1. www.SafePlace.org Take a Seat and Let’s Talk: Assertive Communication with Personal Care Attendants

2. www.SafePlace.org Personal Care Services Who does it ?

3. www.SafePlace.org Defining the Relationship Who has the power? Who makes the decisions? Who is responsible?

4. www.SafePlace.org Personal Care Attendant RightsResponsibilities

5. www.SafePlace.org Person with a Disability RightsResponsibilities

6. www.SafePlace.org You have the right to have safe and healthy relationships with people you care about and who support you!

7. www.SafePlace.org What are the qualities of a safe and healthy relationship?

8. www.SafePlace.org http://web.wm.edu/sexualassault/swf/equality_wheel/equality_wheel.html Safe and Healthy Relationship Qualities

9. www.SafePlace.org A safe and healthy relationship starts with YOU!

10. www.SafePlace.org Know what is important to you

11. www.SafePlace.org Know what is important when you are with other people

12. www.SafePlace.org Definition: Assertive Communication It is the straightforward and open expression of a person’s needs, desires, thoughts and feelings.

13. www.SafePlace.org Advocate for your Needs While Still Respecting the Needs of Others

14. www.SafePlace.org Assertive communication tips (if you are able): Listen Use firm, relaxed voice, volume according to place Use direct eye contact Stand or sit straight, balanced, open body posture "I" statements ("I need", "I don't like") Express your thoughts and feelings directly Ask for cooperation ("What do you think about this?” )

15. www.SafePlace.org  Have them  Set them Boundaries

16. www.SafePlace.org Tasks Identify one task Describe how you need or want this task to be done

17. www.SafePlace.org Tasks Identify one task Describe how you need or want this task to be done

18. www.SafePlace.org Red Flags of Unsafe and Unhealthy Relationship Identify one red flag Describe what you can do to be safe

19. www.SafePlace.org If You Feel Unsafe 1.Trust your instincts 2.Talk with trusted adults 3.Plan for your safety 4.Think about making a report

20. www.SafePlace.org Domestic Violence and Rape Crisis Programs in Texas Texas Council on Family Violence www.tcfv.orgwww.tcfv.org 512.794.1133 Texas Association Against Sexual Assault www.taasa.org www.taasa.org 512.474.7190

21. www.SafePlace.org Safety Plan Reduce the risk of violence Maintain basic human needs Individualized Varies with circumstances

22. www.SafePlace.org SafePlace Disability Services Fact Sheets Free download in various formats https://www.safeplace.org/sslpage.aspx?pid=792 Suggestions:  Identifiers of Caregiver Abuse  Indicators and Reactions to Abuse and Neglect

23. www.SafePlace.org Report Abuse Complaint  State supported living facility, community MHMR center, or a private intermediate care facility for persons with an intellectual disability group home, call 1-800-252-5400  Home and Community-based Services or Texas Home Living Waiver, call 1-800-647-7418 www.txabusehotline.org

24. www.SafePlace.org Resource National Domestic Violence Hotline  safety planning  domestic violence centers referral www.ndvh.org 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) TTY 1-800-787-3224

25. www.SafePlace.org Cema Mastroleo, M.Ed. 512.356.1588 cmastroleo@SafePlace.org SafePlace is ending sexual and domestic violence through safety, healing, prevention and social change. 24-hour Hotline: 512.267.SAFE (7233) For Deaf/HH/Deaf-Blind community, please use relay/VRS www.SafePlace.org