1. We, like Martha, struggle with many things!
The Christian's Struggles
Luke 10:38-42
“Martha, Martha, you are worried and troubled about many things” (v. 41)
Not a bad person
Not immoral
Not lacking in love for the Lord
Title Slide: The Christian’s Struggles—Lesson #2…Bad Attitudes…
Bothered (NASV) – many things
Distracted – thus struggled
We, like Martha, struggle with many things!

2. Struggles With Bad Attitudes
Evidence: Every one of us have had a bad attitude toward someone – sometime!
Every Christian has an “attitude” toward others
May be good & right
May be bad & wrong
Attitudes form the basis on how we treat them
Matthew 15:19 – actions - from the heart
Struggles With Bad Attitudes.
Evidence: Everyone one of us have had a bad attitude toward someone—sometime!
All Christians have “attitudes” toward others. Some may be “good and right.” Others may be “bad and wrong.”
Attitudes form the basis on how we “treat them.”—Matthew 15:19—actions precede from our hearts!

3. Struggles With Bad Attitudes
Evidence: Every one of us have had a bad attitude toward someone – sometime!
Who
Why
What
How
Struggles With Bad Attitudes.
Attitudes form the basis on how we “treat them.”—Matthew 15:19—actions precede from our hearts!
Who—Why—What—How

4. Who—Bears Responsibility
Struggles With Bad Attitudes
Evidence: Every one of us have had a bad attitude toward someone – sometime!
Who—Bears Responsibility
Struggles With Bad Attitudes.
Attitudes form the basis on how we “treat them.”—Matthew 15:19—actions precede from our hearts!
Who—Bear Responsibility?

5. I. Who – Bears Responsibility
Common Problem:
Often think that others should have the right attitude toward us,
Who—Bears Responsibility? Common Problem:
Often think that others should have the right attitude toward us…
But do little thinking about whether we have the right attitude toward others…Always pointing finer away from us…
but we do little thinking about whether we have the right attitude toward others

6. I. Who – Bears Responsibility
Romans 12:18
“If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.”
A. Do your part
1. Work hard toward a good relationship
2. Try – requires effort on your part
3. Make sure that no one can blame you
4. Required by any passage on relationships
5. May require a change in attitude
Read Romans 12:18
Each must do our part—do what we are capable and should do.
1. Work hard toward a good relationship
2. Try – requires effort on your part
3. Make sure that no one can blame you
4. Required by any passage on relationships
5. May require a change in attitude

7. I. Who – Bears Responsibility
Romans 12:18
“If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.”
Do your part
Even if others don’t or won’t
1. Do not say “as much as depends on them”
2. You are to see “if it is possible” to get along
3. We must take the “high road”
Read Romans 12:18
Each must do our part—do what we are capable and should do.
Even if others don’t or won’t
1. Not say “as much as depends on them”
2. You are to see “if it is possible” to get along
3. We must take the “high road”
One must control the things we can about self—first and foremost!

8. Struggles With Bad Attitudes
Evidence: Every one of us have had a bad attitude toward someone – sometime!
Who—Bears Responsibility
Why—Dangers Involved
Struggles With Bad Attitudes.
Attitudes form the basis on how we “treat them.”—Matthew 15:19—actions precede from our hearts!
Who—Bear Responsibility?
Why—Dangers Involved?

9. I. Why – Dangers Involved
Galatians 6:10
“Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all, especially to those who are of the household of faith.”
To be right
1. Treat others right—so we will be right
2. Not because they are “right”
Read Galatians 6:10 and Matthew 7:12
Why—Dangers Involved
To be right
Treat others right—so we will be right
Not because they are right!

