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1 Choosing the Best Life

2 8 8 For the next 8 lessons we will be studying Choosing the Best Life, a course to help teens make the best choices about sexual behavior. 750,000 teens get pregnant each year 25% of sexually active Grads have a STD For the next 8 lessons we will be studying Choosing the Best Life, a course to help teens make the best choices about sexual behavior. 750,000 teens get pregnant each year 25% of sexually active Grads have a STD lesson one

3 Choosing the Best Life 1.The first lesson deals with sex, emotions and self-respect 2.Turn to page 6 3.We will discuss the questions on page 6 after watching Video Segment One: “Males vs. Females” 1.The first lesson deals with sex, emotions and self-respect 2.Turn to page 6 3.We will discuss the questions on page 6 after watching Video Segment One: “Males vs. Females” “Sex, Emotions and self-respect” lesson one

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5 Choosing the Best Life DVD Video Segment 1 “Guys vs. Girls” lesson one

6 1.How do guys and girls view sex differently? Guys: sex is physical, driven by hormones & peer pressure “Males vs. Females” Girls: sex is an emotional experience, involving strong feelings lesson one

7 “Males vs. Females” 2. Guys: What would you like girls to know to better understand about guys? lesson one

8 Choosing the Best Life 3. Girls What would you like guys to know to better understand about girls? lesson one “Males vs. Females” lesson one

9 > Guys & Girls Can View Sex Differently lesson one 1. Does not = personal relationship 2. Expect sex to happen sooner 3. Love & Commitment 4. Not Serious 5. Turned on/Curious/impress friends 6. Partner pressure 7. Less pleasure and satisfaction Guys Girls Guys Girls

10 Guys & Girls are different 3 Ways Sex is Misused to Meet Emotional Needs 1. Acceptance 2. Man 3. Valued Why? lesson one Disappointment

11 Girls Guys BRAIN ACTIVITY 1 side @ a time Both sides together Guys & Girls are different Sex Hormones How does testosterone affect guys? How are girls affected by estrogen? View Sex Guys can focus more easily on the physical side of sex w/out relationship Girls tend to have a broader view of sex, emphasizing the total relationship Stimulation Sight? Guys can just see something sexual and be aroused. Words, personality, touch? Girls are stimulated by the whole event.

12 BRAIN ACTIVITY What does each side of the brain do? BRAIN ACTIVITY What does each side of the brain do? the creative side Deals with concrete thinking and reasoning the Logical Side LEFT PORTION RIGHT PORTION Deals with feelings and emotions Guys & Girls Can View Sex lesson one

13 Why? Effect? 1. Worry 2. Regret & Guilt Impairs Personal Development 6. Depression 3. 4. Fear of Future Relationships 5. Lowers Self-esteem Six Emotional Effects of Premarital Sexual Involvement

14 Why? Effect? 1. Worry Fear: 1.pregnancy 2.getting an STD or AIDS 3. parents finding out Fear: 1.pregnancy 2.getting an STD or AIDS 3. parents finding out 1.Nervousness 2.loss of sleep 3.poor grades 4.possible long-term health problems 1.Nervousness 2.loss of sleep 3.poor grades 4.possible long-term health problems lesson one Six Emotional Effects of Premarital Sexual Involvement

15 Why? Effect? 2. Regret & Guilt 1.Relating sex to love and feeling loss when relationship ends 2.Regret about not reaching personal goals 3.Guilt about going against personal values 4.Being disappointed in self’ regret about hurting others 1.Relating sex to love and feeling loss when relationship ends 2.Regret about not reaching personal goals 3.Guilt about going against personal values 4.Being disappointed in self’ regret about hurting others 1.Medical problems such as ulcers 2.Eating disorders 1.Medical problems such as ulcers 2.Eating disorders lesson one Six Emotional Effects of Premarital Sexual Involvement

