1. HELPING KIDS BE NAUGHTY NO MORE JODI MULLEN, PHD INTEGRATIVE COUNSELING SERVICES

2. INTRODUCTIONS

3. THE NAUGHTY NO MORE STORY

4. IDENTIFYING FEELINGS & COMMUNICATING UNDERSTANDING Verbally Non-verbally facial expressions body language Para-verbally Even when freshly washed and relieved of all obvious confections, children tend to be sticky. Fran Lebowitz

5. WHAT’S THE FEELING?

7. WHEN THEY CAN TALK IT OUT THEY DON’T HAVE TO ACT OUT Use feeling words Use interjections Use developmentally appropriate language Use culturally-centric language Exaggerate your tone Exaggerate your non-verbal language Match non-verbal & verbal language

8. Changing your lens: Manipulative > Hyper> Stubborn> Childish> Whiny> Disrespectful> THE POSITIVES DETECTIVE What are some positives in yourself as a parent/teacher/c aregiver? What are some positives in this child?

9. I’M THE BOSS OF ME! Below put an X next to all this times when you have let anger be the boss. I get angry with myself when I…  feel tired  say things that are mean  hurt other people  make a mistake  don’t do well in school  when I lose  say things that I do not mean You add some more… Now try this, put an X next to the ways that you can be the boss of you even when anger is trying to be the boss. In order to feel better I can…  take a breath  give myself a time out  go for a walk (My mom says you have to ask a grown up first)  PLAY  draw  pretend  talk to someone You add some…

10. STABILITY & CONSISTENCY How do you create it in your home or classroom? Time Sound Sights Responses Rituals Traditions Celebrations Ways of getting recognition Meals Days Expectations Consequences Of your word Emotion Responsibilities Smells

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