2. Session 1 - Goals of Anger control training

3. Why control Anger? To give ourselves greater control over our lives To have a better relationship with others in our lives To ensure that our anger and aggression does not lead to trouble with authorities (school, the law, etc.) To be more successful in our own lives, as have such people as Jackie Chan and Evander Hollifield

4. The A B C’s of Anger A= The trigger (What led up to it?) B=What did you do when angry? C= Consequences for you and others

5. Activity 1 Think of 1 time when you were angry recently. Fill out the picture sheet for this occasion to show: 1.When, where what, who it concerned 2. Write/draw what you did. 3. Say how you felt afterwards 4. Rate how you handled it.

6. Session 2 - Triggers

7. Triggers may be: External - things done by one person to make another person angry May be verbal or non- verbal Almost always an external trigger is not enough to cause anger to occur Internal - what you say to yourself to make you angry The main cause of an angry outburst Follows an external trigger to get your action

8. The Hastle Log - Activity 2 Diary of incidents where you have felt hastled. Records whether you handled it well, or whether you did not. To be filled in shortly after an incident.

9. Session 3

10. Cues tell you that you are getting angry Tense muscles Grinding teeth Heart pounding Sweating Clenched fists Face sets in a frown

11. Anger reducers bring down our anger levels 1. Deep breathing (brings down tension, more controlled response) 2. Count backwards (shows you have the personal power to control your reaction, lowers anger level, gives thinking time) Think of a pleasant thought and build on it.

12. Session summary Know your triggers Know your cues Know your anger reducers

13. Session 4

14. Reminders help us to remember All successful people have been coached. They also learn to coach themselves when the need arises. Reminders only work if you want them go.

15. Sample reminders Stay calm, it’s OK… I can handle this… It’s not worth it, stay calm.. Stay cool, think it through… I’m in control, not my anger… OK, develop a plan, what do I do… I need to go to my calm down place Good, I’m handling this - hang in there…

16. Session 5 (I can do it!)

17. The keys to good preparation:  Prepare to get upset before it happens  Have a plan for confrontation  Learn how to cope with getting angry  Think how you went:  Went well - congratulations!  Not so well - how can I do better?