Presentation on theme: "What’s It Mean For Your Child?"— Presentation transcript:
1What’s It Mean For Your Child? Bullying At SchoolWhat’s It Mean For Your Child?
2But it’s just part of growing up… Natural Conflict BullyingHappens repeatedlyDone on purposeSerious - threat of physical harm or emotional hurtStrong emotional reaction by victimHappens occasionallyAccidentalNot SeriousEqual emotional reactions
3Continued… Bullying Natural Conflict Seeking power or control Trying to gain material things or powerNo remorse – blames victimNo effort to solve problemNatural ConflictNot seeking power or attentionNot trying to get somethingRemorseful – takes responsibilityEffort to solve the problem
4Profile of a Bully Impulsive Quick-tempered Lacks empathy Rule-breaker Positive attitude towardviolence in mediaAverage to above average studentLeadership ability
5Bullies are likely to…Engage in other anti-social activities such as vandalism, shoplifting, truancy, smoking, drug/alcohol useHave been bullied themselvesManipulate others to join in the behaviorDeny they are doing anything wrongBlame others for their behaviorBlame the victim - “They deserved it.”Display defiance
6Profile of a Victim Cautious and quiet nature Non-assertive Negative attitude toward violence in the mediaAppears physically or emotionally weakLacks humor and pro-social skillsFew social connections
7Victims are likely to… Feel depressed and/or lonely Consider themselves failuresSuffer from migraines and stomach problemsSee themselves as stupid or unattractiveThink often about suicideSuffer from anxiety/panic attacksCry easilyExperience bad dreamsDevelop nervous habits – nail biting, twirling hair, etc.
8Signs Your Child May Be a Victim Has unexplained bruises, marks, scratchesDoesn’t want to come to schoolComplains of headaches, stomach painCries in sleep or can’t sleepLoses interest in schoolworkAppears sad, depressed, or irritableSeems to have few or no friends, is socially isolated
9A Bully’s Impact on Learning Promotes a negative environment for learning by encouraging a “climate” of fearDistracts ALL students from learningInterferes with the development of positive social relationshipsCauses a loss of instructional time while problems are being addressedIncreases the rate of truancy
10As a parent… …accept the possibility your child might be a bully! Don’t deny or make excuses for your child’s behavior.
11As a parent of a bully… Don’t ignore it because… Understand that bullying is a LEARNED behavior and can be unlearnedDon’t dismiss it as “part of growing up” or “boys will be boys”Hold your child responsible for their own actions – no excusesExplore the reasons your child is acting out this waySeek outside help if neededDon’t blame yourselfMake it clear that bullying behavior will not be toleratedSet consistent consequences that do not involve physical force or verbal beratingDon’t ignore it because…
12…according to current research: 20% of middle school students report having bullied someone else at least “several times”Middle School bullies are 4 times likelier than non-bullies to have more than one criminal conviction by the age of 24Bullies tend to gravitate toward “the wrong crowd” and often develop substance abuse issues.Young bullies grow into oppositional, defiant, and aggressive adults with a strong need to dominate or control others making positive long term relationships difficult.
13As the parent of a victim… Listen to your child and take their situation seriously.Watch your child for signs of depression, self-harm, suicidal thoughtsTeach your child to walk with confidence and to focus on personal strengths and talentsProvide on-going support and encourage new friendshipsRemember that “hitting back” is not a choice at school
15Steps to take:Reassure your child that adult intervention can stop bullies and that we will keep him or her safe.Write down the details with dates, times, and names.Contact your child’s team leader and work with teachers to alleviate the problem first.If the situation doesn’t resolve, call your counselor.Document your concerns and actions taken in writing.Do not contact the bully/family directly.
16What to expect from school… Written district policies and school procedures are in place and will be enforced.Staff will take concerns seriously and address them immediatelyAdult supervision will be supplemented in areas where bullying has or is likely to occurStaff will be notified so they can monitor the situation and provide help, encouragement and support to the victimYou will be informed about steps taken to stop the bullying.