1. Conflict Resolution with Family or Friends Win -Win Solutions
Edited by:
Teresa Griffin, Oak Canyon Junior High
and students Annie Madsen, Lindsay Clegg

2. Definitions Conflict: Two people disagree on something.
Conflict Resolution:
Resolves conflicts in a positive way, by understanding others point of view.
Win-Win Conflict Resolution:
A compromise so everyone will win.
Avoids competition and arguing.

3. What Doesn’t Work to Resolve Conflicts?
Yelling,
Refusing to work out the conflict,
Name calling,
Hitting,
Most Passive and Aggressive Behaviors.

4. 3 Behavior Styles used in Relationships to resolve conflict
Aggressive
Passive
Assertive

5. Aggressive Behavior
My rights are more important than other people’s rights!
My Attitude:
“I’m never wrong”
“Everyone should be like me”

6. Passive Behavior I consider others rights, not my own.
I don’t express my true feelings, and always agree with others.

7. Assertive Behavior Win-Win attitude -- Everybody wins something
I listen to others, but still stand up for myself.

8. Win-Win Solutions Lose-Lose: The Downward Spiral
You Lose ---- Other Person Loses
Lose-Win: The Door-Mat
You Lose --- Other Person Wins
Win-Lose: The Bulldozer
You Win - Other Person Loses
Win-Win: The All You Can Eat Buffet
You Win - Other Person Wins

9. This is when nobody wins and the conflict is not solved.
Lose-Lose
“The downward spiral”
This is when nobody wins and the conflict is not solved.

10. Win-Lose “The Bulldozer” One person wins, the other loses.
You Win - Other Person Loses
“The Bulldozer”
One person wins,
the other loses.

11. One person wins, the other loses.
Lose-Win
You Lose --- Other Person Wins
“The doormat”
One person wins, the other loses.

12. Win-Win “The All You Can Eat Buffet!!”--
Each person gets what they want!
Both people win and the conflict is resolved!

13. Goldilocks and Three Bears Conflict

14. In order to solve problems, you will need to be able to see things from several points of view! Can you do it?

15. Eskimo or Indian?

16. Young or Old
Woman?

17. What do you see? Anything else?

18. Brainstorm all possible solutions to solve problems using win-win solutions
Think of any and all possible ways to solve the problem so that everyone will win something and be happy!
Evaluate later NOT NOW
Do not criticize any suggestion until it is time to evaluate and make a decision.

19. Hug O’War by Shel Silverstein
I will not play a tug o' war
I'd rather play a hug o' war,
Where everyone hugs
Instead of tugs
Where everyone giggles
And rolls on the rug,
Where everyone kisses
And everyone grins
And everyone cuddles
And everyone wins.