1. A Sacred Trust Professional and Ministerial Ethics

2. Sexuality and Justice A Neglected Perspective. A Neglected Perspective.

3. Restoring Right Relationships The Work of Justice.

4. Sex & Power Context for Relational Abuse. Context for Relational Abuse.

5. Sexual Sin: Violation of Persons Moving from a private morality to a communal ethic.

6. Prophetic Vision Hebrew Hospitality Codes. Hebrew Hospitality Codes.

7. Hebrew Hospitality Codes You shall not molest the widow, the orphan, or the alien. You shall not molest the widow, the orphan, or the alien. Because when you were aliens, I was your Go’el (‘next of kin,’ or protector). Because when you were aliens, I was your Go’el (‘next of kin,’ or protector).

8. Gospel Vision John 10: John 10: The good shepherd.

9. Model Minister ‘Anyone who goes and comes in through me, will find safe pasture…’ ‘Anyone who goes and comes in through me, will find safe pasture…’ –John 10

10. The Illusion of Powerlessness The temptation to over-idealize our role as servants. The temptation to over-idealize our role as servants.

11. Illusion vs. Reality Illusion: Illusion: “I don’t feel powerful…”

12. Illusion vs. Reality Illusion: Illusion: “I don’t feel powerful…” Reality: Reality: My title/role has public status. My behavior puts pressure on others.

13. Sources of Power Position, Status, Role (authority). Position, Status, Role (authority). Title: Reverend, Pastor, Doctor, Sister, Chairperson, President, etc. Title: Reverend, Pastor, Doctor, Sister, Chairperson, President, etc. Age Age Gender Gender Race. Race.

14. Sources of Power Physical, Psychological Strength. Physical, Psychological Strength. Education, Information, Expertise. Education, Information, Expertise. Experience. Experience. Financial Resources, Possessions. Financial Resources, Possessions. Personality (charm, persuasiveness). Personality (charm, persuasiveness). Sexual Orientation. Sexual Orientation.

15. Power Abuse Any time I use my resources and advantages to harm others, or benefit myself at their expense.

16. What are ‘Boundaries’ ? “The sanctity of the self within a relationship…” “The sanctity of the self within a relationship…”

17. An Important Difference Breaking A Vow: Breaking A Vow: – For example violating a marital commitment or religious vow of celibacy. Malpractice: Malpractice: –Abusing fiduciary power by violating professional or ministerial boundaries.

18. Intimacy Needs Primary: –Immediate family, spouse, or partner. –Closest circle of friends.

19. Intimacy Needs Secondary: –Co-workers and colleagues. –Faith communities and those served.

20. Preventing Boundary Violations Develop good self-knowledge. Develop good self-knowledge. Maintain healthy friendships. Maintain healthy friendships. Deal with disappointments, anger, loneliness. Deal with disappointments, anger, loneliness.

21. Preventing Boundary Violations Appropriate time and setting for appointments. Appropriate time and setting for appointments. Seek supervision. Seek supervision. Maintain balance in work/play/prayer. Maintain balance in work/play/prayer.

22. Dual Relationships More than one role with same person. More than one role with same person. In some professions these are unethical. In some professions these are unethical. –For example, physicians, psychologists, psychotherapists.

23. Dual Relationships & Ministry In ministerial settings, dual relationships are In ministerial settings, dual relationships are –Inevitable –Sometimes necessary More responsibility on the minister More responsibility on the minister –To keep healthy boundaries –Maintain responsible relationships

24. The Central Questions What is my role of service… What is my role of service… –With this person? –At this time? –Under these circumstances?

25. The Central Questions Who is the focus? Who is the focus? –Is this about helping this person? –Or is it about meeting my needs?

26. Relationship Continuum Relationship Continuum Professional-------Friendship--------LoverMaximum Professional Effectiveness _____________________________________ Maximum Mutual Intimacy

27. Transference Unconscious Feelings/Needs Attachment (positive or negative) Transference

28. Keeping Responsible Relationships The integrity of the ministerial relationship. The integrity of the ministerial relationship.