1. LASTING EFFECTS OF CHILDHOOD SEXUAL EXPERIENCES IN MEN’S LIVES © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org

2. Review useful skills to work effectively with male survivors Highlight social and cultural pressures that impact male survivors Describe some effects of sexual victimization on male survivors Identify personal challenges and confront misconceptions that might impact working effectively with male survivors. 2 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org GOALS

3. You will be able to: Name some new resources for male survivors and describe what is available through that resource Describe some possible long-term effects of sexual abuse on men Identify social and cultural norms that may inhibit male survivors from reaching out for help 3 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org OBJECTIVES

4. Describe some skills that are particularly relevant to working with male survivors Name some ways that working with male survivors MAY differ significantly from working with female survivors Describe how a friend or family member might be impacted by a male survivor’s experience and what might be useful to them 4 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org OBJECTIVES (CONTINUED)

5. 1 in 3 Girls, 1 in 6 Boys. 17/100 Boys 33/100 Girls 50/200 Children 5 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org ONE THIRD OF ALL CHILDREN WHO ARE SEXUALLY ABUSED ARE BOYS

6. 6 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org WHERE ARE ALL THE GUYS?

7. Fear, Sadness, and Depression 7 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org EMOTIONS AND INEFFECTIVE COPING MECHANISMS

8. Ineffective coping mechanisms: Alcohol Drugs Food Work Pornography Unsafe Sexual Practices Risky Physical Activities Issues with Anger Management 8 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org EMOTIONS AND INEFFECTIVE COPING MECHANISMS Suicide Physical Violence Sexual Violence

9. The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. 9 © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org MISSION

10. 10 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org 1IN6.ORG

11. Words Shape, Define, and Categorize an Experience. “Male Survivor” “Unwanted” or “Abusive” “Victim” “Predator” 11 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org LANGUAGE

12. 12 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org WHAT MIGHT BE DIFFERENT ABOUT WORKING WITH MALE SURVIVORS?

13. Boys, Men, and Sexual Abuse 13 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org CLEARING UP SOME STEREOTYPES

14. Men’s Fear of Being Seen as a Sexual Perpetrator 14 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org THE TRUTH ABOUT VAMPIRES

15. 15 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org “BE A MAN!” WHAT’S THAT MEAN? © John A. Stewart

16. Sex is defined by the biological organs that we’re born with, most often male or female Gender (or Gender Identity) is a person’s understanding of themselves as a man, a woman or another gender identity Sexual Orientation is who someone is attracted to, often described in terms of gay, lesbian, bisexual, or straight 16 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org IF I’M NOT A MAN, THEN WHAT AM I?

17. WAIT! SO AM I GAY? 17 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org

18. 18 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org SO WAIT! AM I STRAIGHT?

19. Patience Active Listening Respect Coping Mechanisms Check Your own Feelings Stay Neutral Don’t Judge Avoid Labels Caring Attitude 19 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org USEFUL SKILLS FOR WORKING WITH MALE SURVIVORS

20. Depression Sexual Compulsivity Multiple Victimization Addictions Problems in Relationships 20 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org COMMON EFFECTS OF SEXUAL ABUSE ON MEN

21. Feelings of Isolation – Limited Resources Struggling with Reactive Thoughts or Behaviors Gender Identity Questions Homophobia 21 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org COMMON EFFECTS OF SEXUAL ABUSE ON MEN (CONTINUED)

22. 22 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org PARTNERS, FRIENDS, AND FAMILY MEMBERS © John A. Stewart

23. 23 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org FINDING RESOURCES

24. 24 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org SELF-CARE

25. Books: Lew, Mike. (2004) Victims No More: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse. (oriented toward survivors) Gartner, Richard. (2001) Betrayed as Boys: Psychodynamic Treatment of Sexually Abused Men (oriented toward professionals) 25 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org ADDITIONAL RESOURCES

26. Websites: www.1in6.org Website of 1in6 Information for survivors and friends/family members/partners/spouses www.MaleSurvivor.org Caveat—lots of interesting information, but it does have some functions that require a login and password, which means that survivors can’t use it anonymously. It also has a therapist locator, but these therapists don’t go through a certification process, they are just therapists who say that they are able to work with male survivors 26 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org ADDITIONAL RESOURCES

27. More Websites: www.JimHopper.com Website of 1in6 advisory board member Dr. Jim Hopper. Academic information about male survivors in accessible language RichardGartner.com Website of 1in6 advisory board member Dr. Richard Gartner. Links to articles and interviews, both academic and for public consumption 27 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org ADDITIONAL RESOURCES

28. More Websites: arte-sana.com Website for Arte Sane (art heals), a national, Latina-led non- profit committed to ending sexual violence. Resources in Spanish for survivors of rape and sexual and domestic violence: arte-sana.com/recursos.htm#EXISTE%20AYUDA 28 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org ADDITIONAL RESOURCES

29. Articles: A Consumer’s Guide to Therapist Shopping http://www.malesurvivor.org/consumers-guide.html Resource on finding a therapist who is appropriate for the individual. Discusses how to know if a therapist is appropriate and what to do if you encounter one who is not. The Men’s Project http://themensproject.ca/index.ph?auto_slide=&ID=120&L ang=En&Parent_ID=&current_slide_num= Collection of articles on male survivors. 29 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org ADDITIONAL RESOURCES

30. CONTACT INFORMATION www.1in6.org Steve LePoreSteve@1in6.org Executive Director Peter PollardPeter@1in6.org Training and Outreach Director 30 The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives. © 2011 1in6, Inc. All Rights Reserved | www.1in6.org | training@1in6.org