1. Let’s talk about Sex!

2. 2 Soul Sisters: Feuds, Fun & Friendship

3. #value: Discover your God-given worth

4. Let’s talk about Sex!

5. 5 ‘PENIS!’

8. Equipping leaders

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14. SURVEY!

15. Would you like to chat to someone? Be prayed for? The Listening Space team – Janice, Jo, Favour and Kathy - are here for you. Look out of the PINK lanyards! THE LISTENING TEAM PRAYER SPACE

16. Let’s talk about Sex!

17. Engage 81% females aged 11-18 think that the adults in their lives aren’t aware of the pressures they feel under to become sexually active and experienced. (Romance Academy 2015)

18. 4 criteria that contribute to defining sexuality 1. NATAL SEX 2. SEXUAL IDENTITY 3. GENDER ROLE 4. SEXUAL ORIENTATION

20. 1. What are some of the issues to do with relationships & sex that you see in the girls you work with?

21. At this age they can stroke their genitals if they can find them and boys can get erections. BABIES

22. They are beginning to explore their gender. They enjoy being naked & want to be in control of touching, hugging & kissing. TODDLERS

23. Aware of gender differences. Increased interest in touching their genitalia. They may engage in relational role play & may experiment with ‘bad words’. Show an increased interest in opposite parent. PRE-SCHOOLERS (aged 3-5)

24. May compare private parts with same sex peers. Demonstrate a need for privacy at home and at school. Aware of the conversations about sex around them. May be exposed to homophobic bullying or teasing. PRIMARY(aged 4-9)

25. Secondary sexual characteristics begin to develop. May develop intense admiration for same- sex adults & may get distressed if their physical development is more or less advanced than their peers. May begin ‘crushes’ coupled with intense desire for peer approval. PRE-ADOLESCENTS (aged 10-13)

26. Strive for autonomy, desire authority approval but act as if adults know nothing. Aware of increased sexual activity among peers as well as drug & alcohol use. Can struggle with intense feelings of inadequacy, guilt, regret & shame. ADOLESCENTS (aged 14-19)

27. 2. What are some of the barriers to engaging girls in this topic? 3. What might prevent GB leaders from using n:counta SRE materials?

28. Equip Cultural reproduction

29. What are the dominant messages about sex being communicated by the media ?

30. Becoming critical consumers

31. 3 dominant sexual scripts: 1.Relationships are disposable 2.Sex is trivial 3.Pornification of culture

32. Relationships are disposable

33. ‘Sexuality has fallen prey to consumerism’s scheduled obsolescence which thrives on short- term commitments and favours transient human relationships. Consumerism trains us to acquire, consumer and move on, with novelty as our guiding impulse.’ - Jonathan Grant, Divine Sex

34. Sex is trivial

35. Pornification of culture

36. 1 in 4 young people have viewed porn online by 12 years old (BBC3)

37. Sexting 6 in 10 teenagers have been asked to send a sexually explicit image. (NSPCC)

38. Sexting 40 % of teenagers have sent a sexual image or video (NSPCC)

40. ‘The modern self no longer sees and expresses these human desires within the bigger arc of God’s story of human redemption and reconciliation; instead of pointing to a world beyond this one, sex has become a god in its own right.’ - Jonathan Grant, Divine Sex

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44. Break Please be back in 15 minutes. Prayer Space and Listening Team available.

45. Let’s talk about Sex!

46. Empower What we do comes out of who we believe we are. (Rob Bell ‘God:Sex’)

47. ‘There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one.” Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never “become one.” There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for “becoming one” with another.

48. Or didn’t you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don’t you see that you can’t live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body.’ (1 Cor 6:16-20)

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51. Biblical perspective #1 We are male or female & we need each other.

52. Biblical perspective #2 Sexuality is a good gift meant to draw us into deeper levels of knowing ourselves, others and God.

53. Biblical sexuality #3 We are born with an inbuilt capacity for sexual pleasure.

54. Biblical sexuality #4 We function best sexually in an emotionally caring & trustworthy environment.

55. Biblical sexuality #5 We are all broken sexually & need Jesus to heal us & restore our sexual potential.

57. GRACE from the Greek ‘charis’, meaning favour, blessing & kindness...’