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Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Today we are going to define and discuss the prevalence of the following terms and how each one contributes to the tolerance of violence: Sexual Harassment Dating Violence Sexual Assault HB 121 – Teen Dating Violence Policy
The Cycle of My Life by Pamela, age 16 It all starts out wonderful until he strikes Constantly hearing Im sorry Until it doesnt matter anymore Forgiving every time, forgetting never Calling out for him to stop Never stopping until it is almost too late Never thinking about the consequences of his actions Just making me think about the consequences of mine Hearing Im sorry all over again Meeting him with open eyes Awaiting the gifts I know will pour forward Until it all stops And the cycle begins all over again
Defined in the Texas Penal Code ( – Sexual Harassment) as, Any repeated or deliberate sexual behavior that is unwelcome to its recipient, as well as other sex-related behaviors that are hostile, offensive, or degrading. Physical Contact – grabbing, pushing, touching, groping Sexual Comments – name-calling, rumors, gossip, using the word fag Sexual Propositions – quid pro quo Unwanted phone calls/ s/text messages/letters/notes Sexual Harassment is a form of violence!! Sexual Harassment
The Prevalence of the Problem Over 80% of girls (8 th – 11 th grade) and over 70% of boys (8 th – 11 th grade) reported that they have been sexually harassed or bullied. Roughly 38% of students reported that they have experienced some form of physical abuse, sexual abuse, or harassment by a public school employee (coach, teacher). Over 30% of school employees or teachers were harassed by students and over 40% of school employees or teachers had been harassed by each other Every 7 minutes a child is bullied or harassed. In addition to that, adult intervention occurred only 4% of the time, peer intervention occurred only 11% of the time, and no intervention occurred 85% of the time. Nearly 60% of boys classified as bullies in grades 6-9 were convicted of at least one crime by the age of 24, and 40% of them had three or more convictions by the age of 24 ** Bureau of Justice – School Crime and Safety & American Association of University Women
Dating Violence Defined in the Texas Family Code ( ) as, The intentional use of physical, sexual, verbal, or emotional abuse by a person to harm, threaten, intimidate, or control another person in a dating relationship. Dating violence is a pattern of coercive behavior that one partner exerts over the other for the purpose of establishing and maintaining power and control.
Dating Violence Can Be... PHYSICAL - Pinching, shoving, slapping, grabbing, intimidating (blocking doors, throwing objects, breaking or damaging possessions, using weapons) SEXUAL - Unwanted touching, forced sexual activities, RAPE, pressure or coercion to have sex, threats of finding someone who will do what he or she wants sexually VERBAL/EMOTIONAL - Put-downs, insults, rumors, threats, possessiveness, mood swings, humiliation, accusations, dictating what one wears, dictating who one hangs out with, requires partner to check in constantly.
The Prevalence of the Problem Approximately 1 in 5 high school girls reported being physically or sexually abused by a dating partner. As many as 45% to 66% of youth in violent relationships are both perpetrators and victims. Dating violence occurs most frequently in schools, with about 50% occurring in the front of other people, including adults. Almost 60% of adolescent males believe that rape is acceptable under certain circumstances. Acceptance of dating abuse among friends is one of the strongest links to future involvement in dating abuse. It does not discriminate.
The Prevalence of the Problem In the United States, a woman is raped every 46 seconds. That equates to about 683,280 rapes per year. In the United States, an avg. of 112,000 males age 12 and older are victims of rape or attempted rape every year. 1 out of every 5 women, and 1 out of every 10 men will be raped at some point in their lives. 1 in 3 girls, and 1 in 7 boys will be sexually abused before they reach the age of 18. Teens between the ages of 16 and 19 are 3 and a ½ times more likely to be victims of rape of attempted rape. Over 60% of all rape victims are under the age of 18
Continuum of Violence Thoughts, Attitudes Rumors, Teasing Name-calling Stalking Physical or Verbal Assault Sexual Assault/Rape MURDER!!
Impact on Victims Red Flags Bruises, scratches, other injuries Failing grades or dropping out of school Avoiding friends and social activities Changes in clothes or make-up Changes in eating habits Increase in high risk behaviors Regressive behaviors Irrational or exaggerated fear of places Sudden changes in mood or personality
House Bill 121 Effective September 2007, the Texas Legislature has passed, and Governor Perry has signed, an act requiring each school district in Texas to adopt and implement a dating violence policy. Each school districts dating violence policy must: include a definition of dating violence address safety planning include enforcement of protective orders include school-based alternatives to protective orders address counseling for affected students address training for teachers and administrators include awareness education for students and parents
Safety Planning A Safety Plan is a tool used to assess risk and identify actions to increase safety for victims. Includes important telephone numbers including law enforcement, helpline, community organizations, etc. Identifies supportive peers and adults at home and school Outlines specific strategies for avoiding the abuser, and getting help when needed
Counseling for Students Provide school counselors with training, resources, and teen dating violence prevention materials. Let students know that they can talk to the counselors about dating and relationships. Utilize local resources such as domestic violence and sexual assault centers.
