
Achievement
Advancement
Adventure
Affection
Competitiveness
Cooperation
Creativity
Economic security
Fame
Family happiness
Inner harmony
Integrity
Involvement
Personal development
Pleasure
Responsibility
Self-respect
Spirituality
Wealth
Wisdom
Skill
Religious faith
Physical appearance
knowledge
justice
job
education

6. What is the purpose of this?
The concert link
What is the purpose of a steering wheel? What is its purpose? What happens if it breaks? What is in the center of the steering wheel? What is its purpose? (Get’s attention).

7. 2. Values are the basis for guiding our decision-making.
They provide direction, consistency, and meaning to our decision.
They are the criteria and motivation to judge our behavior and actions.
They get our attention!
Your most important values are in the center of your personal “steering wheel”
Values help us to identify our wants and our needs.

8. So, what is my life centered on?
Forced Choice Assessment on your activity paper.
Begin in the middle of the front page (#6 and 12)
Choose the answer that first comes to mind without spending time thinking about it.
Yes, do the back side evaluation, too.
Hand out scrap for 7 tickets. Have them tear these into 7 pieces and set aside.

9. 3. Who / what influences your value’s?
a. Ages 1-7: (imprinting) Parents have the greatest influence on the development of a child’s values.
b. Ages 8-13: (modeling) Teachers, heroes, media, and sports
c. Ages 14-20: (socializing) Peers influence values.
Adolescence is a time when there is often a questioning of parental values.
d. Ages 21+: 90% of values are set unless something
significant or drastic happens.
Look at your list of values – where did you learn these?
It’s Okay Kid…. (8)

10. Where do our values come from?
Our culture Our parents
Other family influences Our Friends
Our teachers Our Environment
The internet Television

11. Write your top 7 values on these squares of paper.

12. 4. So, when are our values discovered?
Our values are revealed and discovered through our personal Choices, decisions, and experiences.

13. 5. When behaviors are in opposition with values, internal conflict arises.
Alphabet soup
Either you or a student do the Rubberband demo. Stretch it between both pointer fingers. In relation to your life, How does being tight like this feel? How do we act when in this situation? We have 2 choices: change our values or change our behavior. Consequences! Play alphabet soup

14. Value Cycle Choice Act against your values Act within your values
Have a clear conscience
Be self-confident
Have peace of mind
Gain trust
Build self-esteem
Feel guilty
Be ashamed
Have legal problems
Lose trust
Lost self-esteem
Results in:
Unhappiness or lowering of
values to justify the actions
Results in:
Happiness and contentment
for keeping values in tact.

15. Knowing what our values are and then learning to live by them is one of the most powerful ways to gain inner peace and decrease stress levels.
Consider the man who deeply values his relationship with his wife and kids. He is a family man. But frequently, during his workday, he spends excessive amounts of time with other women, taking them out to lunch. This man’s conscience will very likely cause some unpleasant feelings within because his actions do not match the things he considers that are most important.
Consider the wife and mother that deeply values her relationship with her husband and kids. But, she spends a great deal of time serving others or working long hours and her family goes without some important time with her.

16. What do they Value? Knowing what our values are and then learning
Pete told his friend Brett about a problem he was having. Dan wanted to know what Pete had told Brett, but Brett decided to keep Pete’s problem private.
Alex decided to go home soon after he arrived at his friend’s party because they were making plans to prank several of the neighbors and then vandalize a local park.
Whenever they go to a fast-food restaurant, Jackie’s friends have hamburgers, fries, and soft drinks. Jackie usually chooses yogurt and a tossed salad.
Knowing what our values are and then learning
to live by them is one of the most powerful ways
to gain inner peace and decrease stress levels.

17. Bean Madness

18. What if your values go against your friend’s, parent’s or family values?
6. Disagreements over values can create conflict among family members and friends.
7. People can maintain their own values and still show respect for the values of others (ie: parents and friends)

19. 8. Values should be consistent with your actions.
You will never be disappointed with yourself if you follow your values.
Magic potion: vinegar and baking soda mixture. Always reacts the same way when they are put together.

20. Alligator Story
In groups read the story and decide the who is worst and best.

21. Assignment #5 and 6 #5 = Value scenarios in your study guide.
#6 = (STATE ASSIGNMENT) Value letter
You are dying and leaving behind young children that you will never be able to influence and teach.
Explain 4-5 of your top values in letter form to your children.
Underline your values within the letter.
Remember to complete Reflection #3

22. Story about Ben Franklin
Ben Franklin listed 13 values that he felt was the most important to live by. He called them The 13 Virtues.

23. To Know Your Values It is something that is important to you?
Does it make you feel good about this begin important to you?
Does it make you feel good when you act or behave on this value?
Does it make you feel good to know that other people show you respect because they know it is important to you?
Have you ever acted or behaved in line with this value? How did it make you feel?
Is it something you feel strong enough about to do it when all the other people are doing something else?
Is it in line with your idea of who you are and who you wish to became?