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1How to be an effective peer leader Leadership TrainingHow to be an effective peer leader
2Three Steps to Success Step 1: Know the Destination Step 2: How do we lead?method and frameworkStep 3: Best PracticesPractical Leadership Advice
3Step 1: Know the Destination A leader is someone who guides or directs othersA leader should know where to go and what to doA good leader will set an achievable goal for those who followThey will know how to assist others in achieving this goalIt should not be the blind leading the blind
4So, Where are we going?St. John Bosco used to stop boys and ask, “Where are you going?”“I’m going to heaven.”Everything we do as a leader needs to be directed towards helping others to become living saints and to get to heaven.This means that we need to do all things to strengthen the part-icipant’s relationship with God.
5The blind leading the blind This means that if we are going to be good leaders this week, we too must be focused on that same relationship with Jesus ChristWe need to lead by example and fully invest ourselves into this retreatWe should bring life to every activity and remain focused on the retreat.You will set the environment by your own enthusiasm.
6Leading towards Leadership The goal of the Leadership Retreat is to make the participants better leadersWe also want them to be better ChristiansIt is important for us to seek and nurture the leadership of othersThis means that our goal in this retreat is to become unnecessaryI must decrease so that they might increase
7The Analogy of the LampWe want the participants to shine - they are the bulbThe retreat is the body of the lamp which holds the bulb up high & gives it structureThe adults are the base offering sturdy support for the lampYou, the young team, are the power cord meant to feed energy into the system.You empower them to shine!
8Step 2: How do we lead? First and foremost, by example By becoming a humble servant of the retreat director and the participantsYoung Team should be the least of those on this retreat, your reward will be great in heavenBy sticking to the path that is laid out for usBy being aware of the needs of othersBy positive attitude and Christian Love.
9Salesian Accompaniment The method of leadership we use with the Salesians is called accompanimentThis means that we do everything with our participants!Nothing is too cool for us, nothing is beneath us, and we don’t ask another to do what we would not.Sharing the experience allows us to lead from within, where we can gently correct and powerfully encourage the participants
10Be Preventive! Our method is called the Preventive System This means that we create the environment where we make it easy for the participants to do what is rightYou don’t have to do bad things to have a good timeWe use accompaniment to redirect behaviors toward the goals of the retreat
11Preventive in Practice Be awareLook for objects, activities, or situations that may lead to troubleRemove those objects, and change or redirect those activities or situations to more positive ones.Know where the participants areLook for participants who are left out, sad, not fitting in, etc. and accompany them
12Preventive in Practice Be ProactiveYoung team MUST anticipate!Anticipate the needs of the participantsAnticipate the needs of the directorSeek to be helpfulPrevent drama! Don’t cause or magnify it!Intervene earlyBosco’s prison ministry was in the playgroundThe best way to help a prisoner, is to see to it that he never becomes one.
13Preventive in Practice Reason, Religion, KindnessLead and direct with gentle kindnessGive reasons for correctionsKeep God at the center of all your interactionsEncourage and complement participantsBe Joyful! It’s contagious!
14The Analogy of the Egg The preventive system is like an egg The team is like the shell, it keeps bad things out and it provides a safe environment for the yolk to growThe egg white is the retreat itself, it nurtures and strengthens the yolkThe yolk would be the participantsIf done correctly the yolk will grow, the participants will leave the retreat (egg) and will multiply the effect in other places.
15Step 3: Best PracticesIn this final step we will take a look at some very practical ways of being an effective leaderUltimately your leadership is based on your own commitment to the causeIf you break the egg the whole thing dies and becomes corruptedHowever the miracle of “New Life in Christ” will happen to you and them if you preserve the egg.Here are some practical tips to help you be an outstanding leader.
16The “oi!” MethodWhen you enter a room with the participants you should think, “oi!”This means that you should “Work the room” from the outside -> InYour first inclination will be to go where the action is, or where your favorite people are.However, we are not here to satisfy that desire for games and friendsWe are here to accompany everyone into positive growth through the community
17The “oi!” MethodLook for the wall flowers and encourage them to come and join the funLook for the downcast and ask them if everything is okLook for the shy and encourage them to accompany you into the mixBe patient and always invitingWork in pairs! This helps.
18The Wall Flowers We can’t fix the awkwardness of others! Be gentle and inviting - don’t nagLearn their names and use them!Personal invites and group invitesSome things like dancing make people feel uncomfortableYou might offer to teach themYou might invite them over saying “come on over, you don’t have to dance.” etc.You might sacrifice the dance floor to accompany them (Bring friends, its no pity party)
19The Tough Guy/GalThere are some people who are too tough or cool for everything less than their own super-coolnessYou might break the ice by asking, “hey did you get tricked into coming?”If they say, “No,” then you say, “C’mon we’re doing…x”If they say, “Yes,” then you might strike up a conversation about it.If they want to bash the retreat that’s fineYou should encourage them… “it gets better”Stay positive and share some of the benefits you are gaining from it.Chances are its only an act.
20Prince Potty MouthThis retreat is for God’s word to be heard in their heartsWe should encourage positive talk and and good languageDiscourage swearing, complaining, and negative talk (don’t do it yourself)Use humorUse optimismUse each other for support
21Small Group Success Attitude is everything Don’t be shy, ask the question, expect the answer!When you give up, they give up!Silence is Golden and AwkwardDon’t panic at silence if they’re not brewing up genius, let the awkwardness of silence provoke an answer.Take your time, enjoy the conversationRead everything before you start, know the gist of where you are going.Then go fishing!
22Small Group: FishingStart with a nice easy question, “Having fun yet? What did you like?”Then follow your guideSome questions get dismissive answers, those are nibbles on the fishing lineSome questions will evoke some enthusiasm, that is a biteDon’t cut the line and recast a new questionLet the conversation flow until they become tiredThen reel them in with the next question
23The Soap Box StarRemember the lamp, empower them to do all the shining/talking in the group.Some people have an answer to everything and can overpower your SGThis can reduce the rest of the group to “I agree… I agree… I agree…”Try to spread around who answers the next question firstIf you have a soap box star, ask if anyone disagrees or ask what the opposing argument is (unless its brutally obvious)Be kind and encouraging, call on people who are not talkingBefore asking “the next question” you might say, “Jack what’s on your mind?You can also politely acknowledge a soap box star and suggest to them, “let’s encourage some other opinions.”
24Personal Success Don’t forget that you’re on retreat too! Immediately begin praying for the people you meet.Stop into the chapel and pray for those who are strugglingAsk God to help your small groupBe a servant and invest yourselfYou will learn a deeper self-less joyHopefully you will pass that same joy to others this same week.
25Use the Adult Team Finally, you are not alone. This week you have an amazing adult team to help you out.The priestsThe Director and AssistantsThe Pre-NovicesDon’t try to solve every problem yourself, use these people for both advice and assistance!Thank you for your sacrifice and your hard work!
26Why do cows dress differently? They have their own brands! Any Questions?Why do cows dress differently? They have their own brands!