Presentation on theme: "Sense of Destiny WORTHHOPEAffirmation Spiritual Identity Gender Identity Godly Understanding Encouragement Acceptance TrustSecurity Love Nurturing Goals."— Presentation transcript:
Sense of Destiny WORTHHOPEAffirmation Spiritual Identity Gender Identity Godly Understanding Encouragement Acceptance TrustSecurity Love Nurturing Goals PurposeCreativity GOD’S PERFECT SOUL FOR HIS BELOVED Father God created Adam in His image perfect in beauty. When man sinned man experienced a living death spirit soul and body. Each generation’s sin further corrupts and destroys the destiny of man - God’s plans and purposes.
The logic, reasoning, arguments, rationalization, justification, and denial that our souls use to defend their positions and beliefs, right or wrong. They are protecting wrong attitudes, beliefs and patterns of thought you have learned to trust more than you trust the truth. Strongholds are what we rely upon to defend and protect our right to believe something. 1. a fortified place 2. a place of security or survival Dictionary definition:
TRAUMATIC FACTS: Lack of Love or NO Nurturing Sexual Abuse Word Curses Alcoholic Parent(s) Rageholic Racial Background Appearance Neglect Betrayal Rejection Rape Incest Homeless Bastard Physical Abuse Abortion Occult Disfigurement Molestation Foster Homes Death Murder Violence Starvation War Abandonment Pornography Handicapped Adoption Disability Poverty Emotional Abuse Adultery ORIGINAL CAUSES CANNOT BE CHANGED. Generational Blessings Angelic Assignment Generational Iniquities Demonic Assignment Attempting to subdue pacify the pain and fear. Overeating Fornication Sexual Gratification Alcohol/Drugs Self-Help Programs Mental Illness Psychosomatic Illnesses Stealing Pornography Victim Mentality Soul Ties Lust Self-Pity Lying Despair Occult Covetousness Indecision Rigidity Legalism Criticalness Intolerance Perfectionism Blaming Denial Superiority Competition Top Dog Boasting Evil Speaking Backbiting Sarcasm Cruel Jesting Pride Conflicts Ingratitude Rebellion Adultery Anger Anxiety/Worry Bitterness Depression Discouragement Despair Envy/Jealousy Fear Suspicion Hate/Revenge Wrong Ideas - Wrong Attitudes - Wrong Beliefs -Wrong Motives Wrong Patterns of Thinking – Wrong Agreements – Wrong Judgments Logic Reasoning Arguments Justification DenialDefensiveness Gender Identity Affirmation Acceptance Creativity Purpose Goals Sense of Destiny LOVE Nurturing Security Encouragement HOPE TRUST Godly Understanding WORTH LIES LIESLIESLIESLIESLIESLIESLIESLIESLIES Unmet Need Source #1 Unresolved Issues Source #3 Unhealed Hurts Source # 2 Demonic Assignments Source #4 Personal Generational Personal Spiritual Identity SOUL’S DEFENSE SYSTEM self-controlself-relianceself-protectionself-centeredself-defense self-sufficiency self-determination self-deceptionself-pityself-consciousness self-idolatry self-opinionated self-criticism self-hatred self-preoccupationself-seekingself-abuse
Generational Blessings Angelic Assignment Generational Iniquities Demonic Assignment All Starts in the womb –We receive Generational Blessings and Angelic Assignments –We also receive Generational Iniquities and Demonic Assignments Even before we are born those influences are already being laid out and determined Created as a Tripartite being: –Body – Our flesh, bone, and organs. Our bodies relate to the world through their five senses: taste, touch, smell, sight, and hearing. –Soul – That part of our three-part being that is made up of our mind and our emotions. Emotions – The part of our souls that has the ability to feel joy, anger, sadness, happiness, fear, and other feelings. Mind – That part of our soul that has the ability to think, to form ideas, and to rationalize. –Spirit – Our spirits were orphans when we were born into this world, because of the severing of the spirit to Spirit connection that Adam and Eve lost with the Father in the Garden of Eden when they sinned. We must be “born again,” so that our spirits can be connected to the Spirit of their Creator. The born again spirit is no longer an orphan then, but is connected to its spiritual Father. –Free Will…see next slide
The principle of rebellion lies in the “I wills” as opposed to God’s will. Hebrews 12:2. Our Will lives between the Spirit and Soul…why?...because as we are being renewed we make choices and our Will can go either with the Soul or with the Spirit.
