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SEXUALITY and INTIMACY for Women after Cancer Karen Syrjala PhD Co-Director, Survivorship Program Director, Biobehavioral Sciences a member of the
How does cancer affect sexuality for women? What can you do about it? Topics:
Zip, zilch, nada, gone. Since my treatment I have had no desire and have not been able to reach an orgasm. My partner does not know about my lack of interest, it would hurt him. I really would like to have the feeling of love again or orgasm. You wonder what you are doing wrong. Same partner, much less sex. Both of us are content, but miss being frequently and spontaneously sexually intimate. Dry vagina and yeast infections are a drag. My body had changed so much I felt very unattractive and not sexy at all. I thought that he would find me repulsive… We have a healthy sex life. My partner is patient with me! What female survivors say:
Hurting partner or demanding too much Rejection fear: He/she cant find me attractive when I look like this. He/she wont be responsive if I ask so why ask? Suppressing own needs / over-focus on the other person Talking will make it worse Fears of survivors & partners
When its time, Ill / hell / shell feel like it Being alive is enough She / he doesnt want to talk about it Nothing can be done so its cruel to bring it up If its a problem, shell bring it up It will take care of itself with time Other Barriers and Beliefs
Sexual Function Quality & Quantity Syrjala et al. Blood, 2007 Women recover in sexual frequency rates by 2 years, but do not fully recover in quality. Women remain below rates for without cancer in frequency and quality % of women are not sexually active at each time point
Poorer sexual function before treatment Being female Older age Poorer physical function 1 year after treatment Lower relationship satisfaction before treatment Not returning to sexual activity by 1 year Becoming postmenopausal from treatment and no hormone therapy by 1 year Depressed or anxious After Treatment: Who has more problems?
Types of sexual difficulties Sexual Interest not decreased after cancer Sexual Desire Fewer thoughts or fantasies Less responsive to partners touch/initiation Sexual Arousal Difficulty with lubrication or erection Change in physical sensations
Orgasm Longer time to climax Unable to climax Less intense climax Pain Decreased lubrication Vaginal tissue atrophy Infection or Nerve increased sensitivity to touch Vaginismus – muscle spasms Vulvodynia – neuropathic sharp intense pain Types of sexual difficulties
Body Image Surgical scars, loss of breast or other body parts Changes in body, muscle tone, skin Weight gain or loss or shift Receptiveness to Sexuality Mood changes: irritability, depression, worry Protecting partner reduces intimacy Types of sexual difficulties
Young Lack of information Relationship changes: not in a stable relationship or with a single partner Menopause symptoms may be more abrupt, severe Dont have sexual patterns to know clearly what changed Single / No partner Dating and explaining Need safe ways to try things out If want to be sexual later, need action now Mature Maybe its just aging Increased sensitivity of skin, other changes in responses require adaptation of partner and person Issues Differ by Age / Situation
Causes: Chemotherapy Damage to ovaries depends on age, type of drugs, and dose of drugs Women who stop menstrual periods and then restart them are still at risk for early menopause
Causes: Premature Ovarian Failure Permanent ovarian failure is not uncommon Ovaries no longer make estrogen Vagina loses blood flow / ability to stretch Vulvar skin and vaginal lining become thin and fragile Vagina does not deepen as much with sexual excitement Pain with sexual touch or penetration, burning, spotting of blood after intercourse, Frequent urinary track or vaginal yeast infections Leaking urine
Treating Pain Problems
Causes of Painful Sex Vaginal dryness & tightness from menopause Radiation damage to vaginal tissue Pain after surgery to genital or pelvic area (adhesions and scarring )
Specific Techniques for Sexual Pain… Learn to control pelvic muscles: tense & relax Use coital positions that minimize deep penetration and give the woman control Consider a set of graduated vaginal dilators Could vaginal expansion and blood flow from sexual arousal work as well as mechanical stretching?
Dilators Available on Internet
Learn About Lubricants Use nonhormonal lubricants optimally; Replens and water-based types Lubricate all surfaces as part of foreplay Keep water-based lubricant handy in case more is needed
Types of Lubricants Water-based: Astroglide Liquid Silk GV Slip Inside Hydra-smooth Sensua Organic Probe Silicone-based: Wet Platinum Eros
Vaginal Moisturizers Replens takes up to 2 months to have full effect Early vaginal discharge but does have double-blind studies published Feminease, claims to be all-natural Moist Again has applicator
Local Estrogen Treatment If lubricants dont help, consider vaginal estrogen Estring and Vagifem local vaginal hormones with very little systemic escape Oncologists and gynecologists may disagree about safety of oral or transdermal (skin patch) hormones
Treating Desire Problems
Causes of Low Desire after Cancer Loss of desire is the most complex and difficult sexual problem to treat Stress of illness Depression Chronic fatigue Relationship issues exacerbated by illness Body image changes Painful sex Lack of estrogen Multiple medications
Is the EROS® Better Than a Vibrator? $400$40
Is Testosterone the Answer?
Maybe for Those With Truly Low Hormones Fad for replacement testosterone No good evidence it works in women over time Safety issues in cancer survivors Increases risk of breast cancer Taking DHEA from health food store or bioidentical hormones just as risky No correlation with womans own testosterone Or with sexual desire or satisfaction in naturally postmenopausal women
Pills to Enhance Sexual Desire No aphrodisiac yet, but drugs being tested Be careful of claims for: Pink Viagra Dream Cream Avlimil L-arginine, etc.
Return to sex as soon as possible, but gradually. Estrogen therapy is not a magic bullet, but if an option, its likely to help (at least with transition). Especially if premenopausal before treatment. If an option, start of estrogen right after completing treatment. oValuable for improving long term sexual function. oUnclear how long is useful and safe Lower dose hormones: Vaginal creams E-ring (vaginal ring) Major Issues
Techniques to Enhance Desire Identify activities that increase sexual desire: Intimate talks, cuddling, romance Physical sports or dance Use erotic stories, videos, fantasies Talk to your partner about what has changed in your responses, how to please you Get counseling for relationship conflict or depression Change meds that could be interfering Treat any sexual pain or vaginal dryness
COMMUNICATION… SET ASIDE TIME: Talk and listen! Listen, try to remain open to the discussion. Keep the words non-blaming and I focused. Chances are both partners are interested in improved intimacy and sexuality. Sensitive subject takes sensitivity, timing, neutral setting. (Not when tired or in bed trying sex.) Agree on a time, decide if prefer a neutral professional to assist.
GO BACK TO DATING Start with a plan for intimate time, not sex Avoid the performance focus on sex Remember the fun of petting Try sex in the shower or tub Get in the mood with dancing Practice all by yourself Try a mini-vacation Candles, low lights, music, start with intimacy, not sex
Reaching Orgasm More Easily Goal is to promote arousal Do not make orgasm a goal that creates performance anxiety Use fantasy and erotica Try self-stimulation techniques Consider a vibrator
Nearly all of us feel vulnerable about our sexuality. But sex is an important part of living fully. Sexual problems are normal after treatment. Use it! Help it happen. Dont wait until you feel like it – you may not at first. Plan time for intimacy. Communicate with your partner! Conclusions
Seek Help for Sexual Problems You need to bring up the topic with your doctor Doctors may have their own barriers to addressing sexual problems. Find one who can help you. Insurance may not cover all of the costs Both partners need to understand the range of treatments available and agree on one
SOLUTIONS IN FINDING HELP Written materials: ACS Sexuality and Cancer Booklets Sexuality and Fertility after Cancer, Leslie Schover, 1997 See an endocrinologist See a sexuality specialist - GYN Talk to sexual counselor with your partner