16 Why? Effect? Impairs Personal Development 3. 1.Can use sex to escape pressures or to avoid 2.Learning how to communicate in a healthy way with opposite sex 1.Can use sex to escape pressures or to avoid 2.Learning how to communicate in a healthy way with opposite sex 1.May turn inward 2.Fail to develop healthy interests and relationships 3.Fail to develop a personal, independent identity 4. Experience feelings of betrayal that can lead to rage 1.May turn inward 2.Fail to develop healthy interests and relationships 3.Fail to develop a personal, independent identity 4. Experience feelings of betrayal that can lead to rage lesson one Six Emotional Effects of Premarital Sexual Involvement

17 Why? Effect? 4. Fear of Future Relationships 1.Fear of being used or betrayed again 2.Have not learned healthy communication 3.Jealousy 1.Fear of being used or betrayed again 2.Have not learned healthy communication 3.Jealousy 1.Difficulty trusting Inability to make a commitment to someone 2.Withdrawal from close relationships 3. pattern of use and abuse in relationships 1.Difficulty trusting Inability to make a commitment to someone 2.Withdrawal from close relationships 3. pattern of use and abuse in relationships lesson one Six Emotional Effects of Premarital Sexual Involvement

18 Why? Effect? 5. Lowers Self-esteem 1.May feel dehumanized or worthless 2.Weak or powerless if partner is selfish or controlling 1.May feel dehumanized or worthless 2.Weak or powerless if partner is selfish or controlling 1.May feel used or damaged, unhappy or lacking dignity 2.May have sex again to feel control 3.May seek attention or turn to destructive behavior 1.May feel used or damaged, unhappy or lacking dignity 2.May have sex again to feel control 3.May seek attention or turn to destructive behavior lesson one Six Emotional Effects of Premarital Sexual Involvement

19 Why? Effect? 6. Depression 1.Feels like a failure 2.Feels deeper pain because already sees events in an emotional way 1.Feels like a failure 2.Feels deeper pain because already sees events in an emotional way 1.May lead to attempted or successful suicide 2.Girls sexually active = 6x more likely to attempt suicide than virgins Boys= 8x 1.May lead to attempted or successful suicide 2.Girls sexually active = 6x more likely to attempt suicide than virgins Boys= 8x lesson one Six Emotional Effects of Premarital Sexual Involvement

20 Character Application Heart Activity What parts of the story did you respond to by tearing large parts of your heart? Are there any differences in the piles of torn pieces on the boys’ vs girls’ desks? Heart Activity What parts of the story did you respond to by tearing large parts of your heart? Are there any differences in the piles of torn pieces on the boys’ vs girls’ desks? lesson one SEX & Self-Respect

21 Heart Activity 1.Is it possible for Kendra to restore her life? 2.If Kendra respected herself, would she have given herself to Antonio without his commitment to her? 3.What is this commitment called? 4.Waiting for sex is called? 5.Consequences of abstinence? Heart Activity 1.Is it possible for Kendra to restore her life? 2.If Kendra respected herself, would she have given herself to Antonio without his commitment to her? 3.What is this commitment called? 4.Waiting for sex is called? 5.Consequences of abstinence? Character Application

22 Character is who you are on the inside. It’s how you act and think when no one else is around. One part of healthy character development is self-respect. Respect for yourself begins with the idea that you are valuable and worthy. We’ve seen how sexual relationships before marriage often lower self-respect in both people. The emotional pain can cause a downward spiral of feelings. SEX & Self-Respect Personal Application:

23 Character Application Discussion Questions: PAGE 10 Answer all questions on this page Discussion Questions: PAGE 10 Answer all questions on this page SEX & Self-Respect Personal Application:

24 Choosing the Best Life View video and then we will discuss: “sex and alcohol don’t mix” Take notes on page 12 View video and then we will discuss: “sex and alcohol don’t mix” Take notes on page 12 lesson two S ex, alcohol and respect

25 Choosing the Best Life DVD Video Segment 2 “Sex and Alcohol Don’t Mix”

26 1.What effect does alcohol have on a young person? A.Increased risk of sexual activity B.Date rape C.Contracting STDs D.Pregnancy “Sex and Alcohol Don’t Mix” lesson two