Facts that happen in our lives CAN NOT be changed These are situations that we had no control over They shaped our lives and set up the foundation of strongholds to be erected. These are the results of generational sins and iniquities These were caused by imperfect people that were shaped by imperfect people. Because of the many traumatic facts happening to you, you probably didn’t get all the love and nurturing that your soul needed. You didn’t probably get any affirmation or have the security from those in your life. Neglect to the soul because of these facts is devastating and robs you of your Sense of Destiny Your purpose and acceptance were robbed from you because of these facts Your creativity is diminished from lack of encouragement Where there should be trust, we were put in situations of harms way and learn not to trust. TRAUMATIC FACTS: Lack of Love or NO Nurturing Sexual Abuse Word Curses Alcoholic Parent(s) Ragehholic Racial Background Appearance Neglect Betrayal Rejection Rape Incest Homeless Bastard Physical Abuse Abortion Occult Disfigurement Molestation Foster Homes Death Murder Violence Starvation War Abandonment Pornography Handicapped Adoption Disability Poverty Emotional Abuse Adultery ORIGINAL CAUSES CANNOT BE CHANGED.
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Your present situation is not the primary source of your emotional pain. We tend to blame others and life situations for our pain. This keeps us in a continual cycle of defeat. If I am in pain because of the actions of others, then I can never be free until they choose to be different. The TRUTH is, I can be free no matter what circumstance I find myself in. (Philippians 4:11) The present situation “triggers” familiar painful emotions from earlier events, called Bridge of Emotions. When things happen in our present life, our brains look for a similar life experience from which to interpret the new event. If the brain accesses a painful memory, it will surface the original feelings into the present moment, causing conflict.
THIS KIND OF EARLY WOUNDING IN A SOUL CAUSES THREE KINDS OF SOURCES TO FORM NASTY HOLES IN THE SOUL. Out of the hard things of our lives comes the three sources of all of our messed-up thinking and acting. These three sources are like holes in our souls where every good thing we try to hold onto and believe about ourselves can drain right out of us. We do not get all of the “building blocks” that make up the perfect soul (reference chart) Unmet Need Source #1 Unresolved Issues Source #3 Unhealed Hurts Source # 2
Unmet Need Source #1 Unmet needs are birthed when we did not get all that we needed to be whole. Unmet need of love We did not get the love we needed to be whole, we may grow up with a drive to keep seeking love, even in the wrong places. Only God could ever meet that need and make us whole. Unmet need of encouragement This will cause you to constantly check with others to find out if you are doing all right Unmet need of HOPE This was not modeled for you by your parents This unmet need would cause you to cling to others who seem to know how to HOPE. Through many compounded traumas (facts) in your life you have lost your security, worth, purpose, and goals. These needs were not MET.
Unhealed Hurts Source # 2 Unhealed hurts are birthed whenever we lose something good that we had received and needed to be whole. Unhealed hurts of security If we had always felt secure and we were unexpectedly violated and traumatized, we would lose all sense of security. We would have an unhealed hurt that only God can heal.