Resources The Rape Crisis Center for Children and Adults – San Antonio Texas Association Against Sexual Assault – Austin Texas Advocacy Project: Teen Justice Initiative – Austin Texas Council on Family Violence Red Flags Project – Austin National Youth Violence Prevention Resource Center CHOOSE RESPECT Initiative – San Antonio The Expect Respect Program Manual – Austin SafePlace RAINN (Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network)
Mary Alice Smallbone, Director Safe and Drug Free Schools and Communities/Mediation Student Support Services or 7130 Dating Violence
SDFSC/Mediation in NEISD Training Peer Mediation Experiential Learning PAL training Prevention Programming: Safe School Ambassadors Steps to Respect Second Step
A Day in the Life of the American Child 17,072 public school students are suspended. 4,400 children are arrested. 65,000 students miss school due to some sort of conflict. 2,539 teens drop out of school. 2,455 children are abused or neglected. 1,186 babies are born to teen mothers. 8 children/teen are killed by a firearm 5 children/teens commit suicide 4 children are killed by abuse or neglect
Flirting vs. Harassment Flirting: Makes you feel good Is usually taken as a compliment Goes both ways Is welcome attention Encourages positive self- esteem Sexual Harassment: Hurts your feelings Is usually considered insulting Is one-sided Is unwanted Enforces negative self-esteem
Common Myths About Sexual Assault Sexual Assault and Rape are two different things Rape = Sex Date rape isnt as bad as stranger rape Rape only happens to (some) women Some women ask to be raped based on their clothing or behavior A rape victim is damaged goods Secretly, women really WANT to be raped It will never happen to me
Rape & the San Antonio Community Rape is the most underreported felony in our community. 1 in 10 women report 1 in 25 men report Over 80% of rape survivors in San Antonio that are 12 and older, know their attacker. Over 90% of sexually abused children in San Antonio up to the age of 12, know their attacker. The Rape Crisis Center averages going to the hospital 5-6 times a day and receives an average of 650 calls a month on our 24 hour hotline.
Preventing Violence Using the Ecological Model The components of prevention... Primary Prevention: Interventions before sexual violence occurs to prevent initial perpetration or victimization Secondary Prevention: Interventions immediately after sexual violence has occurred to deal with short-term consequences of violence Tertiary Prevention: Interventions after sexual violence has occurred that involve long- term responses to deal with lasting consequences of violence & sex offender treatment programs
Teen Dating and Sexual Violence - Risk Factors Individual Alcohol and drug use Coercive sexual fantasies and other attitudes and beliefs supportive of sexual violence Impulsive and antisocial tendencies Preference for impersonal sex Hostility towards women History of sexual abuse as a child Witnessed family violence as a child Belief in strict gender role Aggressive or delinquent behavior
Teen Dating and Sexual Violence - Risk Factors Community Factors Poverty Lack of employment opportunities Poverty, mediated through forms of crisis of male identity Lack of institutional support from police and judicial system General tolerance of sexual assault within the community Weak community sanctions against perpetrators of sexual violence
Teen Dating and Sexual Violence - Risk Factors Relationship Associate with sexually aggressive and delinquent peers Family environment characterized by physical violence and few resources Strongly patriarchal relationship or family environment Emotionally unsupportive family environment Family honor considered more important than the health and safety of the victim
Teen Dating and Sexual Violence - Risk Factors Societal Factors Inequalities based on gender, race, and sexual orientation Religious or cultural beliefs Economic and social policies Societal norms supportive of sexual violence Societal norms supportive of male superiority and sexual entitlement Weak laws and policies related to sexual violence Weak laws and policies related to gender equality High levels of crime and other forms of violence Traditional gender norms
Impact on Victims Girls with a history of physical and sexual dating violence are significantly more likely to: Engage in substance abuse (binge drinking, cocaine use, smoking, and unhealthy weight-control behaviors) Engage in risky sexual behavior before age 15 Have multiple sexual partners To have been pregnant (4-6 times more likely than non-abused peers) To have attempted suicide during the previous year (8-9 times more likely than non-abused peers)
Impact on School Staff How do the issues of sexual and dating violence impact your job performance? Your own safety?
Are We Responsible? Do we tolerate the idea that violence is acceptable? Give some examples about what we tell or show our kids that could possibly support the risk factors that we just talked about What are doing to make it safer?
Training and Education Defining teen dating and sexual violence Identifying social expectations of males and females that contribute to abuse Examining the role of the media in supporting sex role stereotypes and how these stereotypes, if believed, are a set-up for abuse and violence Exploring how teens can help themselves or a friend, including where to find legal, medical, and mental health services Defining healthy and respectful behavior and relationships
Risk Assessment and Safety Plan How often does your partner: Put you down? Threaten to hurt you? Hit you or throw things Call you names Constantly call, text or page you Pressure you to have sex Yell at you Push or shove you Slap you or pull your hair Act controlling Keep you from spending time with your friends
Getting Youth Involved They have the credibility Increased buy-in Can reach the hard-to-reach youth Benefit to youth leaders themselves Become outspoken leaders for change Increase likelihood of impacting social norms
Protective Orders Enforcement of Protective Orders Contact the Texas Advocacy Projects Teen Justice Initiative for questions about Protective Orders and Youth School Based Alternatives to Protective Orders Develop reporting system, investigative protocol and options such as a stay-away agreement