2. What is a bully?

3. Hurts someone’s body or feelings
Repeatedly
Something you wouldn’t do to a friend
There’s an imbalance of power (taller, bigger, stronger, older, more popular, more money, smarter, more friends…)

5. True or False?
Kids who are bullied are good students and almost always have good attendance -
Boys who bully are usually bigger and stronger than their victims
Most kids who are bullied don’t report it
Bullies have trouble making friends
More than half of bullying incidents stop when a peer intervenes
Most bullies stop violent or aggressive behavior as adults
Over 3 million students are victims of bullying each year
Majority of bullies are boys
Bullies do poorly in school compared to others who do not bully
Bullying is inevitable
Sticks and stones will break my bones….

6. Did you know?
Origin of the word BULLY – It used to mean TOTAL OPPOSITE of today: it meant friend, family member or sweetheart. Came from Dutch “boel” – meaning “brother”

7. There are four different kinds of bullying
Physical
Social
Verbal
Cyber

8. What does bullying look like?

9. Physical Hitting Kicking Pushing Spitting Grabbing
Taking and/or damaging someone’s belongings

10. Social
Spreading rumors
Purposely excluding someone
Refusing to talk to someone
Trying to hurt someone’s feelings
Gossiping

11. Verbal
Taunting or teasing
Threatening
Making offensive remarks

12. Cyber
Using technology to send mean texts, s, tweets or snap chats
Spreading rumors on social media
Posting embarrassing pictures or videos
Creating fake profiles
24/7 – nowhere to hide

13. “Just joking” VS bullying – what is crossing the line?
Just joking/teasing
Not intended to be mean
Everyone is having fun
Friendly tone
Encourages friendship
Maybe lightens a tense moment
Stops right away if someone is upset
Bullying
Intent is to hurt
Angry tone
Also showing off
Doesn’t stop when asked
Aren’t friends

14. Why are some people bullied?
No apparent reason!
They look like they won’t stand up for themselves
They have few friends around them
They are different

15. How are people different?
Everyone who…Stand up
Has a brother
Has a sister
Has a pet
It’s your first year at Bear Creek
Plays a sport
Born in Washington
Has brown hair
Not born in Washington
Whose favorite food is pizza
Has traveled out of the US
Likes vegetables
Plays video games
Wears a helmet when they bike
Knows everyone’s name in your class
you, or a family member speaks more than one language
Considers yourself tall

16. What does bullying feel like?
Sad
Embarrassed
Scared
Angry
Hopeless
Low self confidence
Not liking school

17. Bystanders If you do nothing, you’re doing something
NEGATIVE
Actively join in
Encourages the bully (laughs, cheers)
Silently watches (gives an audience)
Stands up for or sides with the bully
POSITIVE
Goes for an adult
Walks away (no audience)
Stands up for the victim
Creates an “out” “(hey – they need you in the office”, “you said you’d play with me today”)
Supports the victim afterwards (I saw what happened and you totally didn’t deserve that!)

18. Bystanders are important!
70-85% of bullying takes place in front of peers
Almost never happens when adults are watching
Most bystanders want to do something

19. Why don’t more people help??
Afraid to get hurt or become a victim
Don’t like the victim – thinks they “deserve it”
Feel powerless
Think it’s none of their business
Think telling an adult won’t help or will make it worse
Don’t know what to do

20. How to deal with bullies
Show confidence – stand up straight
Don’t hide or pull your hoodie over your face
Stay calm – bullies like reactions
Pretend you don’t hear them, ignore them
Stay within sight of a teacher or group of people
Walk with friends
Find things that make you feel good about yourself
Join a group (scouts, music, sports, church/synagogue)
Remember you’re awesome! That doesn’t change just because the bully doesn’t see it
Tell an adult

21. 3 Steps!

22. Who could you tell? Someone at home and someone at school.
Teacher
Recess supervisor
Bus driver
Mrs. White
Parents
Friend’s parent
Aunt/uncle/grandparent

23. No matter what anybody says…