27 2. Why do you think some teens drink alcohol? 1.Peer pressure 2.Like the calming feeling 3.Feel less inhibited and less anxious “Sex and Alcohol Don’t Mix” lesson two

28 3. What are some of the risks of “hooking up” under the influence of alcohol? 1.Become less inhibited 2.Become less assertive in maintaining boundaries 3.Can lose consciousness 4.Can be unaware of partner’s actions “Sex and Alcohol Don’t Mix” lesson two

29 “Sex and Alcohol Don’t Mix” lesson two Did she get pregnant? Did either of them contract an STD? What were the consequences for them? Activity: One Guy and One Girl

30 lesson two What do you know about “Date Rape? Force Shame Guilt Sadness Guy – school suspension Girl – felt loss of respect Drugs Date Rape Rape Alone 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. True False True False True

31 Character Application Read the first paragraph on page 16 and then Sarah’s Story DATE RAPE: Read the first paragraph on page 16 and then Sarah’s Story DATE RAPE: SEX & Self-Respect lesson two 1.Rape occurs when one person forces another to have sexual relations 2.Incidence of rape in U.S. peaks among women age 16-19. 700,000 rapes per year, 61% under age 18. 3.84% of those who reported unwanted sexual intercourse knew their assailant. 4.Rape victims should seek immediate medical attention and contact a rape crisis center/hotline. 5.The victim is NEVER to blame for rape. 6.Rape is not about sex, but about control. 1.Rape occurs when one person forces another to have sexual relations 2.Incidence of rape in U.S. peaks among women age 16-19. 700,000 rapes per year, 61% under age 18. 3.84% of those who reported unwanted sexual intercourse knew their assailant. 4.Rape victims should seek immediate medical attention and contact a rape crisis center/hotline. 5.The victim is NEVER to blame for rape. 6.Rape is not about sex, but about control.

32 Character Application SEX & Self-Respect lesson two 7. Date rape drugs can facilitate sexual assault by causing sedation and amnesia to the point that the victim cannot or may not resist or remember. Mixing drugs and alcohol is dangerous and potentially fatal. 8. Date rape drugs are easy to hide – colorless and odorless, but somewhat salty tasting. Can be hidden in a drink. Never leave your drink unattended! 9. Rape is a CRIME and punishable by IMPRISONMENT. 10. Never be alone with anyone who makes you feel uncomfortable or fails to show you respect. 7. Date rape drugs can facilitate sexual assault by causing sedation and amnesia to the point that the victim cannot or may not resist or remember. Mixing drugs and alcohol is dangerous and potentially fatal. 8. Date rape drugs are easy to hide – colorless and odorless, but somewhat salty tasting. Can be hidden in a drink. Never leave your drink unattended! 9. Rape is a CRIME and punishable by IMPRISONMENT. 10. Never be alone with anyone who makes you feel uncomfortable or fails to show you respect.

33 > How Alcohol effects a young Person lesson two 1.Brain 2.Memory 3.Death 4.Inhibitions 5.Unconsciousness 6.Sex 7.Five 8.Alcohol 9.50 to 75 percent 10.unplanned 1.Brain 2.Memory 3.Death 4.Inhibitions 5.Unconsciousness 6.Sex 7.Five 8.Alcohol 9.50 to 75 percent 10.unplanned

34 The Physical Effects of Alcohol Abuse lesson two Activity: Bat Brain: Mental: Digestive Tract: learning coordination cancer Immune System: Stomach: Liver: Reproductive System: infections cancer Impotence, irregular Heart:Attack ulcers

35 Character Application SEX & Self-Respect Personal Application: lesson two Read and listen to the story on page16 Then answer the discussion questions. Read and listen to the story on page16 Then answer the discussion questions.

