2.  RAINN Rape Abuse and Incest National Network.

3. 44% of victims of sexual assault are under 18 and 80% are under 30. Every 2 minutes someone in the U.S. is sexually assaulted. 60% of sexual assaults are never reported to police 15 of 16 rapist will never spend a day in jail. Approximately 2/3 of assaults are committed by someone known to the victim.

4. Rape Incest Dating and Domestic Violence Acquaintance Rape Sexual Harassment Male Sexual Violence Stalking Partner Rape Stranger Rape Child Sexual Abuse Sexual Exploitation by helping professionals Drug Facilitated Sexual Violence

5. Incest is sexual contact between persons who are so closely related that their marriage is illegal (e.g., parents and children, uncles/aunts and nieces/nephews, etc.). This usually takes the form of an older family member sexually abusing a child or adolescent. There are many reasons that the victim might not report the abuse.  The victim has been told that what is happening is normal or happens in every family, and doesn’t realize that it is a form of abuse  The victim may not know that help is available or who they can talk to  The victim may be afraid of what will happen if they tell someone › The abuser may have threatened the victim › The victim may care about the abuser and be afraid of what will happen to the abuser if they tell › The victim may be afraid of what will happen to them if they tell  The victim may also be concerned about how many people will react when they hear about the abuse › They may be afraid that no one will believe them or that the person they confide in will tell the abuser › The victim may be afraid that people will accuse them of having done something wrong

6. Sexual assault of children often includes incest as a subset of this form of sexual assault. Contact Can Include:  Fondling  Obscene phone calls  Intercourse  Oral or anal sex  Prostitution  Pornography  Any other sexual conduct that is harmful to a child's mental, emotional, or physical welfare Additional Features  May consist of a single incident or many acts over a long period of time.  Abuse is more often perpetrated by someone known to the child.  Abuse may escalate over time, particularly if the abuser is a family member.

7. Rape : forced sexual intercourse, including vaginal, anal, or oral penetration. Penetration may be by a body part or an object.  Rape victims may be forced through threats or physical means. In about 8 out of 10 rapes, no weapon is used other than physical force. Anyone may be a victim of rape: women, men or children, straight or gay.

9. Partner Rape is defined as sexual acts committed without a person's consent and/or against a person's will when the perpetrator is the individual's current partner (married or not), previous partner, or co-habitator. Types of Partner Rape:  Battering rape - the experience of both physical and sexual violence within a relationship. Some may experience physical abuse during the sexual assault. Others may experience sexual assault after a physical assault as an attempt to "make up."  Force-only rape - motivated by a perpetrator's need to demonstrate power and maintain control. Therefore, he/she asserts his/her feelings of entitlement over his/her partner in the form of forced sexual contact.

10. Acquaintance assault involves coercive sexual activities that occur against a person's will by means of force, violence, duress, or fear of bodily injury. These sexual activities are imposed upon them by someone they know (a friend, date, acquaintance, etc.). Some Key Points:  A prior or current relationship or previous acts of intimacy are insufficient indicators of consent.  Verbal consent must be obtained both in each instance of sexual intimacy and as the level of sexual intimacy increases (e.g., moving from kissing to petting, from petting to oral sex, from oral sex to intercourse or anal sex, etc.).  Like other forms of sexual assault, acquaintance assault is motivated by a need to control, to humiliate, and to harm.

11. 3 Major Categories  Blitz sexual assault - The perpetrator rapidly and brutally assaults the victim with no prior contact. Blitz assaults usually occur at night in a public place.  Contact sexual assault - The suspect contacts the victim and tries to gain her or his trust and confidence before assaulting her or him. Contact perpetrators pick their victims in bars, lure them into their cars, or otherwise try to coerce the victim into a situation of sexual assault.  Home invasion sexual assault - When a stranger breaks into the victim's home to commit the assault.

12. Teen Dating Violence (part 1, 6:38/ part 2, 6:44) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3KQ5nCJQdkM&feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VhOaqzvCVhc&feature=relatedhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VhOaqzvCVhc&feature=related (part2) Dating and domestic violence : any act, attempt, or threat of force by a family member or intimate partner against another family member. Dating and domestic violence occurs in all socio-economic, educational, racial, and age groups. The issues of power and control are at the heart of family violence. The batterer uses acts of violence and a series of behaviors to gain power and control. Behavioral Signs of an Abuser:  Intimidation : Smashing things, abusing pets, destroying victim's property, displaying weapons.  Threats : Making and/or carrying out threats to harm the victim, to commit suicide, to report him or her to child welfare, to make him or her drop charges.  Isolation : Controlling what the victim does, sees, and reads, limiting who the victim talks to.  Emotional abuse : Putting the victim down, calling him or her names, making him or her think he or she's crazy, playing mind games.