10. I. Why – Dangers Involved
Matthew 7:12
“Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.”
To be right
One sin breeds another
1. Sin has the tendency to compound (2 Timothy 3:13)
2. Colossians 3:5-9—sins listed have breeding effect
Read Galatians 6:10 and Matthew 7:12
Why—Dangers Involved
To be right
One sins breeds another
Sin has the tendency to compound (2 Tim.3:13)—”grow worse and worse”
Col.3:5-9—sins listed have breeding effect

11. Sins Multiplying Colossians 3:5
“Therefore put to death your members which are on the earth: fornication, uncleanness, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.”
Colossians 3:5…

12. in which you yourselves once walked when you lived in them…”
Sins Multiplying
Colossians 3:6,7
“Because of these things the wrath of God is coming upon the sons of disobedience,
in which you yourselves once walked when you lived in them…”
Colossians 3:6,7…

13. Sins Multiplying Colossians 3:8,9
“But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth.
Do not lie to one another, since you have put off the old man with his deeds.”
Colossians 3:8,9…

14. Colossians 3:5-9 Desire Uncleanness Fornication
Anger Wrath Malice Blasphemy
Colossians 3:5-9…
Stepping stones to cause one to travel deeper into the paths of sin!

15. I. Why – Dangers Involved
Proverbs 23:7
“For as he thinks in his heart, so is he. "Eat and drink!" he says to you, But his heart is not with you.”
To be right
One sin breeds another
1. Sin has the tendency to compound (2 Timothy 3:13)
2. Colossians 3:5-9—sins listed have breeding effect
3. Attitudes lead to actions:
Read Proverbs 23:7
Why—Dangers Involved
To be right
One sins breeds another
Sin has the tendency to compound (2 Tim.3:13)—”grow worse and worse”
Col.3:5-9—sins listed have breeding effect
Attitudes leads to actions:

16. Attitude Leads To Action
Produces
Evil comes from heart (Matthew 15:19)
Lust leads to adultery (Matthew 5:28)
Hate leads to murder (1 John 3:15)
Attitude Leads to Action
Attitude---Produces---Action
Evil—Matt.15:19
Lust—Matt.5:28
Hate—1 John 3:15

17. I. Why – Dangers Involved
To be right
One sin breeds another
Attitudes can be sinful
Read Proverbs 23:7
Why—Dangers Involved
To be right
One sins breeds another
Sin has the tendency to compound (2 Tim.3:13)—”grow worse and worse”
Col.3:5-9—sins listed have breeding effect
Attitudes leads to actions:
Attitudes can be sinful:

18. Romans 1:26-32 “Terribly Sinful” Attitude
Homosexuality (vv )
Sexual immorality (v. 29)
Murder (v. 29)
Haters of God (v. 30)
Covetousness (v. 29)
Maliciousness (v. 29)
Envy (v. 29)
Proud (v. 30)
Boasters (v. 30)
Undiscerning (v. 31)
Untrustworthy (v. 31)
Unloving (v. 31)
Unforgiving (v. 31)
Unmerciful (v. 31)
Romans 1:26-32…

19. 2 Corinthians 12:20-21 “Terribly Sinful” Attitude
Uncleanness (v. 21)
Fornication (v. 21)
Lewdness (v. 21)
Jealousies (v. 20)
Selfish ambitions (v. 20)
Conceit (v. 20)
2 Corinthians 12:20,21…

20. Galatians 5:19-21 “Terribly Sinful” Attitude
Adultery (v. 19)
Fornication (v. 19)
Lewdness (v. 19)
Idolatry (v. 20)
Murders (v. 21)
Drunkenness (v. 21)
Hatred (v. 20)
Jealousies (v. 20)
Selfish ambitions (v. 20)
Envy (v. 21)
Galatians 5:19-21…

21. Love pleasure – not God (v.4)
2 Timothy 3:1-5
“Terribly Sinful”
Attitude
Blasphemers (v. 2)
Slanderers (v. 3)
Brutal (v. 3)
Love pleasure – not God (v.4)
Boasters (v. 2)
Proud (v. 2)
Unthankful (v. 2)
Unloving (v. 3)
Unforgiving (v. 3)
Headstrong (v. 4)
Haughty (v. 4)
2 Timothy 3:1-5

22. I. Why – Dangers Involved
To be right
One sin breeds another
Attitudes can be sinful
Could deceive self—thinking I’m taking a strong stand
1. 2 Corinthians 2:11—Seems like really taking a stand—while others are being “soft and tolerant” about it.
2. May be that “my stand” is a tool of Satan!
3. Example: Disagree with judgment—treat as sin!
Why—Dangers Involved
To be right
One sins breeds another
Sin has the tendency to compound (2 Tim.3:13)—”grow worse and worse”
Col.3:5-9—sins listed have breeding effect
Attitudes leads to actions:
Attitudes can be sinful:
Could deceive self—thinking I’m taking a strong stand
1. 2 Corinthians 2:11—Seems like really taking a stand—while others are being “soft and tolerant” about it.
2. May be that “my stand” is a tool of Satan!
3. Example: Disagree with judgment—treat as sin!

