1. LET’S REVIEW Lesson 6

2. ESSENTIAL NEEDS Security Connection Purpose Support Contribution If we focus on meeting our needs in healthy ways, we are more likely to avoid risky behaviors.

3. Safety from harm/trust in those around you Who do you feel safe around? Do people feel safe around you? Can people trust you? Who would never put you in harms way? Security

4. CONNECTION Love, feeling respected, enjoy time spent with others Who has similar talents and interests as you? Who encourages you to excel in school and activities? Who compliments you when you do well in school, sports, band, choir, and other activities? Does the group you hang with avoid risky behaviors?

5. PURPOSE Feeling that you have value, talents, and significance  What do you do well?  Are you focused on your talents and/or skills?  Have you told your siblings & friends what they do well?

6. SUPPORT Having guidance and opportunities for personal growth Who gives you good advice? Who offers help when you need it? To whom do you give good advice?

7. CONTRIBUTION CONTRIBUTION Doing good things for those around you, serving your community Do you do chores around the house without being asked? Do you volunteer or belong to a community service organization? Do you offer help when you know people need it?

8. Puberty is a time when an adolescent’s body changes from that of a child to an adult. This usually begins between the ages of 9-16 for girls and 9-20 for guys, and girls often go through puberty first. The body becomes physically capable of making a baby. It takes several years for the puberty process to occur. Growth spurts – girls usually get taller before guys. Acne may start, so be sure to shower and wash face daily. Try not to touch your face. Body odor will start, so use deodorant after you shower.

9. EMOTIONS & PUBERTY The hormones released during puberty often causes emotional ups and downs or moodiness. Those who develop faster or slower than others may feel awkward. Everyone goes through puberty, so you’re not alone. Talk to your parent/guardian when you need to. This will help you understand what you are going through.

10. WHY SHOULD YOU WAIT?  Avoid pregnancy, STDs, giving birth  Avoid emotions such as heartache, worry, regret, loss of reputation, etc.  Be a positive role model  Happier, healthier & more successful  Babies are expen$ive (child support, food, diapers, doctor visits, etc.)  It’s against the law if under 18  It’s YOUR life & YOUR future. Don’t let anyone pressure you into doing anything you don’t want to do. Medical, Emotional, Financial & Legal

11. What is the only 100% way to avoid pregnancy? Abstinence (avoiding) sexual activity IF YOU WAIT, YOU WON’T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT PREGNANCY & ALL OF THE CHALLENGES THAT GO ALONG WITH IT

12.  STDs are infections spread by sexual activity. There are over 25 types of STDs that are either viral or bacterial.  Viral STDs: cause infections that usually cannot be cured. Medicines can slow down viruses but not get rid of them.  Bacterial STDs: cause infections that can be cured with antibiotics. No Worries: If you are not having sex, you won’t get an STD. Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) IF YOU WAIT, YOU WON’T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT GETTING AN STD & ALL OF THE CONSEQUENCES

13. It is against the law for anyone under the age of 18 to have sex, even if both people say yes. If someone over 18 (an adult) is having sex with someone under 18 (a child), the adult could be prosecuted with a felony crime. LEGALLEGAL

14. HOW TO STAY ABSTINENT ~ Make a decision NOT to have sex (abstinence). ~ Let your friends know about your decision (it’s something to be proud of!). ~ Practice saying “NO” before being confronted with a risky situation. ~ Hang with friends that are also abstinent. “I like you a lot, but I want to be clear that I am not ready for sex at this time in my life. I want to wait until I’m an adult and married.”

15. REFUSAL SKILLS/SETTING BOUNDARIES REFUSAL SKILLS/SETTING BOUNDARIES ~ Be clear & direct. Ex: “No, I don’t do drugs.” ~ Don’t argue and don’t smile. ~ Use body language: stand tall, make eye contact, you can also put your hand up or cross your arms. ~ Turn and walk away. IF IN DANGER, KEEP SCREAMING “FIRE!” AND TRY TO GET AWAY! Remember to do these things when you are saying NO and setting boundaries. It gets easier after a few times.

16. Television Music Movies Internet Magazines

17. Educational information Entertainment Shopping for the best price Weather reports Travel information Communication (emails, texting, Face Time, etc.) Some Benefits of Media

18. Harmful Effects of the Media Shows a lot of violence, smoking, drinking, drugs, sex, etc. Risky behaviors are shown as “normal” when they’re not. Shows most young people having sex when they’re not. People with many sex partners with no consequences. Viewing sexual images, sexting, and bullying are common. Sexual Abusers use the internet to find victims. Time away from focusing on school, family, etc.

19. SEXUAL ABUSE: WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW SEXUAL ABUSE: WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW  Sexual abuse is unwanted touching of another person’s private parts (covered by the underwear).  It is usually committed by someone the victim knows (relatives, friends, youth leaders, babysitters, etc.).  The abuser can be male or female, young or old.  Both boys and girls can be victims.  Report abuse to a trusted adult!

20. TO STAY SAFE, AVOID RISKY BEHAVIORS Not wearing seatbelts Not wearing helmets Use of illegal drugs/inhalants Use of prescription drugs without a prescription Use of steroids without a prescription Consuming alcohol Use of tobacco products Unhealthy eating Eating disorders Lack of physical activity Tanning Bullying Fighting Carrying a weapon Suicide Sexual intercourse Dating violence Forced Sex

21. YOUR LIFE, YOUR FUTURE Do you believe you can do great things? You CAN do great things! By avoiding risky behaviors; setting goals; and making good choices; you’re doing great things AND shaping an amazing life & future.

22. DON’T DO ANYTHING YOU DON’T WANT TO DO & SET YOUR STANDARDS HIGH BECAUSE YOU ARE WORTH IT!!

23. “WHAT DID YOU LEARN?” ACTIVITY (IF TIME PERMITS) “WHAT DID YOU LEARN?” ACTIVITY (IF TIME PERMITS)  Count off into groups of 3 or 4.  You have 3 minutes to pick the top 3 most important things you learned during this program.  Each group will share their top 3 and tell us why they are important.