6Initial session with parents or parent First session with the parents or parent to get information about the situation that doesn't need to be talked about in front of the child
7Parents – initial session What works well?What doesn't work well?Family backgroundAre parents togetherAre parents separatedAre they re-partneredStep parenting issuesParenting disagreementsBoundariesStrengths and talents of the childHobbiesIssues with siblingsIssues that brings child to counselling: emotional behavioural
8Who will benefit from counselling? The parent (s) child / whole family Assessment of who will benefit most.What are the issues?-Do they relate to the parenting or surrounding situations between parentsChild’s issuesBehaviouralEmotionalAt homeAt schoolWith friendsWith separation from parent ?
9Child’s emotional signs Fears: fear of monstersNightmaresFear of new things, fear of going to school, fear of visits etcGeneral anxietySadness: crying a lot, being clingy at separation of parents, after moving house – loss of friendsAnger and aggression: throwing things, generally angry after certain events, towards certain people,acting out, destroying toys, hurting siblings, pets etc
11Child’s behaviourAggressive behaviour: kicking things, destroying things like toys,hitting or kicking others, siblings friends etcBullying others ,acting out at schoolNot listeningNot obeying, being disrespectful to othersBack chatting to parent (s)Not wanting to go to school: being bullied by other kids,Shyness and feeling anxious about going to school,
13What is play and sand tray therapy and how does it work? Sand tray therapy has been developed by a Jungian therapist over 50 years ago.She found that this kind of therapy is a non – intrusive, non-judgemental approach to help the child express itselfPlay is the natural language of a childIt works often on a symbolic level and lets children work inner and outer conflicts out in a non threatening way
14Self directed play – story telling Figurines are placed in the sand trayThe child either talks or is silently placing figures in the sand and moving them aroundI ask about the story and who is in the story
16How it worksFears can be externalised as a dragon or monster in the sand traySadness can be expressed by choosing a figurine that looks sad – or by isolating a figureAnger can safely be expressed (motorbikes or warrior figures often help)