1. Bullying Christine Petrillo, MsEd. - School Counseling - TEI Instructor

2. Things to Consider & Think About 1. characteristics of bullying - what does bullying look like? - identifying behaviors & attitudes 2. who does bullying effect? 3. where does it show itself? 4. what is the prevalence of bullying in our school & community 5. when does bullying take place? 6. why does bullying occur? 7. can bullying be prevented? 8. can the cycle be interrupted? 9. what are the components of change? 10. where can we lean more about bully prevention programs? 11. can we evaluate our own progress? should we? 12. why is it important to intervene?

3. BULLYING – WHAT ARE THE CHARACTERISTICS OF A BULLY???

4. WHAT DOES BULLYING LOOK LIKE???

6. Characteristics of Bullying http://www.wordle. net/show/wrdl/2800 561/the_bully http://www.wordle. net/show/wrdl/2800 561/the_bully

7. Bullying is about …. Being a Power player User or threat of use of force, physical, verbal or both Alienating / isolating My way or the highway Rigid / Narrow - One dimensional view Lacking empathy Self-serving EXAMPLES: pushing, shoving, tripping, poking, punching, tantrums, ignoring, talking behind back, left handed compliments, putdowns, name calling, internet abuse…. Lies, rumors, storytelling, isolation, threats, etc. Who are the bullies?

8. WHAT DOES BULLYING LOOK LIKE? http://www.wordle.net/show/wrdl/2800 234/bullying http://www.wordle.net/show/wrdl/2800 234/bullying http://www.wordle.net/show/wrdl/2800 271/bullying2 http://www.wordle.net/show/wrdl/2800 271/bullying2 http://www.wordle.net/show/wrdl/2800 361/bullying3 http://www.wordle.net/show/wrdl/2800 361/bullying3

9. clips http://abclocal.go.com/wabc/story?secti on=news/local&id=7448701 http://abclocal.go.com/wabc/story?secti on=news/local&id=7448701 http://www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/ki ds/ http://www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/ki ds/ http://www.ancomm.com/code_of_silen ce/index.html?gclid=CMWujtGwxKUCFQ jd4Aod1XzGYA http://www.ancomm.com/code_of_silen ce/index.html?gclid=CMWujtGwxKUCFQ jd4Aod1XzGYA

12. Who are the bullies and who do bullies effect? The Bullied The Bully The Bystanders The Community School Home Community at large

13. where & when can bullying happen? For younger kids – For pre-teens – For high school kids – For college kids – For adults -

14. Why does bullying happen? What conditions are present?  Insecurity  Self-promotion  Fear  Neediness  Bullied gone bully (abused becomes abuser)  Learning  Inability to express feelings  Prejudicial & bias attitudes, discriminating behaviors  Lack of accountability  Lack of teaching  Punishment without teaching  Lack of consistency  Minimization: A culture of tolerance for bullying (spoken or unspoken).  http://www.wordle.net/show/wrdl/2803149/bullies2 http://www.wordle.net/show/wrdl/2803149/bullies2

15. Can the cycle of bullying be… Prevented: Interrupted:

17. Components for change Philosophical - mission statement Action based – common language, expectations & rules, action/reaction plan, actual program implementation, exercises, recognition, rewards, accountability & consequences at: Home School Peer groups Community

18. Components of Change: Plan of action: what can we do? Self-created: Home, School, Community - Expectations/philosophy - Action plan that promotes awareness, empowerment, accountability

19. Rules for Relationships: Summer Leadership Training Model – Robert Petrillo Share openly - feelings, thoughts, behaviors. No put-downs, low-blows, or power-plays. Label all behaviors, they aren’t always good. Don’t side with someone to protect yourself. Don’t talk about anyone who is not in the room. Own your own behavior. Take responsibility for your words and actions. Accept the responsibility of model and exemplar… you are what you do. Respect yourself. Do a hard thing every day.

20. A Foundation in Respect For self: what does it look like? For others: what does it look like? How to gain it? How to give it away? Examples, examples, examples. they need to be genuine, sincere, authentic. http://www.wordle.net/show/wrdl/2800450/respect

21. Resources: Website worth checking out http://stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/kids/signs-that-you-bully.aspxttp://stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/kids/signs-that-you-bully.aspx http://stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/kids/signs-that-you-bully.aspx http://www.ancomm.com/code_of_silence/index.html http://www.ancomm.com/igeneration/index.html http://www.ancomm.com/code_of_silence/white_paper_a_strategy_for _safer_schools.asp http://www.ancomm.com/code_of_silence/white_paper_a_strategy_for _safer_schools.asp http://blogs.smarter.com/babieskids/2009/06/04/helping-your-kids- deal-with-bullying/ http://blogs.smarter.com/babieskids/2009/06/04/helping-your-kids- deal-with-bullying/ http://aacap.org/page.ww?name=Bullying&section=Facts+for+Familie s http://aacap.org/page.ww?name=Bullying&section=Facts+for+Familie s http://www.parentsconnect.com/parenting/bullying.html?kw=bullying& xrs=paid-google-ChildBehavior-Bullying-PhysicalBullying-bullying http://www.parentsconnect.com/parenting/bullying.html?kw=bullying& xrs=paid-google-ChildBehavior-Bullying-PhysicalBullying-bullying http://www.stopcyberbulling.org/why-do-kids-cyberbully-each- other.html http://www.stopcyberbulling.org/why-do-kids-cyberbully-each- other.html http://www.adl.org/education/edu_awod/default.asp

22. More Resources: Response to Intervention: http://www.rti4success.org/http://www.rti4success.org/ Positive Behavioral Interventions and Supports: http://www.pbis.org/ http://www.pbis.org/ Peace Builders – bully prevention program: http://www.peacebuilderscom/ http://www.peacebuilderscom/ Bully Busters – teacher based bullying prevention: http://www.researchpress.com/product/item/5192/ http://www.researchpress.com/product/item/5192/ Olweus Bullying Prevention Program – http://www.clemson.edu/olweus/ http://www.clemson.edu/olweus/ Caring School Community – school connectedness: http://www.devstu.org/page/caring-school-community http://www.devstu.org/page/caring-school-community Anti-Defamation League – No Place for Hate: http://www.adl.org/npfh_philadelphia/

23. FOCUS: Where do we go from here? Home, school partnership Identify Intervene Prevent http://www.wordle.net/show/wrdl/2803362/schools