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Perfectionism in Gifted Students
We In Doubt Call
Perfectionism Defined Personality characteristics involves o Tendency to place excessive emphasis on organization o Setting of and striving for high personal standards o Critical self-evaluation if these standards are not reached o High concern over mistakes o Doubts quality of personal achievement
Definition Continued Perfectionism, in psychology, is a personality disposition characterized by an individual striving for flawlessness and setting excessively high performance standards, accompanied by overly critical self- evaluations and concerns regarding others' evaluations. It is best conceptualized as a multidimensional characteristic, as psychologists agree that there are many positive and negative aspects.psychologypersonality Wikipedia
Types of Perfectionism 1. Adaptive Perfectionism 2. Maladaptive Perfectionism
Types of Perfectionism Adaptive Perfectionism o Adherence to high self-standards, order, and organization o Freedom to be less precise o Experience positive feelings when task is completed
Adaptive Behaviors Carefully attending to task and school work Keeping their rooms and workspace neat Engaging in limited acting out behaviors that require few discipline referrals
Types of Perfectionism Maladaptive Perfectionism o High standards that never seem achievable o Excessive self-criticism o Completed projects are not enjoyed o Considerable anxiety about imperfections
Types of Perfectionism All or Nothing Thinking Transforming Desires into Demands Focusing on unmet goals and challenges rather than success
Identifying Maladaptive Behaviors Overly serious about their school work or task Frustrated when things do not go as they would like Hesitant to engage in activities that may result in a “mess” of some sort Extremely self critical behaviors Anxiety or depression
Other Signs of Perfectionism How does your child respond to competition? How does your child respond to compliments? How are you modeling?
Frustration as Parents
Activities Engaging children with play materials they would usually reject o Toys and Art Material Play doh Clay Finger Paints Games like Fibber
Activities Students can learn many lessons from studying famous people Involve your students in the community
A Little Love and Logic Goes a Long Way Lock in Empathy Return Responsibility Turn your words into Gold Feeling followed by huh?
Turn Your Words Into Gold What are you going to do about it…. I love you too much to argue…. That is something you can decide… What would work best for you ____ or ______ You can _______ or _____________ Do you want to know what other kids say works___ You worked really hard on that… How did you do that…. I noticed…….
Thoughts Kids that are gifted are often praised not for who they are as people but for what they can do that astounds others around them Consider what you are praising, their attempt or results Before looking at grades ask your child, what are you most proud of Ask, “What did you learn?” not “What did you earn?” Model Imperfection without apologizing Sometimes it Is easier not to try than to say I failed
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