1. Daniel A. Schaefer 11-7-06 person2personresources.com Dating Violence : Building an Effective School System Response Daniel A. Schaefer, Ph.D.

2. Daniel A. Schaefer 11-7-06 person2personresources.com Bureau of Justice Statistics Bureau of Justice Statistics In 1999 there were about 671,110 intimate partner victimizations of women age 12 or older, including 91,470 rapes and sexual assaults, 65,970 robberies, 68,810 aggravated assaults and almost 444,860 simple assaults.

3. Daniel A. Schaefer 11-7-06 person2personresources.com Bureau of Justice Statistics Bureau of Justice Statistics The majority of intimate partner violence that occurred between 1993 and 1999 was perpetrated by boyfriends and girlfriends (53 percent), with an additional 33 percent perpetrated by a current spouse. Younger victims of intimate partner violence were least likely to report the violence to the police. Younger victims of intimate partner violence were least likely to report the violence to the police.

4. Daniel A. Schaefer 11-7-06 person2personresources.com Bureau of Justice Statistics Bureau of Justice Statistics The percentages of all homicides against males or females committed by an intimate from 1993 through 1999 by gender and age were as follows http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/bjs/abstract/ipva99.htm Age of victimFemale victimsMale victims 12-1510%1% 16-1922 1 16-1922 1 20-2432 2 20-2432 2 25-3436 4 25-3436 4 35-4938 6 35-4938 6 50-6430 8 50-6430 8 65 & older21 5 65 & older21 5

5. Daniel A. Schaefer 11-7-06 person2personresources.com Troubling Statistics A. 20 to 25% of college woman experience completed or attempted rape (JAMA 2001) B. 83% of girls report being sexually harassed at school before they graduate from high school C. 20% of adolescent girls were physically or sexually abused by a date D. 40% of 14-17 yr old girls report knowing someone their age who was hit or beaten by their date

6. Daniel A. Schaefer 11-7-06 person2personresources.com Troubling Statistics E. E. Both teenage boys and girls report being victims of physical violence in relationships (Okeefe & Treister, 1998). However, teenage boys and teenage girls use physical force for different reasons and with different results (Molidar & Tolman, 1998) F. F. While both report acting violently because they were angry, teenage boys are much more likely to use force in order to control their girlfriends, while girls more often act violently in self- defense. (Okeefe, 1997)C.

7. Daniel A. Schaefer 11-7-06 person2personresources.com Troubling Statistics G. G. Teenage girls suffer more from relationship violence, emotionally and physically.They are much more likely than teenage boys to have serious injuries and to report being terrified. (Foshee, 1998) H. H. In contrast, male victims seldom fear violence by their dates or girlfriends, often saying that the attacks did not hurt and that they found the violence amusing. (Molidor & Tolman, 1998)

8. Daniel A. Schaefer 11-7-06 person2personresources.com Correlates of Intimate Violence Correlates of Intimate Violence A. Mental Illness (Bipolar, depression, ASPD) B. Alcoholism/Substance abuse C. Attachment Styles D. Family of Origin/Dutton Trinity E. Power and Control Issues

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10. Teen gets life term for killing classmate St. Louis Post-Dispatch, (11.02.2006) William C. Lhotka At times during a hearing in which Alexander Stirlen was sentenced to life in prison without parole, he took full responsibility for the slaying of fellow Lindbergh High School student Erin Mace. But sometimes Stirlen tried to justify the rape and murder of the girl who considered him a friend...

11. Daniel A. Schaefer 11-7-06 person2personresources.com John Hit Mary. Mary was hit by John. Mary was beaten. Mary was battered. Mary is a battered woman.

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13. The Atlantic Monthly November, 2006 -a book review by Elizabeth Judd According to Raising Boys without Men, not having a father is a bit like not having a skateboard - kind of a bummer; but at least you dont have to worry about head injuries. According to Raising Boys without Men, not having a father is a bit like not having a skateboard - kind of a bummer; but at least you dont have to worry about head injuries.

14. Daniel A. Schaefer 11-7-06 person2personresources.com The three enemies of change 1. Apathy 2. Hostility 3. Defensiveness/Shame

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16. Ohio Revised Code re Domestic Violence (R.C. 2919.25) knowingly causing or attempting to cause physical harm to a "family or household member" recklessly causing serious physical harm to a family or household member by threat of force, knowingly causing a family or household member to believe that the offender will cause imminent physical harm to the family or household member

17. Daniel A. Schaefer 11-7-06 person2personresources.com Ohio Senate Bill 267 (HB 436) Expands the criminal and civil domestic violence laws to also apply when the victim of the offense was a child under the age of 18 with whom the offender has had or has a dating relationship.

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19. SLAPSHOT You are in the hallway between classes. You see a couple you know arguing. Then you see the guy shove his girlfriend up against her locker. The guy is not a close friend of yours, and neither is the young woman, but you do hang around with the same group of people. Nobody else is doing anything. From MVP Playbook, Jackson Katz From MVP Playbook, Jackson Katz

20. Daniel A. Schaefer 11-7-06 person2personresources.com OFFSIDES You are riding in the back seat of your friends car one afternoon with two other male friends. Someone spots a young woman jogging a few hundred yards ahead and the driver starts to slow down. Your friend in the front seat starts to roll down his window to yell something most likely demeaning to her. From MVP Playbook, Jackson Katz From MVP Playbook, Jackson Katz

21. Daniel A. Schaefer 11-7-06 person2personresources.com Mentors in Violence Prevention (MVP) Mentors in Violence Prevention (MVP) A. Training of trainers (teachers, coaches..) B. Train Mentors (diverse group of student leaders) C. 1. Trainers lead discussions with existing teams (sports teams, student council) 2. Mentors lead discussions with 9th graders 2. Mentors lead discussions with 9th graders D. Elements of success: 1.Buy in at all levels 1.Buy in at all levels 2. Follow through 2. Follow through

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23. Intimate Violence Resources Www.Jacksonkatz.com SAFEYOUTH.ORG NATIONAL YOUTH VIOLENCE PREVENTION RESOURCE CENTER National Domestic Abuse Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE www.colorado.edu/cspv Center for the Study and Prevention of Violence Mensfraternity.com Mens Fraternity  The LINK (419-352-1545) Kathy Mull Vital Program 419-352-9504 ex 3516

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27. Daniel A. Schaefer 11-7-06 person2personresources.com Rape Poem There is no difference between being raped and going through a windshield except that afterward you are afraid not of cars but half the human race -Marge Piercy