23. I. Why – Dangers Involved
To be right
One sin breeds another
Attitudes can be sinful
Could deceive self—thinking I’m taking a strong stand
E. Could “hate” others—not realize it
1. Hate=lack of love (despise)
a. 1 John 3:15
b. Compare: Matthew 10:37—Luke 14:26,27
2. If I have a bad attitude—could “hate” others
Why—Dangers Involved
To be right
One sins breeds another
Sin has the tendency to compound (2 Tim.3:13)—”grow worse and worse”
Col.3:5-9—sins listed have breeding effect
Attitudes leads to actions:
Attitudes can be sinful:
Could deceive self—thinking I’m taking a strong stand
1. 2 Corinthians 2:11—Seems like really taking a stand—while others are being “soft and tolerant” about it.
2. May be that “my stand” is a tool of Satan!
3. Example: Disagree with judgment—treat as sin!
6. Could “hate” others—not realize it

24. I. Why – Dangers Involved
To be right
One sin breeds another
Attitudes can be sinful
Could deceive self—thinking I’m taking a strong stand
E. Could “hate” others—not realize it
F. Could lose my soul!
1. Galatians 5:19-21—attitudes can cause one to be lost
2. 2 Corinthians 12:20—Some will lose their souls over improper attitudes.
Why—Dangers Involved
To be right
One sins breeds another
Sin has the tendency to compound (2 Tim.3:13)—”grow worse and worse”
Col.3:5-9—sins listed have breeding effect
Attitudes leads to actions:
Attitudes can be sinful:
Could deceive self—thinking I’m taking a strong stand
1. 2 Corinthians 2:11—Seems like really taking a stand—while others are being “soft and tolerant” about it.
2. May be that “my stand” is a tool of Satan!
3. Example: Disagree with judgment—treat as sin!
6. Could “hate” others—not realize it
7. Could lose my soul!

25. Struggles With Bad Attitudes
Who—Bears Responsibility
Why—Dangers Involved
What—Attitudes to Overcome
Struggles With Bad Attitudes.
Attitudes form the basis on how we “treat them.”—Matthew 15:19—actions precede from our hearts!
Who—Bear Responsibility?
Why—Dangers Involved?
What—Attitudes to Overcome

26. III. What – Attitudes to Overcome
Pride / Arrogance
Expressed in several ways:
“Holier than thou”
Look down at others – inferior (Money, Social standing, Education, Nationality, etc. )
Matthew 18:1-5
Romans 12:3, 16
Philippians 2:1-4
Ephesians 4: 2
What—Attitudes to Overcome
Expressed in several ways:
“Holier than thou”
Look down at other – inferior (Money, Social standing, Education, Nationality, etc. )
Matthew 18:1-5—Humility and become as little children
Romans 12:3, 16—not to think more highly of ourselves, same mind one towards another
Philippians 2:1-4—Esteem other better than self—look out for other’s interests
Ephesians 4:2—bearing with one another

27. III. What – Attitudes to Overcome
Pride/Arrogance
Hate/Disdain
Means
Despise—have disgust for a person(s)
Lacking love (1 John 3:15)
Matthew 5:21-26
What—Attitudes to Overcome
Expressed in several ways:
“Holier than thou”
Look down at other – inferior (Money, Social standing, Education, Nationality, etc. )
B. Hate/ Disdain
1. Means:
Despise—have disgust for the person (s).
Lacking love—1 Jno.3:15
2. Matthew 5:21-26—do not be angry with our brother—seek reconcilation always