36 Choosing the Best Life STDs are unique because they are contracted through at risk sexual behaviors. Watch the video and make notes. STDs are unique because they are contracted through at risk sexual behaviors. Watch the video and make notes. lesson three S ex, STDs and honesty

37 Choosing the Best Life DVD Video Segment 3 “A Visit to a Microbiology Lab”

38 1.How can you tell if a person has an STD? You can’t! 2. Why are most teens not concerned about contracting an STD? They think they’re invincible. 3. Most common STDs? Chlamydia Gonorrhea Syphilis Human papillomavirus (HPV) Genital herpes “A Visit to a Microbiology Lab” lesson three

39 Read introductory paragraphs Slide 1 and 2 The Silent Disease 1.Bacterial,1.5 million 2.no 3.oral 4.Cured 5.PID; infertility 6.3 to 10 Read introductory paragraphs Slide 1 and 2 The Silent Disease 1.Bacterial,1.5 million 2.no 3.oral 4.Cured 5.PID; infertility 6.3 to 10 “Chlamydia” lesson three

40 Read introductory paragraph Slide 3 and 4 One of the Oldest STDs 1.650,000 2.no 3.Oral 4.PID 5.50 6.HIV Read introductory paragraph Slide 3 and 4 One of the Oldest STDs 1.650,000 2.no 3.Oral 4.PID 5.50 6.HIV “Gonorrhea” lesson three

41 Read introductory paragraph Slide 5-8 1.bacterial 2.direct 3.oral 4.sore 5.cured 6.death Read introductory paragraph Slide 5-8 1.bacterial 2.direct 3.oral 4.sore 5.cured 6.death “Syphilis” lesson three

42 1.parasite 2.no 3.cured 1.parasite 2.no 3.cured “Trichomoniasis” lesson three

43 Read introductory paragraph Slide 9-10 The Most Common Viral STD 1.Viral; 50%;43% 2.Genital; cancer 3.No; life 4.HPV; die 5.Pap 6.oral Read introductory paragraph Slide 9-10 The Most Common Viral STD 1.Viral; 50%;43% 2.Genital; cancer 3.No; life 4.HPV; die 5.Pap 6.oral “Human Papilloma Virus (HPV)” lesson three

44 Read introductory paragraph Slide 11-13 More Than 45 Million Infected 1.Viral; 45 2.90% 3.life 4.Blisters 5.Skin to skin 6.Visual; not Read introductory paragraph Slide 11-13 More Than 45 Million Infected 1.Viral; 45 2.90% 3.life 4.Blisters 5.Skin to skin 6.Visual; not “Genital Herpes” lesson three

45 1.25 2.15.3 million; 65 million 3.4 million; 10,959 daily; 457 hourly; 8 seconds 4.No; multiple; cervix 1.25 2.15.3 million; 65 million 3.4 million; 10,959 daily; 457 hourly; 8 seconds 4.No; multiple; cervix STDs Are Wide Spread lesson three

46 ACTIVITY 1.3 2.6 3.1 4.8 5.3 6.2 ACTIVITY 1.3 2.6 3.1 4.8 5.3 6.2 Here’s How they Spread lesson three

47 1.Condom 2.Every 3.Correctly 4.Not 5.Half How well do condoms work for birth control? 1.Break; 2. 15% Reduce STD risk ? 1.85%; 15% 2.Fluids; 50% 3.Skin to skin 4.HPV 5.No Abstinence 1.Condom 2.Every 3.Correctly 4.Not 5.Half How well do condoms work for birth control? 1.Break; 2. 15% Reduce STD risk ? 1.85%; 15% 2.Fluids; 50% 3.Skin to skin 4.HPV 5.No Abstinence What about ”safe Sex”

48 Is ‘Safe sex really safe? What is the only way to ELIMINATE the risk of pregnancy or of contracting an STD? Is ‘Safe sex really safe? What is the only way to ELIMINATE the risk of pregnancy or of contracting an STD? What about ”safe Sex” lesson three

49 What does abstinence involve? Making an informed decision to not participate in risk-taking behaviors that can lead to pregnancy or an STD What does abstinence involve? Making an informed decision to not participate in risk-taking behaviors that can lead to pregnancy or an STD What about ”safe Sex” lesson three