Unresolved Issues Source #3 This source of pain and struggle within our souls is birthed when we do not know how to productively process our unmet needs and unhealed hurts and they become issues and questions that drive us to find out why such things occurred to us. Unresolved Issues are when we do not understand why these needs and hurts happened to us. You just graduated from high school and your parents announce they are getting a divorce. You are told that they were waiting until you were older. All the love you thought was there is now unresolved in your mind. All the nurturing and trust that was secure in your world is now unresolved. You sense of destiny is now unresolved
The shattered areas in our souls are those things that should have been imparted to us by our parents. Those shattered areas now represent what is lacking and are now in need of being met through wrong behaviors Affirmation Gender Identity Acceptance Creativity Purpose Goals Sense of Destiny LOVE Nurturing Security Spiritual Identity Encouragement HOPE TRUST Godly Understanding WORTH Unmet Need Unhealed hurts Unresolved Issue Demonic Assignment
SOUL’S DEFENSE SYSTEM self-controlself-relianceself-protectionself-centeredself-defense self-sufficiency self-determination self-deceptionself-pityself-consciousness self-idolatry self-opinionated self-criticism self-hatred self-preoccupationself-seekingself-abuse Here is where the soul carefully lays down its most serious defense layers like a hardwood floor over a rotten, scummy, mildewed subflooring. These ‘Selfs’ are the fake personas and false fronts we all put on from time to time. They are our ‘pretty’ parquet hardwood floor that covers over the ugly dry rot and mold hidden underneath. We carefully cultivate a false front of ‘Selfs’ to (examples): –Reliance: so that no one thinks we are needy and full of holes. We don’t need anyone to do anything for us. –Defense: so that no one can see our vulnerability and exploit it. –Control: controlling our own feelings and responses as well as controlling and manipulating others who walk too close to our personal space. –Centeredness: to constantly maintain all the potential emotional fronts that we fear other people might try to breach. There is only a dangerous façade of safety and security Your soul is in denial of the escaping toxic fumes, yet they keep coming up with increasing regularity. These ‘Selfs’ are the core of power structure, this was initially established by the soul to prevent the escape of any symptoms from the unmet needs, unhealed hurts, and unresolved issues. It doesn’t work, though, because these symptoms surface right through the soul’s layering just like the bad odor of stinking garbage would float up to gag you even if you had covered it with the best carpeting or flooring.
Attempting to subdue pacify the pain and fear. Overeating Fornication Sexual Gratification Alcohol/Drugs Self-Help Programs Mental Illness Psychosomatic Illnesses Stealing Pornography Victim Mentality Soul Ties Lust Self-Pity Lying Despair Occult Covetousness Indecision Rigidity Legalism Criticalness Intolerance Perfectionism Blaming Denial Superiority Competition Top Dog Boasting Evil Speaking Backbiting Sarcasm Cruel Jesting Pride Conflicts Ingratitude Rebellion Adultery Anger Anxiety/Worry Bitterness Depression Discouragement Despair Envy/Jealousy Fear Suspicion Hate/Revenge Fear and Pain is at the very root of all unmet needs, unhealed hurts and unresolved issues. When the toxic fumes rise up from the ‘Un’s’ and filters through the ‘Selfs’, fear and pain get triggered and send signals and the souls response is with wrong behaviors. People with unmet needs in their souls will manifest symptoms of wrong understanding, neediness, hopelessness, Inferiority, wrong desires, lust, lying, soul ties, etc. –They are always seeking for something to fill the need People with unhealed hurts in their souls will manifest symptoms of unforgiveness, distrust, hidden agendas, doubt, despair, etc. –They are seeking to fill the emptiness the hole of hurt has left open People with unresolved issues in their souls will manifest symptoms of insecurity, resentment, confusion, anger, pride, boasting, rigidity, etc. Unresolved issues come into being as the soul begins to realize that things are not working out the way it wants and it feels angry and cheated. –This person frequently has grown up in a home where the boundaries were unclear, the rules were unspoken and you never knew when you might step on a land mine. This is the atmosphere of many alcoholic homes. Soul tries to establish false personality traits to compensate for these symptoms bouncing around inside of it. –An insecure woman may force herself to become a risk-taker, always trying to be in “control” of her relationships and activities. –The angry man may “act” very gentle, projecting a false front of peace and calm as he holds open doors, pulls out chairs, and hands you roses.