13. Warning Signs:  Inconsistent explanations : Victims may provide inconsistent explanations as to the cause of their injuries due to fear of alerting others to the severity of their situation.  Injuries in multiple stages of healing : Bruises are the most common form of injury and have the following stages of healing: purple to green to yellow. Why Does the Victim Stay?  Financial dependence : Batterers may have forbidden their partners from getting or keeping a job or may have kept secret the location and balance of bank accounts.  Lack of social support : Batterer may have controlled victim's contact with friends, family, and the outside world. Such isolation limits her or his ability to obtain help with an escape.  Fear of severe physical attack : Batterer may use threats of attack to keep victim in a state of perpetual fear. The batterers may tell their victims that, if they leave, they will be killed.  Self-blame : It is not uncommon for victims to believe that the abuse is a result of their real or imagined offenses.  Belief that the violence is temporary or caused by unusual circumstances : Often batterers place blame for abuse on external sources, alcohol, work pressures, etc. and do not take responsibility for their actions

14. Rihanna (part 1, 10:02/part 2, 9:56/part 3, 8:00) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DjV8P WdZYR0&feature=relatedhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DjV8P WdZYR0&feature=related (part 1) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WJgQ 8aN1-pM&feature=relatedhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WJgQ 8aN1-pM&feature=related (part 2) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ziShNf BtURo&feature=relatedhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ziShNf BtURo&feature=related (part 3)

15.  Complete the FLE study guide using your notes from all 5 days!

16. Chris Brown (10:08) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Oc egtQV2QHQ

17. Stalking refers to “a course of conduct directed at a specific person that involves repeated visual or physical proximity, nonconsensual communication, or verbal, written, or implied threats, or a combination thereof, that would cause a reasonable person fear.” Examples of this behavior include:  Repeated undesired contact (phone calls, emails, letters, show up unexpectedly, etc.).  Following or laying in wait for the individual.  Making threats to the individual or her/his family.  Any other behavior used to contact, harass, track, or threaten the individual. If you are being stalked consider:  Avoiding all contact with the stalker.  Informing family, friends, supervisors, and co-workers of what is going on.  Reporting the stalking to your local police.  Keeping an accurate journal or log of all incidents connected to the stalking.  Keeping all evidence received from the stalker such as letters, packages, taped telephone messages, etc.

18.  Sexual harassment : unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature in which submission to or rejection of such conduct explicitly or implicitly affects an individual's work or school performance or creates an intimidating, hostile, or offensive work or school environment.

19. There are various stereotypes and myths that impact male survivors' ability to face their sexual assault. These include:  Men are immune to victimization.  Men should be able to fight off attacks.  Men shouldn't express emotion.  Men enjoy all sex, so they must have enjoyed the assault.  Male survivors are more likely to become sexual predators.

20. Sexual exploitation by a helping professional : sexual contact of any kind between a helping professional (doctor, therapist, teacher, priest, professor, police officer, lawyer, etc.) and a client/patient.  There are three major types of sexual involvement between a client/patient and a professional:  Sexual activity in the context of a professional treatment, evaluation, or service  Sexual activity with the implication that it has therapeutic benefit  A sexually exploitative relationship

21. Drug facilitated assault : when drugs or alcohol are used to compromise an individual's ability to consent to sexual activity. In addition, drugs and alcohol are often used in order to minimize the resistance and memory of the victim of a sexual assault.  Alcohol remains the most commonly used chemical in crimes of sexual assault, but there are also substances being used by perpetrators including: Rohypnol, GHB, GBL, etc. Diminished Capacity  Diminished capacity exists when an individual does not have the capacity to consent. Reasons for this inability to consent include, but are not limited to: sleeping, drugged, passed out, unconscious, mentally incapacitated, etc.  It is important to understand diminished capacity because oftentimes victims of sexual assault in these situations blame themselves because they drank, did drugs, etc. It is essential to emphasize that it is not his or her fault, that the aggressor is the one who took advantage of his or her diminished capacity.