28. III. What – Attitudes to Overcome
Pride / Arrogance
Hate/ Disdain
Bitterness
Means
Closely kin to “hatred”
Opposed to love (Colossians 3:19)
Luke 15:25ff—elder son was bitter
What—Attitudes to Overcome
Expressed in several ways:
“Holier than thou”
Look down at other – inferior (Money, Social standing, Education, Nationality, etc. )
B. Hate/ Disdain
C. Bitterness
1. Means:
Closely knit to “hatred”
Opposed to love—Colossians 3:19
2. Luke 15:25ff--- Prodigal son brother was very bitter

29. III. What – Attitudes to Overcome
Pride / Arrogance
Hate/ Disdain
Bitterness
Unconcerned/Uncaring
Means
Not really concerned/care about others; their feelings, their needs, their situation…
(Romans 12:15)
Matthew 7:12—seek proper care
What—Attitudes to Overcome
Expressed in several ways:
“Holier than thou”
Look down at other – inferior (Money, Social standing, Education, Nationality, etc. )
B. Hate/ Disdain
C. Bitterness
D. Unconcerned/ Uncaring
1. Means:
Not really concerned/ care about others; their feelings, their needs, their situation…
—(Rom.12:15)—weep and rejoice with others.
2. Matthew 7:12--- treat others as you would desire to be treated

30. The Golden Rule Matthew 7:12
Golden Rule Says: Treat others the way you want to be treated
Means: “…we are as much obliged to them as they are to us” - Matthew Henry
Forces Us To Think About:
Way I want to be treated
Way I treat Others
Compare the two
More than how others treat me!
The Golden Rule…Discuss each point…

31. III. What – Attitudes to Overcome
Pride / Arrogance
Hate/ Disdain
Bitterness
Unconcerned/Uncaring
Jump to Conclusions
Means
Too often—draw conclusions without evidence
(1 Corinthians 13:7)
—Love believes all things…
What—Attitudes to Overcome
Expressed in several ways:
“Holier than thou”
Look down at other – inferior (Money, Social standing, Education, Nationality, etc. )
B. Hate/ Disdain
C. Bitterness
D. Unconcerned/ Uncaring
E. Jump to Conclusions
1. Means:
Too often—draw conclusions without proper evidence to support
—(1 Cor.13:4-:7)—God’s definition of true love.
2. Loves believes all things…

32. Give The Benefit Of Doubt
1 Corinthians 13:7
Put best construction on matters
“Is ever ready to believe the best of every person, and will credit no evil of any but on the most positive evidence...” A. Clarke
Proverbs 14:15
Don’t jump to conclusions
All too often we fill in gaps that are not there
Proverbs 18:13
Proverbs 29:20
Give The Benefit of Doubt….Discuss
Prov.14:15—prudent man considers his steps
Prov.18:13—answer a matter before hearing all the facts—folly and shame
Prov.29:20—don’t be hasty in our words.

33. III. What – Attitudes to Overcome
Pride / Arrogance
Hate/ Disdain
Bitterness
Unconcerned/Uncaring
Jump to Conclusions
Impatient
What—Attitudes to Overcome
Expressed in several ways:
“Holier than thou”
Look down at other – inferior (Money, Social standing, Education, Nationality, etc. )
B. Hate/ Disdain
C. Bitterness
D. Unconcerned/ Uncaring
E. Jump to Conclusions
F. Impatient
1. Means:
Not willing to “beat with” things we don’t like in others
—(Ephesians 4:2)—Must practice longsuffering w/others.
Means
Not willing to “bear with” things we don’t like in others
(Ephesians 4:2)
—Lack longsuffering…

34. Longsuffering Literally: Suffer Long Patient - Exercise restraint
Ephesians 4:2
Literally: Suffer Long
Patient - Exercise restraint
Suggest - Collision of opinions, differing
Longsuffering—Eph.4:2—must always seek to practice this character w/others as they do for us!

35. “No virtue, perhaps, is more frequently demanded in our intercourse with others. We do not go far with any fellow traveler on the journey of life before we find there is great occasion for its exercise. He has a temperament different from our own.”
- Barnes
Quote from Barnes Commentary….