Wrong Ideas - Wrong Attitudes - Wrong Beliefs -Wrong Motives Wrong Patterns of Thinking – Wrong Agreements – Wrong Judgments Logic Reasoning Arguments Justification DenialDefensiveness The strongholds that you have may have actually enabled you to survive terrifying circumstances in your past that were out of your control. If you still have those strongholds, they are providing access for the enemy’s assaults. They are protecting wrong attitudes, beliefs and patterns of thoughts you have learned to trust more than you trust the truth. We rely on our strongholds to protect us. We erect these strongholds around things we cannot bear to face. –The grip of these strongholds can be loosed from what they are protecting in your life and lives of others. Making room for that which is right and healing. WE have to choose to make room to receive the renewal and restoration that will replace old things. GOD generally will not forcibly take what you don’t want to surrender. –We all have certain mindsets of misinformation –If these mind sets are deeply entrenched and resistant to renewal, a believer can come dangerously close to mishandling God’s Word. What you learn has to filter down through the existing beliefs in your mind. –What we actually do believe hinders receiving the truth about Him. Correct Truth cannot always penetrate a soul that is filled with strongholds. –He does not change, bypass or override, He just keeps offering His Love and truth until we finally become wiling to exchange our old beliefs and ideas for them. –Unrenewed mind, rigid in mind sets formed from wrong sources, can distort the most beautiful spiritual truth. –The Christian’s mind is not automatically renewed at the point of new birth. This is why there must be a continuing process of washing in the Word. We have clogged filters that we hear with. We preceive things through our clogged filters.
Strongholds are what we rely upon to defend and protect our right to believe something. –Suspicion: Being painfully deceived can cause the building of a stronghold of suspicion to protect against being deceived again. This stronghold will resist intimacy with God. –Doubt: The stronghold of doubt is usually one of the most obvious strongholds. It frequently accompanies a stronghold of suspicion which can masquerade so well, its existence is often totally denied. –Independence: Rejection can cause the building of a stronghold of independence and self- sufficiency around pain, fortifying a right to never to be vulnerable again. This can include any vulnerability to the work of the Holy Spirit. –False Security: When unmet needs exist, a stronghold of false security may be erected. The stronghold projects a façade of great strength intended to keep others from knowing how internally fragile and needy a person is. This can extend to keeping God at arm’s length, as well. –Confusion: A stronghold of confusion is erected by the old nature to mask the true understanding of a given issue or many issues. This stronghold leads to discouragement and depression (which can be strongholds, too). –Unforgiveness: When someone has been abused or deeply hurt, unless forgiveness and healing come, strongholds of unforgiveness, bitterness or anger are erected to justify the role of being a victim. –Distrust: Betrayal can cause the building of a stronghold of distrust to prevent anyone from getting close enough to betray again. This person will generally also be unable to fully trust God whose perfect love casts out fear. –Control and Manipulation: A childhood filled with chaos, instability and everything seemingly out of control can build a stronghold of control to prevent every being at the mercy of another again. –Self-Indulgence: This stronghold is built to justify and protect the right to indulge self to compensate for unmet needs and pain. This stronghold also justifies a right to chemically alter reality with drugs and alcohol to blot out pain. –Fear: Fear is a common, but slightly different stronghold. People generally do not build this stronghold for protection, rather it is erected around great apprehension and anxiety over unresolved experiences and memories. –Denial: A stronghold of denial refuses to acknowledge any of the above things. Denial is a valid, temporary mental and emotional coping mechanism to enable the human mind to survive certain traumatic situations-similar to how shock shuts down and prevents a severely wounded body from death. Denial enables abused children to survive unbearable situations. But just as shock becomes dangerous and life- threatening when a person cannot come out of it, so does denial when it becomes a stronghold.