1. CST #2: Call to Family, Community, and Participation

2. Catechism: 4 th Commandment The 4 th Commandment: Honor your father and mother ¶ 2197ff This opens the second half of the 10 Commandments (love of others/neighbors) The order of charity = 1 st God, 2 nd parents and authorities ¶ 2198 “one of the foundations” of CST ¶ 2199: The relationship of children to parents is the most universal. Setting aside all challenges and divisions within families, every human person who has ever existed has been in relationship with one father and one mother. How awe-some is that?

3. Catechism Extended family “Honor, affection, and gratitude toward elders and ancestors” ¶ 2199 “Finally it extends to the duties of pupils to teachers, employees to employers, subordinates to leaders, citizens to their country, and to those who administer or govern it.” “Presupposes the duties” of those in authority

4. Reward or Harm ¶ 2200: Obeying the commandment promises spiritual fruits (good things) as well as temporal (more immediate and concrete) fruits of peace and prosperity. Failure to observe the commandment brings great harm to communities.

5. Your Family In random groups of 3, discuss the following: How many people are in your family? –How many boys/girls? –Where do you fall in your family? Are you named after a family member? If so, what do you know about that family member? What activities does your family do together? (meals, Mass, camping, etc.) How many (great) grandparents do you have? How involved are they in your life? What is the best quality of your family? Share 1 challenge that your family has faced that has brought them closer together. Funny/funniest family memory.

6. Nature of the Family ¶ 2201 ff “Marriage and the family are ordered to the good of the spouses and to the ____________ and _______________ of children.” –Why are you here today? Normal reference pointNormal reference point: “A man and a woman united in marriage, together with their children, form a ______________.” How did God “institute” the family? –By creating man and woman (God gave them complementary natures)

7. ¶ 372 “Man and woman were made “for each other” not that God left them half- made and incomplete: he created them to be a ___________ of persons, in which each can be “helpmate” to the other, for they are ___________ as persons (“bone of my bones…”) and _____________________ as masculine and feminine.”

8. Complement com·ple·ment noun - a thing that completes or brings to perfection. “the libretto proved a perfect complement to the music” verb - add to (something) in a way that enhances or improves it; make perfect. "a classic blazer complements a look that's stylish or casual"

9. ¶ 2207 “The original cell of ________ life.” … “The foundations for __________, ____________, and fraternity within society.” “The family is the community in which, from childhood, one can learn _________________, begin to honor God, and make good use of ________________.” List 3 moral values that your family has taught you. How have you been taught to honor God? How have you learned a good use of your freedom from your family?

10. ¶ 2207 “ Family life is an ____________ into life in society. ” *** ¶ 2208 “ The family should live in such a way that its members learn to care and take responsibility for the _____________, the _________, the ___________, the ____________________, and the _________. Describe 3 ways that your family cares for the groups listed above.

11. ¶ 2207 “ Family life is an initiation into life in society. ” In a well formed paragraph (min. of 5 sentences) answer the following questions. What is initiation? (1) How does family life initiate you into life in society? (1) What things do you learn in family life that you will use in life in society? (3) Keywords to consider using: preparation/prepares, active member, process, become/becoming

12. Parents are the primary educators of their children. Parents are, above all, called to be role models and formators of their children, not their “friends”

13. Raise their children to become Christian men and women in the fullest sense Not only point the way but show the way.  If parents want their children to pray and go to church they must do the same Parenthood means sacrifice It is not an easy job and requires constant work and attention.

14. Show their children love and affection Pray for their children Communicate with their children Teach their children the proper value and meaning of material goods Be the primary and first teachers in sex education The family is the first and best school of faith and morals Entrust their children to Catholic schools when possible (bishops have the responsibility to establish schools whenever possible) Where this is not possible they should enroll kids in parish religious education and become involved in the parish themselves

15. Supervise their children and activities: oversee homework, know who they are friends with, know where they are going, know what is on their facebook page, twitter, etc. Discipline their children. True or False: many parents today are afraid to discipline their children and are overly concerned with being “friends” with them.

16. Discipline must be: 1.Fair: the punishment must fit the crime (justice is not based on feelings) 2.Firm: the punishment should be decisive and administered in a timely fashion (danger of extremes) 3.Consistent: the same infraction is treated in an expected way. (some room for variation) 4.Constructive: should not be strictly negative but should include an opportunity for learning and growth. All discipline should be balanced with love

17. In your groups, you have 5-7 minutes to design and perform a skit that demonstrates an ineffective use of discipline and then an effective use in a setting of your choice. Remember to be appropriate. Remember: fair, firm, consistent, and constructive Audience will identify the 4 elements of effective discipline or what was missing.