36. “He has his own plans and purposes of life, and his own way and time of doing things. He may be naturally irritable, or he may have been so trained that his modes of speech and conduct differ much from ours.”
- Barnes
Quote from Barnes Commentary…

37. “We must indulge the friend that we love in the little peculiarities of saying and doing things which may be important to him, but which may be of little moment to us.”
- Barnes
Quote from Barnes commentary….

38. “taking whatever comes, putting up with one another in love” - BBE
Longsuffering
Ephesians 4:2
Literally: Suffer Long
Patient - exercise restraint.
Suggest - Collision of opinions, differing
Time for tolerance
Time for tolerance…Quote from Bible Encylop.
“taking whatever comes, putting up with one another in love” - BBE

39. III. What – Attitudes to Overcome
Pride/Arrogance
Hate/Disdain
Bitterness
Unconcerned/Uncaring
Jump to Conclusions
Impatient
Stubbornness
What—Attitudes to Overcome
Expressed in several ways:
“Holier than thou”
Look down at other – inferior (Money, Social standing, Education, Nationality, etc. )
B. Hate/ Disdain
C. Bitterness
D. Unconcerned/ Uncaring
E. Jump to Conclusions
F. Impatient
G. Stubbornness
1. Means:
Refusal to look at self, change, or look for solutions
—(1 Samuel 15:23)—Such conduct is sinful.
_Luke 18:9-14—Pharisee and publican praying in the temple
_Judges 2:19—do what is right in OUR OWN sight!
Means
Refusal to look at self, change, or look for solutions
(1 Samuel 15:23)—characteristics is sin
Luke 18:9-14 (Pharisee/Publican)…
Judges 2:19—do what we want!

40. Struggles With Bad Attitudes
Who—Bears Responsibility
Why—Dangers Involved
What—Attitudes to Overcome
How—To Overcome
Struggles With Bad Attitudes.
Attitudes form the basis on how we “treat them.”—Matthew 15:19—actions precede from our hearts!
Who—Bear Responsibility?
Why—Dangers Involved?
What—Attitudes to Overcome
How—To Overcome

41. IV. How – To Overcome “I Must” If I don’t – Lose my soul
If I don’t – May get worse
Can’t continue to say, “I just can’t help it…”
How to Overcome…
“I Must”
1. If I don’t—could lose my soul
2. If I don’t—may get worse
3. Can continue to say “I just can’t help it…” _Excuse

42. IV. How – To Overcome “I Must” “I Can” Not impossible—not that hard
The Word is the answer— Timothy 3:1-5,8,16,17
How to Overcome…
“I Must”
“I Can”
1. Not impossible—not that hard
2. The Word is the only sure answer—2 Tim. 3:1-5; 8,16,17

43. Vv. 1-5 – [The Problem] V. 8 – [The Reason] Vv. 16-17 – [The Answer]
Rejected
Return
2 Tim. 3:1-5, 8, 16,17—Problem—Reason—Answer…

44. IV. How – To Overcome “I Must” “I Can” Not impossible—not that hard
The Word is the answer— Timothy 3:1-5,8,16,17
Philippians 4:13—I can do what God expects
How to Overcome…
“I Must”
“I Can”
1. Not impossible—not that hard
2. The Word is the only sure answer—2 Tim. 3:1-5; 8,16,17
3. Phil. 4:13—I can do what God expects!

45. IV. How – To Overcome “I Must” “I Can” “I Will”
Not: “I’ll try, but not sure I can.”
Determination says, “I CAN.”— Hebrews 6:3
How to Overcome…
“I Must”
“I Can”
“I Will”
1. Not: “I’ll try, but not sure I can.”
2. Determination says, “I CAN.”— Hebrews 6:3

46. Struggles With Bad Attitudes
Who—Bears Responsibility
Why—Dangers Involved
What—Attitudes to Overcome
How—To Overcome
Struggles With Bad Attitudes.
Attitudes form the basis on how we “treat them.”—Matthew 15:19—actions precede from our hearts!
Who—Bear Responsibility?
Why—Dangers Involved?
What—Attitudes to Overcome
How—To Overcome
Invitation…