22.  Post Traumatic Stress Disorder  Substance Abuse  Sleep Disorders  Self-Harm Self-Injury  Eating Disorders  Depression  Suicide  Dissociative Identity Disorder  Flashbacks  STDs  Pregnancy

23.  Avoiding Dangerous Situations  Safety Planning  In Social Situation  If Someone is Pressuring You

24. Safe Dating (3:14) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R9Aiq3F-s-A&feature=relmfu  Be aware of your surroundings. Knowing where you are and who is around you may help you to find a way to get out of a bad situation.  Try to avoid isolated areas. It is more difficult to get help if no one is around.  Walk with purpose. Even if you don’t know where you are going, act like you do.  Trust your instincts. If a situation or location feels unsafe or uncomfortable, it probably isn’t the best place to be.  Try not to load yourself down with packages or bags as this can make you appear more vulnerable.  Make sure your cell phone is with you and charged and that you have cab money.  Don't allow yourself to be isolated with someone you don’t trust or someone you don’t know.  Avoid putting music headphones in both ears so that you can be more aware of your surroundings, especially if you are walking alone.

25. How to get away if there is an emergency  Be conscious of exits or other escape routes  Think about options for transportation (car, bus, subway, etc.) Who can help  Friends, family  Support centers if there are any in your area  National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE(4673), the National Sexual Assault Online Hotline(LINK TO: /ohl-bridge.php) or, if you are in a dating or domestic violence situation, the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1.800.799.SAFE(7233) Where to go  Friend’s house  Relative’s house  A domestic violence or homeless shelter (if there are not any domestic violence shelters in your area, and you are contemplating leaving the town, you may want to consider going to a homeless shelter)  The police Important Safety Note: If the dangerous situation involves a partner, go to the police or a shelter first.

26. When you go to a social gathering, go with a group of friends. Arrive together, check in with each other throughout the evening, and leave together. Knowing where you are and who is around you may help you to find a way out of a bad situation. Trust your instincts. If you feel unsafe in any situation, go with your gut. If you see something suspicious, contact law enforcement immediately (local authorities can be reached by calling 911 in most areas of the U.S.). Don't leave your drink unattended while talking, dancing, using the restroom, or making a phone call. If you’ve left your drink alone, just get a new one. Don't accept drinks from people you don't know or trust. If you choose to accept a drink, go with the person to the bar to order it, watch it being poured, and carry it yourself. At parties, don’t drink from the punch bowls or other large, common open containers. Watch out for your friends, and vice versa. If a friend seems out of it, is way too intoxicated for the amount of alcohol they’ve had, or is acting out of character, get him or her to a safe place immediately. If you suspect you or a friend has been drugged, contact law enforcement immediately (local authorities can be reached by calling 911 in most areas of the U.S.). Be explicit with doctors so they can give you the correct tests (you will need a urine test and possibly others).

27. Remember that being in this situation is not your fault. You did not do anything wrong, it is the person who is making you uncomfortable that is to blame. Be true to yourself. Don't feel obligated to do anything you don't want to do. "I don't want to" is always a good enough reason. Do what feels right to you and what you are comfortable with. Have a code word with your friends or family so that if you don’t feel comfortable you can call them and communicate your discomfort without the person you are with knowing. Your friends or family can then come to get you or make up an excuse for you to leave. Lie. If you don’t want to hurt the person’s feelings it is better to lie and make up a reason to leave than to stay and be uncomfortable, scared, or worse. Some excuses you could use are: needing to take care of a friend or family member, not feeling well, having somewhere else that you need to be, etc. Try to think of an escape route. How would you try to get out of the room? Where are the doors? Windows? Are there people around who might be able to help you? Is there an emergency phone nearby? If you and/or the other person have been drinking, you can say that you would rather wait until you both have your full judgment before doing anything you may regret later.

28. What to do? Report Crime to Police Receive Medical Attention Preserving/Collecting Evidence Get Help Sexual Assault Hotline at 1.800.656.HOPE

29.  WHAT WOULD YOU DO?????  In your groups… read the scenario and DISCUSS and DECIDE as a group how you should react! Be prepared to share to our class your reaction and reasoning for reactions… 5 minutes!!!

30.  1. A friend comes to you extremely agitated and says her husband beat her last night. She says she doesn't know what to do. You can see she's very panicky. Everything you suggest just seems to provoke more anxiety and fears. When you try to respond to one aspect of the problem, your friend interrupts frantically and jumps to another. What can you do to help?

31.  2. You find your teenage daughter crying and sobbing inconsolably in her bedroom. When you finally get your daughter to talk, she tells you that she was raped the night before by her boyfriend. But when you suggest calling the police or a rape crisis center, your daughter adamantly refuses, and says she doesn't want to talk to anyone. How do you help your daughter?

32.  3. You notice that a young woman with a baby in your neighborhood seems alone, isolated, and depressed. She seems afraid to get into conversations, as if she fears getting punished. You suspect she's being abused. What can you do?