18. At the time, all discipline seems a cause not for joy but for pain, yet later it brings the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who are trained by it. Heb 12:11 But just as medicine, when it is taken, is bitter and disgusting, and yet its end is very sweet and desirable, so chastisement, although it is harder to endure, brings forth the best fruit. But it should be noted that chastisement, i.e., discipline, is drawn from the word ‘to learn.’ –St. Thomas Aquinas

19. Obey their Parents Do Chores Communicate with their Parents Give their Parents honor and respect Show Parents Love and affection Strive to become good Christian Men and Women Be responsible students Pray for their Parents Tell Parents “Thank You”

20. The 4 characteristics of the nature of marriage are… Totality Unity Indissolubility Fruitfulness Chastity: the moral virtue which provides for the successful integration of sexuality within one’s whole identity, leading to the inner unity of the physical and spiritual being (CCC 2337)

21. Challenges to Chastity Adultery Fornication Masturbation Rape Prostitution Pornography Homosexual Acts Artificial contraception Artificial conception –IVF –Artificial insemination –Surrogacy

22. In 1968, Pope Paul VI wrote an encyclical called Humanae Vitae that spoke out against the use of artificial contraception. He stated four things that would come to pass if artificial contraception were to become widely used and accepted: 1.Increase in Marital Infidelity 2.Lowering of moral standards, esp. for children 3.Exploitation of women 4.Government control through abortion and contraceptive methods All four of these things have come to pass.

23. “One of the most efficacious means of keeping ourselves chaste, is to have compassion for those who fall through their frailty, and never to boast in the least of being free, but with all humility to acknowledge that whatever we have is from the mercy of God.” “In the matter of purity there is no greater danger than not fearing the danger: when a man does not distrust himself, and is without fear, it is all over with him.” “When temptation comes, a man should remember the sweetnesses he has had in prayer at other times, and he will thus easily master the temptation.”

24. St. John Paul II- Theology of the Body Genesis Chapter 2 Woman created from the rib. What is the rib’s job? –Woman’s Role: To protect the heart of the man and be at his side. –Man’s Role: To lay down his life for the woman.

25. Ephesians 5:22-29 –Read and write your reaction to this passage “Wives be submissive (subordinate) to your husbands…” Sub  under Missive  missio  mission Ordinate  order Submissive  “under the mission” Subordinate  “under the order”

26. Eph 5:22-29 “Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the Church…” How did Christ love the Church? He died for her! The husband’s role is to LAY DOWN HIS LIFE and the wife’s role is to let him.

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28. Government and Marriage Why does the Government recognize marriage? What benefits does it offer for marriage? –Governments rely on stable/productive citizens. –Such citizens are formed in family life, therefore, governments want to support families. One way to do this is to recognize and give benefits to married people who form families. Healthy families = healthy society –Giving tax benefits, estate benefits, social security, Medicare, and disability for your spouse, insurance benefits through spouses employer, medical benefits (visiting privileges or decision making), adoption, death benefits

29. Church and Marriage Why does the Church recognize marriage? What benefits does it offer for marriage? –The Church sees marriage as the fulfillment of God’s plan for man and woman. (Unity, procreation, getting to heaven, etc.) –Fulfilling God’s plan leads to happiness. The Church wants there to be people and for them to be happy. (Not just the feeling, but truly happy) –Benefits: opportunity to show Christ’s love in the world, community, the grace of the sacraments

30. Gay Marriage Is it that gay couples want government recognition and benefits? Is it that they want Church recognition and benefits? If it’s about government, then why should the government recognize or not recognize it? If it’s about Church, then why should the Church recognize or not recognize it? Perhaps the distinction between the different views of marriage need to be made clearer to our society. How might this be accomplished?

31. http://www.patheos.com/blogs/badcatholic/ 2011/12/why-gay-marriage-is-a-bad- idea.htmlhttp://www.patheos.com/blogs/badcatholic/ 2011/12/why-gay-marriage-is-a-bad- idea.html The attempt to seek adoption rights is disordered as well. Is it better for a child to grow up in a dysfunctional family or with two moms or two dads who love them? This is a moot point. Both of those cases are disordered and dysfunctional so the answer is a child should not grow up in either.

32. Gay Marriage and Parenting “There is not enough research to definitely show that homosexual parenting is worse than traditional parenting. Similarly, there is not enough research to definitely show that homosexual parenting is equal to traditional parenting.” –Marc Barnes Did Paul VI needs scientific research to know that contraception would lead to bad things? Do we necessarily need such research to know that “gay marriage” would undermine marriage and the family?

33. Why do children need both sexes for parents? –Complementarity. –Nurture and discipline “The lack of a mom and a dad has been shown to be the foremost problem in single-parent families. Same-sex marriages — by default, not by failure — lack in this same regard.” –Marc Barnes Does a mom and dad guarantee the children will be raised well? Of course not. But would gay marriage increase their chances or provide more obstacles?