Initial session with parents or parent First session with the parents or parent to get information about the situation that doesn't need to be talked about in front of the child
Parents – initial session What works well? What doesn't work well? Family background Are parents together Are parents separated Are they re-partnered Step parenting issues Parenting disagreements Boundaries Strengths and talents of the child Hobbies Issues with siblings Issues that brings child to counselling: emotional behavioural
Who will benefit from counselling? The parent (s) child / whole family Assessment of who will benefit most. What are the issues?- Do they relate to the parenting or surrounding situations between parents Child’s issues Behavioural Emotional At home At school With friends With separation from parent ?
Child’s emotional signs Fears: fear of monsters Nightmares Fear of new things, fear of going to school, fear of visits etc General anxiety Sadness: crying a lot, being clingy at separation of parents, after moving house – loss of friends Anger and aggression: throwing things, generally angry after certain events, towards certain people, acting out, destroying toys, hurting siblings, pets etc
Child’s behaviour Aggressive behaviour: kicking things, destroying things like toys, hitting or kicking others, siblings friends etc Bullying others, acting out at school Not listening Not obeying, being disrespectful to others Back chatting to parent (s) Not wanting to go to school: being bullied by other kids, Shyness and feeling anxious about going to school,
What is play and sand tray therapy and how does it work? Sand tray therapy has been developed by a Jungian therapist over 50 years ago. She found that this kind of therapy is a non – intrusive, non-judgemental approach to help the child express itself Play is the natural language of a child It works often on a symbolic level and lets children work inner and outer conflicts out in a non threatening way
Self directed play – story telling Figurines are placed in the sand tray The child either talks or is silently placing figures in the sand and moving them around I ask about the story and who is in the story
How it works Fears can be externalised as a dragon or monster in the sand tray Sadness can be expressed by choosing a figurine that looks sad – or by isolating a figure Anger can safely be expressed (motorbikes or warrior figures often help)