1. Mentoring within Your SIG Barbara A. Biedrzycki NP SIG Coordinator-Elect

2. Conceptually  Greek mythology… Athena (Mentor) & Telemachus  Trusted friend and teacher  Enduring

3. Essential Elements for Mentoring Relationships Honor Encouragement Security Respect & admiration Effective communication Fighting by the rules Correct criticism Scott, S. (2004). Mentored by a millionaire

4. Critical Mentoring Skills  Active listening  Giving feedback  Managing conflict Brockband, A. & McGill, I. (2006). Facilitating reflective learning through mentoring and coaching

5. Four Basic Personality Types  LOGB  Enhance strengths  Understand weaknesses  Facilitate effective communication  Promote happiness and success Scott, S. (2004). Mentored by a millionaire  Giving feedback  Managing conflict Brockband, A. & McGill, I. (2006). Facilitating reflective learning through mentoring and coaching

6. Communication Pitfalls We…  don’t ask  procrastinate  say “I’m sorry”  say “I’ll try”  over-commit  use non-verbals that don’t work Gaddis, S. (2007). The Communications Doctor Offers Remedies for 11 Things that Hurt Women’s Career Success.

7. Communication Methods  In person meetings  Phone calls  Traditional mail  Electronic mail

8. Effective E-mails  Salutation, subject & sensitivity  Clear, concise & clever  Spacing, spelling & signature  Carbon copies E. I. E. I. O. Gaddis, S. (2007). Prescriptions for Effective E-mail

9. Edison’s Creative Persistence  Define “it” in writing  Enumerate the broad ramifications  Infuse your dreams into the hearts & minds of others  Expect criticism, problems, & failures  Use these to develop creative alternatives  Recognize a three-legged horse Scott, S. (2004). Mentored by a millionaire

10. Criticism ??? Consider…  Source  Accuracy  Responsibility for response  Mine for gold Scott, S. (2004). Mentored by a millionaire

11. Steps in SIG Mentoring  Tune into WIFM  Recruit a mentee  Agree on a plan  Be positive & available  Know when to stop

12. “ Tune your Radio to WIFM ”  WIFM – “ What ’ s In it For Me? ”  Be cognizant of all reasons

13. Recruit a Mentee  Expressed interest  Networking  No interest

14. Agree on a Plan  Realistic goals  Flexibility  Time and time again

15. Be Positive & Available  On being “there”  You are not alone  Turning a situation around

16. Know When to Stop Lead … and then follow

17. Collegial Advice  Know your ONS resources  Connect with other SIG leaders  Stay organized  Keep up with deadlines  Involve others with the work…. ……It is a team sport!

18. Mentoring is an honor. Except for love, there is no greater gift one can give than the gift of growth. It is a rare privilege to help another learn, have the relevant wisdom useful to another, and have someone who can benefit from that wisdom...Chip A. Bell, 1986.