2. Marriage Preparation 1. Analyze pros and cons of single living. 2. Identify various times throughout the life cycle when one may live alone. 3. Identify characteristics that are desirable in selecting a partner

3. Single Living Activity Class divided in ½ Class divided in ½ Right half: Pros of living alone Right half: Pros of living alone Left half: Cons of living alone Discuss

4. Single Living Times when one might live as a single: Times when one might live as a single: ◊Single as a youth living with parents ◊Out of high school: roommates or parents ◊Own apartment…your choice ◊Divorce or separation ◊Death of spouse ◊Other circumstances

5. Why People Marry 1. Trapped: pregnancy, promises, engagement 2. Escape: get out of house or bad situation 3. Obligation: must marry because of sexual activity 4. Status change: moving, going to college, graduating, decide it’s time 5. Set-Variable: find the person you think is right…time for marriage

6. Why People Marry…Cont. 6. Pity: pity and love are 2 close emotions, some people can’t distinguish the difference. 7. Love: vital emotion in marriage 8. Pressure: getting older, fear not getting married 9. Companionship: need of companionship 10. Money: financially stable, want that stability 11. Family: want spouse and family 12. Common history: dated so long…next step is marriage http://studio5.ksl.com/?nid=54&sid=5636386http://studio5.ksl.com/?nid=54&sid=5636386 http://studio5.ksl.com/?nid=54&sid=5636386 http://studio5.ksl.com/?nid=54&sid=5636386

7. Qualities in a Partner Things to consider when thinking about qualities in your future partner. Be selective: effect the rest of your life. Make a list before you develop a relationship: Objectivity is lost when you fall in Love. Find the right person, do not try to change the person. Become the kind of person you want to marry.

8. Poem: by Shel Silverstein “The Dirtiest Man in the World” What is the attitude of this man? What can he do to change it?

9. Just a thought You attract what you are-NOT what you want. You attract what you are-NOT what you want.