33.  4. Your friend comes to you and tells you her husband was arrested last night for domestic violence. She says she doesn't know what's going to happen next, what exactly he was arrested for, whether or not she has to do anything like testify or get a restraining order, and she doesn't know how to find all this out either. How can you help your friend?

34.  5. You've been helping your friend ever since she was raped by a coworker. Today she tells you she just called the detective because she hadn't heard from him in four weeks. She says the detective told her he was very sorry but the case is a "he said, she said" situation and they won't be able to prosecute. The detective also said he had interviewed the suspect and the suspect seemed like a nice guy. Your friend is devastated. She feels there is a lot of evidence pointing to the rapist's guilt. What can you do for your friend?

35.  6. You've been helping your friend get out of a violent marriage. She got the police to arrest him, she testified against him, she got a restraining order and she got custody of the children. And even with all this going on, she got a new job, too. Your friend has been doing very well, indeed, putting together a new life for herself and her kids.  But today your friend calls you in tears and desperation. She just got a legal notice of cause from the landlord to evict her from her apartment. The notice says police have been called to the household too many times, and because there's a `no crime on the premises' policy, the landlord has taken the first legal step to evict. What can you do to help her?

36.  7. Your friend is very upset about the abusive behavior she received from police when she went to report being beaten by her ex- husband. And she's also upset because she doesn't think the officer took her situation seriously because he didn't take any notes. When you suggest going to a sergeant or a captain to protest the abusive officer, and to ask that the report be better handled, your friend seems more frightened than ever and says she doesn't want the police to be hostile with her too.

37.  8. A coworker friend of yours is being sexually harassed by another coworker at the company where you all work. It all started when your friend said she didn't want to go out on a date with the guy. At first, he started sending her sexy cards and flowers even when your friend told the man she wanted it to stop. Then he began following your friend out to the parking lot after work. She just kept repeating to him that she didn't want to date him, and kept asking him to please leave her alone. But he just kept getting more persistent. Now your friend comes to you shaking. She shows you a note that was left on her windshield that says, "You will die, bitch." She wants to know what she can say to him to just make him leave her alone. What can you do now to help your friend?

38.  9. Your friend tells you that she received a subpoena in the mail to testify against the man who raped her. She says she's really afraid to go forward with the case because she lied to the detective that interviewed her. She told the detective she wasn't using drugs when she was raped. She tells you she was afraid that if she told the detective she was using drugs, they wouldn't pursue the case, or that they would arrest her, or not believe her about the rape. But the truth is she was using cocaine with the man who raped her. Your friend doesn't want to lie about this anymore, but she's still afraid if she tells the truth now the case will be ruined. What advise can you give your friend?

39.  10. For a couple of years now you've tried to convince your friend to get out of a violent relationship and sometimes it seems like she tries. You notice that things have gotten much more serious over the last month. You've seen a lot more bruises. She's told you he's been playing with his guns and making threats to hunt her down if she tries to leave. She says that the last couple days he's been constantly waking her up in the middle of the night to rant and order her around, and during the day he won't leave the house. Today she calls you and says that last night things were so bad she tried to leave. But he grabbed her before she could get out the door, threw her in their room and raped her brutally. He said he would never let her go, and threatened that if she dared call the police he was going to kill her for sure. There are moments in the conversation when your friend sounds terrorized, but mostly she seems paralyzed by numbness, despair, and exhaustion. Suddenly she says "He's here", and hangs up. How can you help your friend?

40.  11. Your friend asked you to accompany her to courthouse for her interview with the prosecutor and then to be with her when she testifies against her rapist. At the District Attorney's office, the prosecutor motions for your friend to come into his office. You get up to join them and the prosecutor stops you and says he wants to talk to your friend alone. Your friend tells the prosecutor it's OK, that she wants you to be with her. The prosecutor says you can't be in the meeting because that would make you a witness in the case. Your friend looks distressed. She wants you to be with her. What can you do?

41.  Study note sheets

42. Safe Dating (3:14) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R9Aiq3F-s-A&feature=relmfu Teen Dating Violence (part 1, 6:38/ part 2, 6:44) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3KQ5nCJQdkM&feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VhOaqzvCVhc&feature=relatedhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VhOaqzvCVhc&feature=related (part2) Rihanna (part 1, 10:02/part 2, 9:56/part 3, 8:00) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DjV8PWdZYR0&feature=relatedhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DjV8PWdZYR0&feature=related (part 1) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WJgQ8aN1-pM&feature=relatedhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WJgQ8aN1-pM&feature=related (part 2) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ziShNfBtURo&feature=relatedhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ziShNfBtURo&feature=related (part 3) Chris Brown (10:08) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OcegtQV2QHQ