50 What are at-risk behaviors? Vaginal sex Anal sex Oral sex Mutual masturbation which can pass infected body fluids through skin-to-skin contact What are at-risk behaviors? Vaginal sex Anal sex Oral sex Mutual masturbation which can pass infected body fluids through skin-to-skin contact What about ”safe Sex” lesson three

51 Read two paragraphs on page 26 And answer the 2 questions Read two paragraphs on page 26 And answer the 2 questions Sex and Honesty lesson three Personal Application: Answer Character Application

52 Choosing the Best Life Video “Nicole and Raoul” Turn to page 28. read these as we start the video. Watch the video and make notes. Video “Nicole and Raoul” Turn to page 28. read these as we start the video. Watch the video and make notes. lesson four S ex, pregnancy and responsibility

53 Choosing the Best Life DVD Video Segment 4 “Nicole and Raoul”

54 1.How did getting pregnant affect Nicole’s life? A.Scared during pregnancy B.Thought he would help C.Teenage years of freedom gone “Sex and Alcohol Don’t Mix” lesson four

55 2. How did getting pregnant affect Raoul’s life? A.Hard to get a job & make $ B.Relationship changed C.Did not know the amount of attention a baby needed. “Nicole and Raoul” lesson four

56 3. What happen to their relationship after the baby? A.Less time together B.Strain C.Could not do things together the way they once did. “Nicole and Raoul” lesson four

57 A.highest B.750,000; 10; 19 C.20 Teen pregnancy is a significant problem. lesson four

58 A.1/3 B.health C.poverty D.low Who Suffers the Consequences?. lesson four

59 Read Chart page 30 Activity: 7 volunteers Reducing the Risk of Teen Pregnancy lesson four Activity: Cards

60 Consequences of Choices lesson four Teen Parenting Adoption Abortion Social Emotional Physical Sadness, Regret sadness shame later regret Parenting income responsibility guilt Medical Complications Medical Complications

61 1.Read paragraph Sex and Responsibility lesson four 1.Answer discussion questions

62 Choosing the Best Life Turn to page 34. Read the question before we start video Watch the video and make notes. Turn to page 34. Read the question before we start video Watch the video and make notes. lesson five S ex, HIV/AIDS and compassion

63 Choosing the Best Life DVD Video Segment 5 “A Life-Changing Visit to an AIDS Clinic ”

64 1.What did you learn from Lisa? Just hold off? infected while engaged, almost died many times, medicine not a cure, she will eventually die “A life-Changing Visit to an AIDS Clinic” lesson five

65 2. What did you learn from Dottie? acquired the disease at 16 from a boy she hardly knew and several years later developed AIDS Incubation ? As long as 10 years as short as months Fastest grow under 24 “A life-Changing Visit to an AIDS Clinic” lesson five

66 3. Do teen need to be concerned about contracting HIV/AIDS? YES “A life-Changing Visit to an AIDS Clinic” lesson five

67 Sexual What Happens If You contract HIV? lesson five stageEffect 1 Initial Infection

68 not What Happens If You contract HIV? lesson five stageEffect 2 Initial Symptoms

69 many What Happens If You contract HIV? lesson five stageEffect 3 Asymptomatic Stage

70 immune What Happens If You contract HIV? lesson five stageEffect 4 Early AIDS Symptoms

71 Opportunity What Happens If You contract HIV? lesson five stageEffect 5 AIDS

72 NO What Happens If You contract HIV? lesson five stageEffect 6 Treatment

73 Activity: Cups lesson five

74 1.NO. Medication can prolong life but with severe side affects 2.Does not always know 3.Cannot tell by how a person looks 4.You can become infected from only one sexual encounter 5.Can from oral sex 6.Do not live health normal lives 7.not spread by casual contact 8.Affects BOTH…25% under 22 9. Cannot 10. Practice Abstinence Ten Common Myths About HIV/AIDS lesson five

75 READ page 38 and answer questions Compassion lesson five

76 Choosing the Best Life Turn to page 40. Read the question before we start video Watch the video and make notes. Turn to page 40. Read the question before we start video Watch the video and make notes. lesson six S ex, love and choices

