1. Diane Benson, Executive Director www.xbullying.org

4. PPower Imbalance AAggressive IIntentional NNumerous

5. F 160,000 children stay home from school every day because they are afraid to go to school - National Association of School Psychologists F 71% of the teachers or other adults in the classroom ignored bullying incidents. F Between 10% and 30% of teachers engage in bullying behavior in the school context.

6.  Are at an increased risk of being bullied  Kids with epilepsy or food allergies can be at a higher risk  Some children with special needs can also bully others  Civil Right laws protect children with disabilities against harassment

7.  Most bullying is physical.

8.  The most common form of bullying for both boys and girls is verbal bullying.  It is also common for youth to bully through social isolation.

9.  Bullying has little long term effect on a student’s academic progress.

10.  One out of every ten students who drops out of school does so because of repeated bullying.

11.  Bullies grow out of it and don’t have problems with other people once they leave school

12.  Nearly 60% of boys who researchers classified as bullies in grade 6-9 were convicted of at least one crime by the age of 24; 40% of them had 3 or more convictions by the time they were 24.

13.  Aggressor  Target  Instigator  Bystander  Ally or Upstander

14.  Lost items  Bruises or scratches  Changes in friends, loss of friends  Reluctant to join in activities  Feelings of sadness or anxiousness  Headaches or stomachaches  A decline in grades  Depression or thoughts of suicide  Asking for help with relationships  Problems with eating or sleeping

15.  Tell him or her to stop immediately  Explain that bullying hurts and every child deserves to be treated with respect  Ask how would it make you feel if your were being bullied  Bullying can cause you to lose friends  Bullying if reported can stay on your school record through college  Offer to help

16.  Let them know you take bullying seriously  Reassure them the situation is not their fault  Determine if the situation is really bullying  As if they told another adult about the situation  Talk to them about standing up for themselves or a friend if they are a target  Tell them to walk away if possible  Tell them to say “No”

17.  Bullying Using Technology  24/7  Perception of invincibility online  Increase freedom  Extent quickly spreads far and wide  Hard to recognize the harm its inflicting  Texting  Facebook  Instagram  Tumblr

18. A survey of 4,400 students yielded the following results: F 42% of kids report they have been bullied on line- 1 in 4 report they have had it happen more than once. F 58% have not shared with their parents about an online bullying incident F 21% have received mean or threatening email or text messages

19. ChatsTexting  PAW or 9 -- Parents are watching  - POV -- Parent over shoulder  - CD9 -- Code 9, meaning Parents are around  - P911 -- Parents coming into room alert  - PIR -- Parents in room  - PSOS -- Parent standing over shoulder  - KPC -- Keeping parents clueless  - NP -- Nosy parents (But this is also used as "no problem")  Want to know your kids' relationship status? Nothing to be alarmed about if they text:  - LYLAB -- Love you like a brother  - LYLAS -- Love you like a sister  - LDR -- Long distance relationship  But you don't want to see  - 420 -- Let's get high/marijuana use  - LGH -- Let's get high  - LH6 -- Let's have sex  - LHOS -- Let's have online sex  - LIK – Liquor  How is their day going? Here are a few common indicators:  - 2MTH -- Too much to handle  - ADIH -- Another day in hell  - ADIP -- Another day in paradise  - LTHTT -- Laughing too hard to type  - HHIS -- Head hanging in shame  - CWOT -- Complete waste of time  - IMSB -- I'm so bored  - BOOMS -- Bored out of my skull  - 121 -- One to one (private chat invitation)

20.  Don’t say something online you wouldn’t say to them in person  Don’t make the behavior worse by forwarding hurtful messages  Intervene and be an upstander  Tell an adult

21. How We Got Started and Why?

22. UpstandersCreative Arts Our message is delivered through inspiring song, participation and discussion. Through inspiring music, we can foster change in order to create a more respectful, safe and compassionate climate for learning. Through the Don’t Laugh at Me program, we teach about values, tolerance, and understanding.  Through interactive workshops, assemblies, community concerts and school programs we hope to reduce the emotional and physical cruelty some children and adults inflict upon each other.