Are you a bully? Take this “test” to find out where you stand.
1.You are asked to sit at a table with some really popular kids. They give you food and dare you to hit your friend with it. What do you do? A.You throw food at your friend and tell him you’re sorry later.You throw food at your friend and tell him you’re sorry later. B. You throw the food and laugh. C. You tell the teacher even though they may talk about you.
2.You see your friend beating up another kid at recess. A group of kids are surrounding them. What do you do? A.You join in the fight and beat the kid up with your friend.You join in the fight and beat the kid up with your friend. B. You help the victim and tell your friend to cut it out. C. Since there is a group of kids, you watch.
3.You see a bully in the window, being hurt by his Dad. What should you do? A. Sit and laugh, he deserves it. B. Talk to your parents or a teacher. C. Pretend you didn’t see it.
4.You are asked to go with a bunch of bullies and vandalize the cafeteria. What do you do? A. Go with them and get caught. C. Tell an adult and try to prevent it. B. Tell them no and walk away.
5.A bully threatens you when you see him cheat on a test. What should you do? A. Walk away but be worried the rest of the day. B.Tell your parents or another adult. They can help you.Tell your parents or another adult. They can help you. C.Threaten them right back. It is not like they are really going to do something to you.Threaten them right back. It is not like they are really going to do something to you.
6.You see your neighbor’s garage door is open. Inside you see a brand new bike and your friend dares you to steal it. You walk in and grab the bike, but you make a lot of noise getting it out and accidentally dent it. The neighbor runs out and sees you. What do you do? A. Tell him that you’re sorry and fix his bike for him. B. Blame it on your friend and say he made you do it. C. Lie and tell the owner that you were just passing by and someone else did it.
7.You go online and see that a kid you don’t like is on. You threaten him and you think it’s a joke. The next day at school the kid tells the teacher and she asks if anyone did it. What do you do? A. You pretend that you didn’t hear the teacher B.You tell the truth, even though you may get into trouble.You tell the truth, even though you may get into trouble. C. You lie and say he’s making it up.
8.You hear some kids making fun of a student in the class what do you do? A. Go join them. B. Tell them to stop. C. Ignore them.
9.You see someone take another child’s cell phone. What do you do? A. Tell the bully to give it back. B. Ignore them. C. Laugh and make fun of the child.
10.One of the “popular” kids in the class asks you to do her homework. If you don’t do it, she will tell all the other kids not to hang around with you. What do you do? A. Do her homework for her. B.Don’t do it and then tell the teacher or an adult so she can’t do it to someone else.Don’t do it and then tell the teacher or an adult so she can’t do it to someone else. C. Do it, but get her a really bad grade.
11.You and the rest of your basketball team have slacked off in school and your coach found out and canceled your season and practices. One of the kids suggest in retaliation to trash the gym at night. You… 11.You and the rest of your basketball team have slacked off in school and your coach found out and canceled your season and practices. One of the kids suggest in retaliation to trash the gym at night. You… A.Go along with it. After all, who’s going to know that YOU did it?Go along with it. After all, who’s going to know that YOU did it? B. Say no, but regret it when your teammates call you names. C. Say that you don’t think it’s a good idea and make sure your teammates don’t do it.
12.Your teacher steps out of the classroom to speak to another student. Someone throws a pencil at you. Do you … A.Throw it back, or at someone else.Throw it back, or at someone else. B.Ignore it.Ignore it. C.Hit the student who threw it.Hit the student who threw it.
a) It involves harmful actions against another person’s body. Some examples are hitting, pinching, kicking. Interfering with another person's property. Some examples include stealing, damaging. b) It’s speaking to a person or about a person in a way that is unkind and hurtful to that person e.g. teasing, name calling, spreading rumors, whispering. c) It refers to all the types of behaviors that upset, exclude or embarrass another person e.g. leaving a person out of a game or activity on purpose, making rude gestures such as poking, sticking out your tongue, writing hate notes about a person that will be upsetting to that person.
Cyber Bullying Bullying also can happen on-line or electronically. This can include: Sending mean text, e-mail, or instant messages; Posting nasty pictures or messages about others in blogs or on Websites; Using someone's user name to spread rumors or lies about someone else.
Race Color National origin Ethnic group Religion Religious Practice Weight Sexual orientation Gender Sex Disability
On the second day of eighth grade, a girl in Emily's class shoved her into the road. Thinking she was playing, Emily shoved her back. Rumors began circulating within the school and Emily gained a reputation. The girl was part of a group of girls who continued to spread rumors about Emily; they also began stalking her in the playground. Some of the teachers, believing the rumors about Emily, accused her of bullying the other girl, and cautioned her parents about her behavior. Roughly once every 2 weeks Emily's parents would meet with the principal to try to convince him that Emily was the victim. No one in authority admitted that bullying existed at the school. Nothing was done. For 3 years, the bullying continued with silent phone calls, threats, and occasional physical incidents. Each time, after Emily or her parents complained, the teachers would glare at her in the hallway. After the bully graduated, the rest of the group of girls continued the bullying. Once when they cornered Emily against the wall, a teacher approached them and threatened Emily with further punishment if she continued her behavior. The teacher then sent the other girls back to the playground.
What can a teacher do for Emily? What could a counselor do for Emily? Who is the bully in this case? How might this continued abuse affect Emily in the long term?
Ignore them!Pretend you didn’t hear them Don’t even look at them Remove yourself from the situation Don’t get angryDon’t show them that you are upset Talk about it to someone else Tell an adultRespond with assertive communication
Don’t bring expensive things or money to school. Label your belongings with permanent marker in case they get stolen. Avoid unsupervised areas. Walk with a group of friends to class. Act confident. Hold your head up, stand up straight, and make eye contact.
The bully is someone others look up to and want to hang out with. They want to “side” with the bully because to do that makes them feel strong. They’re entertained by the bullying. They don’t think speaking up will help. They’re afraid that if they say something, the bully will turn on them.
Distraction : If you are with a friend who begins to hurtfully tease someone else, quickly distract your friend by changing the subject or asking him a question. You would be keeping your friend out of trouble, but more importantly, helping the person who is being hurtfully teased or bullied. Distracting the person who is being hurtfully teased or bullied works as well. Support the target/victim privately : If you could not get the person or persons to stop the hurtful teasing or bullying behavior, for whatever reason, go back to the target/victim of the behavior and support them privately. You could say “I am sorry for what my friend said, or those other kids said, and I will talk to them about it to see if I can get the bullying behavior to stop.”
Support the person openly : We only recommend this strategy to kids who feel confident or have a certain amount of respect among their peers. Do not feed into the behavior. Don’t laugh at their jokes if they are humiliating someone, and do not promote or attend a fight. As bystanders, it is our responsibility to de-escalate the situation, not feed fuel to an already hot fire. Telling an adult. Tell an adult that will listen and who is willing to take a report that someone is being hurtfully teased or bullied.
Apologize to people that you have bullied, and follow it up by being friendly. They might not trust you right away, but eventually they will see that you have changed.
More ways to stop If you are having a hard time feeling good about yourself, explore ways to boost your self-esteem. If you feel like you’re having trouble controlling your feelings, especially anger, talk to a school counselor about it.