77 Choosing the Best Life DVD Video Segment 6 “Choosing Abstinence”

78 Choosing Abstinence lesson six 1.Why are these teens choosing abstinence? to be in control of their own lives to set priorities to stay focused on future goals because its not safe

79 Choosing Abstinence lesson six 2. Why become ”secondary virgins”? Wasn’t worth it, Emotional consequences, Physical consequences, Focus education and personal goals

80 Choosing Abstinence lesson six 3. How does abstinence help a relationship develop? Show respect Focus on inner qualities not just physical Better see compatibility and character issues

81 Activity: Groups of 4-5 Page 41 Brainstorm Each team work together and fill in both list. (in all work books) Decisions about Sex lesson six

82 A. not B. FROM: Abstinence Provides Freedom fear of pregnancy, HIV, STDs, worry, guilt, depression Choosing the Best Life lesson six vaginal sex, anal sex, oral sex, mutual masturbation and intimate skin-to-skin contact To: Pursue life goals, be free from worry or guilt, establish, a marriage built on trust, enjoy life as a teen

83 C. Renewed Virginity 1.Renewed 2.People 3.share 4.accountable Choosing the Best Life lesson six

84 Infatuation 1. I Infatuation or Love relationship lesson six Love 1. other 2. very2. levels 3. short3. long 4. problems4. through 5. my5. other Focus Feelings Time together Tested Commitment

85 Abstinence Helps Relationships Develop 1. Intense with strong emotions NO. 2. Physical focus and keep them from getting to know one another 3. Help them BUILD the relationship over time lesson six READ STORY of TOM and KRISTINE

86 Infatuation 1. Emotional Infatuation or Love relationship lesson six Love 1. Commitment 2. Untested2. Tested 3. feelings3. Level out 4. Hormone4. Knowledge 5. Weakens5. Strengthens 6. Self6. Caring 7. Jealous7. Open

87 Choosing the Best Life Turn to page 46. Read the question before we start video Watch the video and make notes. Turn to page 46. Read the question before we start video Watch the video and make notes. lesson seven S ex, limits and self-discipline

88 Choosing the Best Life DVD Video Segment 7 “Dealing with Pressure”

89 1.How did getting pregnant affect Nicole’s life? A.Scared during pregnancy B.Thought he would help C.Teenage years of freedom gone “Sex and Alcohol Don’t Mix” lesson four

90 Choosing the Best Life Video “ Taking a Stand” Turn to page 52. read these as we start the video. Watch the video and make notes. Video “ Taking a Stand” Turn to page 52. read these as we start the video. Watch the video and make notes. lesson eight S ex, saying “no” and courage

91 Choosing the Best Life DVD Video Segment 8 “Taking a Stand”

92 1.How did getting pregnant affect Nicole’s life? A.Scared during pregnancy B.Thought he would help C.Teenage years of freedom gone “Sex and Alcohol Don’t Mix” lesson four

93 Tape activity Unused a lot of Bonding Power. 1. Is this first relationship likely to last? 2. What happened to the bonding tape each time it was used? 3. What happens to two pieces of tape (two people in a relationship) that have never been used when they bond for the first time? Ten Stages of Bonding “Sex and Alcohol Don’t Mix” lesson two

94 Tape activity Unused a lot of Bonding Power. 1. Is this first relationship likely to last? 2. What happened to the bonding tape each time it was used? 3. What happens to two pieces of tape (two people in a relationship) that have never been used when they bond for the first time? Ten Stages of Bonding “Sex and Alcohol Don’t Mix” lesson two

95 Stages of Emotional Bonding 1. Eye to Body contact 2. Voice to voice 3. Eye to eye 4. Hand to hand 5. Kiss- affection 6. Kiss- Passion 7. Hand to Head 8. Hand to breast contact 9. Hand to genital contact 10. Intercourse Stages of Emotional Bonding 1. Eye to Body contact 2. Voice to voice 3. Eye to eye 4. Hand to hand 5. Kiss- affection 6. Kiss- Passion 7. Hand to Head 8. Hand to breast contact 9. Hand to genital contact 10. Intercourse lesson two


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